6 Tips to Stay Cool While Having Hot Sex in Scorching Heat

Cool Down the Room

If you have AC where you live, crank it up and cool down the room where you intend to get hot and heavy.

Set your room to a temperature that feels comfortable — for many that’s around 68–72°F. Fans, AC, or even just a cross-breeze can help keep the mood cool without distraction.

Let the Breeze In

Opening the windows to create a cross-breeze is a great way to instantly bring relief from the heat. The cool breeze hits your overheated, sweaty skin and instantly cools you down. So, why not take advantage of this option when engaging in a sexy activity? Whether you’re playing by yourself or with a partner, the breeze will cool you down and enhance your comfort. You may choose to do this in private, by keeping the curtains drawn, or if you are into exhibitionism, keep them open and invite prying eyes that will undoubtedly amp up your arousal.

Use a Cooling Lube

You may think you don’t need lube when you’re so turned on, but hey, it’s summer, so cooling down is virtually required. Do you know that you can combine these two sensations by using a cooling lubricant? Yes, it is a real thing, and you can find plenty of water-based cooling lubes, or even silicone-based lubes with added mint that provide a cooling sensation once they hit the skin.

Some lubes are infused with cooling ingredients like menthol or peppermint. These can feel tingly and refreshing, but they can also be intense or irritating. Always patch-test on your arm first, and make sure your partner is on board before using them intimately.

Ice, Ice Baby

Ice can be used in many ways during sex, especially when it is scorching hot outside and you want to cool down for a bit while increasing the hotness factor. You can start by placing some ice cubes in a bowl on the nightstand and use them to rub your partner’s skin and cool them down. Watch as the ice melts on their skin and follow the cooling drops with your tongue. Another way to provide a refreshing sensation to your partner is to take an ice cube into your mouth for a few moments and then use your cooled tongue to tease their overheated skin.

Toss your sheets or pillowcases in the freezer for a short chill (15–20 minutes) before play. Avoid damp or wet fabric, which can feel clammy or harbor bacteria. A quick cool-down is refreshing without being uncomfortable.

Jump In the Shower

While shower sex is not all that glamorous as it is depicted in movies and novels, it can be handy to cool down as you get hot and heavy. Step into the shower and adjust the water to a comfortable temperature (not too cold, as it can ruin your pleasure), and enjoy yourself.

You can get a waterproof vibrator, a shower-friendly dildo, or another sex toy and get yourself the orgasm you crave. Alternatively, get your partner and use the shower together to conserve water. We recommend trying a standing doggy style pose or enjoying oral play in the shower, as it can be slippery and dangerous to attempt other positions.

The Best Positions for Minimal Contact & Maximum Effect

We saved this tip for last, as we plan to discuss this in more detail. You can start by lying down beside your partner and discussing your sexual fantasies. As things progress and become more heated, you can begin to masturbate, so you won’t need to touch each other and become overheated.

Masturbating while your partner is watching can be really, really hot; you can show your partner how you like to be touched and pleased without sticking to each other. Mutual masturbation is a great way to show your partner how you use your favorite toys, so we recommend whipping out your trusty wand vibrator or rabbit vibrator, giving them a show that will make their blood boil. But if you really, really like to have sex, then opt for positions that minimize full-body contact — think spooning, doggy, or oral play. Less skin-on-skin means less sweat, and more stamina for the fun parts:

• Oral Play – you can engage in oral sex in so many ways, as you are only limited by your imagination. One suggestion is to have one partner on their knees and the other standing, with only the critical parts touching. Another possible option for oral play is to take advantage of a cooling shower and combine it with oral play; one partner down on their knees on the cool tiles, and the other standing under a cooling spray of water. Switch places when you’re done, so you both are satisfied, refreshed, and cooled down.
• Doggy Style – the doggy style sex pose is reliable and can be pretty effective when you are having sex in a hot AF environment. It allows you to control the amount of skin-to-skin contact and enables air to circulate you. We recommend opting for a standing doggy style pose, as you can choose how close you are to the sheets and which other body parts touch, ensuring the highest possible comfort. Spice up this pose further by trying it in the shower, or if you’re feeling daring, try it in front of a window, allowing the breeze to cool you down.

• Reverse Cowgirl – The reverse cowgirl pose is a great one, as it allows the partner on top to decide how deep they want the penetration to be, and they have control over the grinding and thrusting actions. We recommend this pose for hot weather, as it is a low-contact sex pose where only the good parts touch and there is no extra contact, like sweaty chests sticking to each other. Plus, the view from behind is phenomenal. You can make this more comfortable for the partner lying down by using cooling sheets. For this, place slightly dampened bed sheets in the freezer for about 30 minutes, and then spread them on the bed and enjoy the extraordinary sensations on your skin.
• Sideways/Doggy Spoon – the spoon sex pose boosts intimacy and provides the option to experience maximum sensations. We recommend the classic spoon pose for couples who don’t mind getting close to their partner even in the muggy summer heat and want to enjoy slow, lazy thrusts and wandering hands all over their body. If the heat becomes too intense, we recommend repositioning slightly to achieve greater comfort. Position your body lying on your side, but curl up like you are in a doggy style position. Your partner needs to have their body in a similar position, and they’ll penetrate you from behind, getting into a tight-fitting space and awakening all your nerve endings. If you want to make things even more interesting, then we recommend you get some cooling lube and have them rub your vulva, matching their thrusts from behind. Or, use a bullet or a finger vibrator on the clit for more sensations and pleasure. Consider using cooled sheets for this pose as well, as you can both enjoy the refreshing effect on your skin.

The Bottom Line

Even if it is the height of summer and the heat can be oppressive, there is no need to sacrifice sexual pleasure. You need to know the best tricks to make you and your partner more comfortable during intimacy. We shared some tips on how to stay cool during sex in summer, and we invite you to check out our list for the best sex toys to use in the heat.

Read through our blog, where you’ll find a lot more helpful guides on choosing and using different sex toys. Feel free to browse our sex toy store where provide an impressive selection of dildos, vibrators, male sex toys, anal sex toys, BDSM tools, sexy lingerie, lubes and essentials, and all else you may need for better sex.