Guide to Edging: How to Do It?

What is Edging?

Edging is a sexual practice where you engage in sexual stimulation up to the point of climaxing, stopping, and then starting again. The goal is to build up anticipation and stimulate the nerve endings. You can try edging alone or with a partner, as this is such a powerful practice that it can lead to highly satisfying pleasure. It is beneficial for people with premature ejaculation or other sexual performance issues, which we’ll cover in more detail below. Edging is also a practice that can help people experience more profound pleasure, open up to sexual experimentation, and build up confidence.

How to Try Edging?

Trying edging is simple, but you need to be focused and know what you are doing. Firstly, you need to listen to your body and be able to recognize the signs that will tell you when to take a break and when to continue with the stimulation. If you are trying edging with a partner, then make sure you communicate about every little change that happens so you get it right. Here we share a guide on how to experiment with edging and reap the fantastic results:

Start-Stop-Start

The first and easiest way to do edging is to try solo play and use the start-stop-start method. For this, we recommend the following scenario:

Masturbating Alone

• Lock your door, turn off your phone, and put on some music that gets you in the mood;
• Get in your most comfortable position and start touching yourself, using all the ways your body gets aroused;
• Start masturbating, stroke your penis (men), or massage your clitoris (women). Do this until you are ready to orgasm;
• When you feel like you are about to orgasm, take your hands away for a while, usually for about 30 seconds to a minute, leaving your body time to get down from the stimulation;
• Focus on the sensations you experience in your body, like tension, excitement, or another feeling;
• Get back in the mood and start touching yourself again. You can stroke yourself to orgasm after just one stop-and-start cycle, but if you want, you can try this a couple of times;
• When you feel you’ve reached your limit, then do the things that get you to orgasm and try to see if you think something different about the intensity of your orgasm. You may also experience orgasms that last longer than usual.

Masturbating with a partner

• If you masturbate with a partner, then engage in all the usual foreplay that gets you in the mood. Try things like oral sex, licking, sucking the erogenous zones, or any other activity;
• When the partner is sufficiently aroused, ask them when they are about to come or watch for their usual signs of orgasming;
• Reduce or stop the sexual stimulation and leave them for a few moments, allowing them to get down from the edge of orgasm;
• Then, resume the stimulation, bringing them to the brink of an orgasm again. If you want, you can get them to orgasm or stop and leave them to rest, repeating the process a few times. On the last cycle, make sure you provide all the stimulation that will get them to orgasm and watch them writhe in orgasmic bliss far longer than what they are used to.

Edging for men

There are two general methods you can apply edging to men, and we’ll explain both here:

• Squeeze method – get aroused and start stroking your penis. Just before your orgasm starts, squeeze the head of the penis and stop the orgasm. Wait for about 30 seconds, and then continue stimulating yourself anew until you reach an orgasm.
• Ballooning – ballooning is not exactly a way to reach an orgasm, but it is a way to train your body and stamina and help prevent any premature ejaculation issues. The whole goal of ballooning is to get to the cusp of orgasm and then refrain from cumming, as a form of orgasm control. It is easy to try, as you only need to find the most sensitive part of the penis and focus all your attention on this area. Gently circle that area with your finger and keep rubbing until you are hard and feel your orgasm building. Just before you start to orgasm, stop the stimulation. Rest for a few moments, continue again, and repeat as many times as you want without reaching an orgasm.

When to Come When Edging?

Wondering when it is time to orgasm when you try edging? Well, there are no rules on letting yourself of your partner sum, as it comes to personal preference and experience. Beginners may try to edge one or two times before they cum, while experienced users can try edging multiple times before orgasm. The anticipation and the build-up toward orgasm intensify the sensations.

But edging takes a prominent place in many BDSM games, especially sex games involving orgasm denial and orgasm control. The edging and the orgasm denial plays may last a long time, especially in situations where the submissive partner needs to complete a task set by the Dominant partner.

However, the most universal rule we can share when it comes to edging is to stop if it becomes tedious or painful.

Benefits from Edging

Edging brings several potential benefits that most people enjoy, and each of these is worth it. Here we list the main ones and why you should consider incorporating edging into your sexual routine:

• More Intense Orgasms – edging can increase the body’s sensitivity, which, in turn, intensifies the intensity of the orgasm. As you can try edging either alone or with a partner, we believe you will find new dimensions to such sexual plays that you’ve not felt before. You can also try to engage in some edging before you engage in partnered sex, as the increased sensitivity will undoubtedly make your orgasms more intense.
• Sexual exploration – edging as a form of sexual play is excellent for broadening your sexual horizons. It is also a way to try new things and to touch, stroke, and stimulate with your partner. Because edging involves a good deal of trust, it also helps build trust and confidence in your partner. It allows the chance to learn new things about your partner, which can be particularly useful in people in long-term relationships where sex has become stale.
• Improved duration of sex – edging helps people not to orgasm too quickly, which means they will last longer when having sex. Lengthening the time for intercourse can also be beneficial for changing the dynamic between the partners. It turns the focus away from the orgasm, allowing you to devote yourself more to the enjoyment at the moment.

Possible Adverse Effects of Edging

There are no harmful side effects from edging. However, there are some instances where too long an edging session can cause chafing on the sensitive skin of the penis or the vagina, but this is easily preventable by using a good amount of water-based lube.

Too-long edging sessions can cause blue balls in men – the situation where the blood builds up in the testicles when the man is aroused for too long without ejaculation. We have to note that you should never place edging as a priority in a sexual relationship, as some people don’t enjoy it and find it overly stimulating. In such cases, it is safer and more comfortable to go the regular sex route than to focus on edging.

The Bottom Line

Edging is a sexual method that many people practice, and it is a highly stimulating and satisfying thing to do. You can do it alone or with a partner and use your hands or even use vibrators or other sex toys to stimulate yourself or your partner and reach the pre-orgasmic state before you take a break and start anew. When you apply edging properly, you are bound to experience more intense orgasms that last longer than usual.

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