How to Choose a BDSM Cane?

What is a BDSM Cane?

A BDSM cane is, as the name suggests, a cane used in BDSM plays. It is a straightforward implement used for pain or pleasure and for psychological games many BDSM couples enjoy. The cane can be made from leather, wood, metal, nylon, rattan, bamboo, or fiberglass, and each material has its properties and different effects. We’ll talk more about using these below, and now let’s discuss the key points to know when selecting a suitable cane.

How to Select a BDSM Cane?

Selecting a cane is an interesting and exciting process, as there are many things to consider. The BDSM cane is much more than a stick you can hit your sub with, and you need to know that different materials bring different effects. Here are the foremost selection factors:

• Cane Material – basically, you can select between natural and synthetic materials. The natural materials are wood, bamboo, and rattan; these canes look and feel authentic. Synthetic materials are nylon, metal, or plastic. These are more versatile and can be used to inflict various sensations.
• Cane Length – you can select a short cane that is easier to control, and you can stand closer to your sub with a shorter cane. If you get a longer cane, you can deliver a more significant, more intense impact.
• Cane Handle – the handle is where you grasp and control the cane. The models with a straight handle are easier to use and are very popular. The models with crooked handles are like the canes that were used in schools in the old days, and these are popular for role play and with users who like the vintage look.
• Cane Flexibility – you can get a stiff cane that is easy to control, and this is a model recommended for beginners, but please note that these are heavier and bring a thudding effect. The flexible canes require more experience to use; these are thin and stingy and are often made from synthetic materials.
• The Desired Effect – you can select a cane depending on the effect you wish to inflict. You can get a model that brings a thudding effect, delivering an intense massage and bruising. The other option is to get a cane that delivers a stingy effect, like an intense pain that dissipates quickly.

How to Use a BDSM Cane?

Caning is commonly used in BDSM plays, and it can be a form of corporeal punishment or sensual tapping. Before you use a cane with your partner, make sure you establish clear communication and set the limits you both are comfortable with. Here are some essential tips on how to use a BDSM cane and some expert advice on where to focus the cane:

• Set limits and start slow, with light strikes – always begin slowly, with light tapping, and gradually increase the intensity of the strikes.
• Aim for fleshy parts of the body – when you cane someone, aim for the fleshy parts of the body like the buttocks, the thighs, and the back of the legs, as there is a lot of muscle here that can take the hits.
• Avoid hitting the spine and joints – don’t hit the bony body parts, like the spine and joints, as you can injure your partner.
• Pay attention to your partner’s reactions – always be present and pay close attention to your partner’s reactions and communicate through the activity, being aware of any discomfort.
• Alternate the strikes between different body areas – don’t focus all the strikes in one place to avoid over-stimulating and even hurting your partner.
• Aftercare is essential – as with any other BDSM play, aftercare is necessary when you cane someone. It involves physical care, like applying ice or soothing cream, and emotional care, like providing praise and discussing the experience.

We covered the basics of how to choose a BDSM cane, and we also touched upon using a cane with some tips and tricks. We have also prepared a lot more how-to choose and how-to-use guides for you. We also invite you to check out our sex toy store, and we promise you will be impressed with the selection of BDSM canes, BDSM sex toys, sex furniture, dildos, vibrators, and so much more.

FAQs

Can a beginner use a cane?

A beginner can use a cane, but this is an activity that takes time to learn and master. As a beginner, we suggest you use a light cane, preferably one made from wood or bamboo, and practice on a pillow before you start caning your partner.

Where to aim the strikes with a cane?

Always aim the strikes where there is a lot of muscle, like the buttocks, the front, and the back of the upper legs. Avoid the areas where there is little muscle, like the back, the spine, or the hands, as you can do serious harm in these areas.

What is the best BDSM cane?

There is no single best BDSM cane, as different canes bring different sensations. Wooden canes provide a thudding sensation that is more long-lasting, while synthetic canes are more flexible and provide a stingier sensation.

Should I get a wooden or a plastic cane?

The wooden and plastic canes deliver a completely different sensation, and they also look and feel different than each other. Many hardcore BDSM practitioners opt for wooden or metal canes because they are heavier, durable, and provide harder impact. For novice users, we recommend rattan or bamboo canes as these are more flexible, and you can learn how to use them to achieve the most significant effect more quickly.

What safety guidelines do you recommend when using a BDSM cane?

We always advise you and your partner to be completely sober and present in the experience. Don’t take any drugs or alcohol when you intend to use a BDSM cane, and discuss whether your partner has any possible medical condition like arthritis or something similar. Also, focus only on the fleshy parts of the body where there are larger muscles, like the butt or the back and inner thighs. Always start with slow, light taps, gauging your partner’s reactions, and only when you both feel confident can you move to heavier hits.