How to Prepare for Pegging

How to Bring Up Pegging?

Pegging is an activity for which you need your partner’s full cooperation, and it is something you need to be open about. We advise you to have open communication with your partner and have their consent. We understand that this is not something you can simply throw out there over coffee. We recommend you start by introducing the idea and discuss why you are interested in pegging, but note that you should talk about this in a neutral location and not in the bedroom or during other sexual plays.

Talk with your partner and explain what draws you to the act. Ask if they are willing to explore things further; if they agree, then you need to continue with the talk and discuss things like the fears, doubts, and boundaries you both may have.

Maybe read this and explore online educational options together with your partner, as this can help you both relax about the topic and even learn more about it.

Get Adequate Toys

You can try pegging with fingers or with toys, and it is often that people start with just the fingers. However, if you want to do this right and reap the full benefits, you need to get a proper harness, a pegging dildo, and suitable lube.

You can get a strap-on harness separately and choose an appropriate pegging dildo, or you can get a complete strap-on pegging kit, whatever fits your fancy. We advise you to get a small pegging dildo, as the anus is a tight place that needs time to adjust to the stretching sensation, and a smaller dildo here can do a great deal.

Lube is also a must, as the anus is not self-lubricating. You must match the lube to the material of the pegging dildo you plan to use, so we recommend you get a thick water-based lube that is great with all sex toy materials.

Prep Yourself

After you and your partner agree on things, it is time to prepare for pegging. Because it is an act you do in the anus, you need to clean your anus before you try anything. Before you start anything else, you should have a bowel movement and wash everything carefully.

If you are uncertain, you can do an anal douche to make sure you rinse any potential fecal residue that may stick to the toys you use. If you do an anal douche, you should do this a couple of hours before you start playing.

It is advisable to stay away from foods that may irritate your digestive system. This tells you that pegging can’t be a spontaneous activity, as it requires some prep time, so you can both be more comfortable when things are clean. If you are worried about any potential mess, we advise you to use condoms over the pegging toys and use gloves to protect your hands.

Get Over the Psych Barrier and Enjoy

It is a common question for a straight man to question pegging, as many consider it an activity that happens between homosexual men. However, this can’t be further from the truth, as pegging is an act usually done between a man and a woman, and it involves power play and is not at all related to homosexuality. We advise you to relax and explore your bodies, and engage in some anal massage and anal fingering, teasing the muscles around the anus.

Once you are in the mood, you can start with insertion; a single lubed-up finger should be enough, and then you can continue with the pegging dildo. Listen to your body and talk to your partner, and continue slowly and do the things that please you. Breathe through the experience, relax your body, and absorb the pleasure. Explore the experience more, try different positions, and enjoy.

After you are done, continue communicating with your partner. Always remain open and clear with your partner, and always check in with them to see what worked for them and what didn’t work. Discuss what you’d like to try in the future and what you won’t be open to trying again.

We have a lot more helpful guides on pegging and choosing and using different pegging sex toys, which you can find in our blog. We also invite you to check out our sex toy store, where we have a fantastic selection of sex toys for pegging, male sex toys, dildos, vibrators, BDSM tools, lingerie, and a lot more.