How to Stimulate the Prostate with a Dildo?

What is the P-Spot (Male G-Spot)?

The prostate, also referred to as the P-spot, known as the male G-spot, is a walnut-sized muscular gland found only in males, located in the pelvis, between the rectum and the bladder. Anatomically, it is situated around the urethra where it leaves the bladder and it is adjescent to the rectum, and its primary function is to supply part of the seminal fluid and to help propel the semen from the penis.

Because of its function and location, the prostate is surrounded by numerous nerve endings. You know what that means, right? Just like other areas with a dense concentration of nerve endings (clit & penis), you can stimulate the prostate and enjoy the toe-curling pleasure. Read on to learn how to find the P-spot, how to stimulate the prostate with a dildo, and how to appease your curiosity and find pleasure like nothing else.

Finding the P-Spot!

The prostate is located in the pelvis, about two inches inside the rectum, on the front rectal wall towards the penis. To directly touch the prostate, you will have to go into the anus, and it is not as crazy as it sounds. In fact, you can go on a self-exploring adventure and try this by yourself. Or engage the help of your partner and experience a fantastic bonding and sexually liberating experience.

You can also touch the prostate gland from the outside, but this is an indirect contact. For this, you only need to press on the perineum – the skin that is between the scrotum and anus, better known as taint.

When you go to stimulate the prostate from the outside, you need to touch on the back, towards the anus, and you will initially feel a sensation like you need to pee. This is normal, as it wraps around the urethra, and the bladder is right next to the prostate, so no need to worry or stop.

When you try to stimulate the prostate from the inside, you will need to insert a finger (or a dildo or another sex toy) in the anus and press your finger on the front rectal wall, feeling for a fleshy tissue. Believe us when we say this, but you will instantly feel when you touch the prostate.

How to Stimulate the Prostate?

Now that we’ve learned where the prostate is and how to locate it, it is time for the good stuff – how to stimulate the prostate. We’ll cover the basics on how to tease the prostate with your finger and how to use a dildo to massage the P-spot. Here is our guide on prostate stimulation:

Start Slow!

You’ve heard that slow and easy wins the race, and this goes for prostate massages. Relax your body completely; if you are tense, your body will not let you enjoy it. It does not matter if you will stimulate your P-spot from the inside or the outside; you should be relaxed and in the moment.

When you locate the P-spot, you can massage it with circular motions, especially if you are stimulating it from the outside. Also, please note that it is more difficult, and it takes more time to exert enough stimulation from the outside to experience its full potential.

Milking the Prostate with a Finger!

For this, you need to insert a well-lubricated finger into the anus. If you go for manual play, we advise using latex gloves that will make things slide smoother and more hygienic. Once you insert the finger, press on the front rectal wall until you feel the changing (described as weird) sensations – your body will tell you if you are doing something wrong.

Then, apply pressure and massage the prostate as it feels pleasurable for you. You can even masturbate, use a male sex toy, or engage in other erotic play. You will feel everything that goes through your body, but if your partner performs prostate milking on you, make sure you communicate and tell them how things feel for you. It will help put you both at ease; they will know they are doing something right, and you can let go of the sensations without fear.

Our experts suggest several techniques you can apply to make the most of your prostate milking, like:

• Circling motion – using rotation is a sure way to cover a broad area and stimulate as many nerve endings as possible, so you should apply this here.
• Up-Down – move your finger up and down around the prostate in a come-hither motion. It will provide a fair amount of stimulation to the nerve endings that you’ll most likely enjoy.
• Pressure – applying varying degrees of pressure is another pleasure technique, and for this, you need to change up the pressure on the prostate. Simply imagine you are ringing a doorbell and enjoying the sensations it causes.

Stimulate the Prostate with a Dildo!

If you go the other route and decide to stimulate the prostate with a dildo, then you will need a smaller dildo that has a narrow shaft that allows easy insertion. Make sure you have lube handy, and don’t be shy with it – apply a fair amount of lube to yourself and the dildo.

Find the position you enjoy the most (more on this below), and relax. Push the dildo in the anus slowly, relishing in the stretching sensations it provides. Then, press the dildo towards the front rectal wall until you feel the sensations building. When you pinpoint where the pleasure spot is, you can move the dildo in and out, focusing on teasing the P-spot and enjoying some anal fun, or you can focus the dildo and exert pressure on the P-spot.

Add Vibrations to Prostate Play!

While you can use a regular plain dildo for prostate massage, some models take this a step further by incorporating vibrations. You can utilize a vibrating dildo to stimulate the P-spot and enjoy pleasure like nothing else.

Apart from using a vibrating dildo for prostate stimulation, you can also use specialized prostate massagers. These are sex toys that are designed to fit the rectum and target the prostate. These have all the bells and whistles you need to enjoy the toe-curling climax that can’t be compared to a penile orgasm.

The shape is anatomically correct, and the size and features of prostate toys are intended to deliver P-spot stimulation. P-spot massagers are made from body-safe materials that will put you at ease. We have to mention that there are models that have dual stimulating pads that bring simultaneous vibrations to the prostate and the perineum.

Best Positions for Prostate Stimulation

We have prepared the following suggestions of possible positions you can assume to make the entire experience more pleasurable.

• On your back: lie on your back and pull your knees towards your chest. Reach behind, toward your anus, and try to reach the P-spot with your finger or a prstate dildo Please note that this pose is best when you play with your partner, giving them the best access to your P-spot.
• Face down: assume a face-down pose and get comfortable. Then pull your legs apart slightly and reach behind your back to reach your anus, and get down to playing with your P-spot. This pose is best for solo play.
• On all fours: similar to the face-down pose, you get on all fours and reach behind your back or between your legs to reach the P-spot. This pose is good for solo and partnered play, giving your partner enough access to your behind.
• On your side: for this pose, lie on your side and bring your knee to your chest. Reach over your hips towards the perineum or the anus with your free hand and massage your P-spot. This pose is also suitable for partnered play, as your partner gets good access to your anus and prostate.

Does Prostate Stimulation Hurt?

When done correctly, prostate stimulation does not hurt. However, if you are not relaxed enough or you don’t use enough lube, you may experience some discomfort and pain. In such a case, take a break and try to relax your body, as it will be more enjoyable for you.

Also, it is expected to feel a sensation of having to pee, and to prevent this, it is better to pee before you start playing. Also, take a bathroom break if needed, as it will help relieve the pressure on your bladder and let you relax more.

Prostate Stimulation Safety Precautions

If you use fingers (yours or your partner’s), make sure the nails are clipped and there are no chipped ends, as these can hurt the skin in the rectum. It is better to use surgical gloves or a condom for this, as you will be playing with your anus and mess is a possibility. Also, it is easier to clean everything afterward.

If you decide to use a dildo for prostate stimulation, then get a pegging dildo or a dildo for men, as these have specialized shapes that allow pinpoint stimulation. Ensure you get a model made from body-safe, non-porous materials like silicone, glass, or metal.

Use a lube that is compatible with your dildo, as it will ensure you get a most pleasurable prostate massage. Don’t use hand creams or body lotions for prostate stimulation, as these contain harmful chemicals. Instead, use a quality, thick water-based lube that will provide enough glide and will be easy to clean from your body and your anal dildo.

The Bottom Line

Prostate play may not be for everyone, but you won’t know until you try it. We recommend you try it solo first to see if it is something you would be interested in. If you have open communication with your partner, nothing will stop you from experimenting together. Also, it does not matter if you are straight, gay, bi, etc., you are guaranteed to have a fantastic experience.

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