How to Stimulate the Prostate with a Dildo?

Prostate play is an excellent and enticing way to unlock immense pleasure. One of the critical benefits of milking the prostate is to reach the coveted full-body orgasm that is beyond anything you’ve felt before. Here, we will talk more about the prostate, and we’ll share invaluable advice on how you can stimulate the prostate, especially how to stimulate the prostate with a dildo!

What is the P-Spot (Male G-Spot)?

The prostate, also referred to as the P-spot or the male G-spot, is a walnut-sized muscular gland found only in males, located in the pelvis, between the rectum and the bladder. Anatomically, it is situated around the urethra where it leaves the bladder and is adjacent to the rectum. Its primary function is to supply part of the seminal fluid and to help propel the semen from the penis.

Because of its function and location, the prostate is surrounded by numerous nerve endings. You know what that means, right? Just like other areas with a dense concentration of nerve endings (clit & penis), you can stimulate the prostate and enjoy the toe-curling pleasure.

Finding the P-Spot!

The prostate is located in the pelvis, about two inches inside the rectum, on the front rectal wall towards the penis. To directly touch the prostate, you will have to go into the anus. In fact, you can go on a self-exploring adventure and try this by yourself, or engage the help of your partner.

You can also touch the prostate gland from the outside (indirect contact). For this, you only need to press on the perineum – the patch of skin between the scrotum and anus, better known as the taint.

Beginner Tips for Locating It:

• From the outside: Press on the back of the perineum, towards the anus. You might initially feel a sensation like you need to pee. This is normal because the bladder is right next to the prostate.
• From the inside: Insert a finger (or a dildo) into the anus and press toward the front wall (towards your belly button). You are feeling for a small, firm bump, similar to the tip of a nose.

How to Stimulate the Prostate?

Now that we’ve learned where the prostate is and how to locate it, it is time for the good stuff. We’ll cover the basics on how to tease the prostate with your finger and how to use a dildo to massage the P-spot.

Start Slow!

You’ve heard that slow and easy wins the race, and this goes for prostate massages. Relax your body completely; if you are tense, your body will not let you enjoy it. It does not matter if you will stimulate your P-spot from the inside or the outside; you should be relaxed and in the moment.

Milking the Prostate with a Finger

For this, you need to insert a well-lubricated finger into the anus. If you go for manual play, we advise using latex gloves that will make things slide smoother and make cleanup easier. Once you insert the finger, press on the front rectal wall using a "come hither" motion.

Our experts suggest several techniques you can apply to make the most of your prostate milking:

• Circling motion – using rotation is a sure way to cover a broad area and stimulate as many nerve endings as possible.
• Up-Down – move your finger up and down around the prostate (the "come-hither" motion). It will provide a fair amount of stimulation to the nerve endings that you’ll most likely enjoy.
• Pressure – apply varying degrees of pressure. Simply imagine you are ringing a doorbell and enjoying the sensations it causes.

Stimulate the Prostate with a Dildo

If you go the other route and decide to stimulate the prostate with a dildo, then you will need a smaller dildo that has a narrow shaft for easy insertion. Make sure you have lube handy, and don’t be shy with it – apply a fair amount of lube to yourself and the dildo.

Find the position you enjoy the most, and relax. Push the dildo in the anus slowly, relishing in the stretching sensations it provides. Then, press the dildo towards the front rectal wall until you feel the sensations building.

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Add Vibrations to Prostate Play!

While you can use a regular plain dildo for prostate massage, some models take this a step further by incorporating vibrations. You can utilize a vibrating dildo to stimulate the P-spot and enjoy pleasure like nothing else.

Apart from using a vibrating dildo for prostate stimulation, you can also use specialized prostate massagers. These are sex toys designed to fit the rectum and specifically target the prostate. The shape is anatomically correct (usually curved), intended to deliver direct P-spot stimulation hands-free.

Best Positions for Prostate Stimulation

We have prepared the following suggestions of possible positions you can assume to make the entire experience more pleasurable.

• On your back: Lie on your back and pull your knees towards your chest. Reach behind, toward your anus, and try to reach the P-spot with your finger or a prostate dildo. Please note that this pose is best when you play with your partner, giving them the best access to your P-spot.
• Face down: Assume a face-down pose and get comfortable. Then pull your legs apart slightly and reach behind your back to reach your anus. This pose is best for solo play.
• On all fours: Get on all fours and reach behind your back or between your legs to reach the P-spot. This pose is good for solo and partnered play, giving your partner enough access to your behind.
• On your side: Lie on your side and bring your knee to your chest. Reach over your hips towards the perineum or the anus with your free hand and massage your P-spot. This pose is also suitable for partnered play.

Does Prostate Stimulation Hurt?

When done correctly, prostate stimulation does not hurt. However, if you are not relaxed enough or you don’t use enough lube, you may experience some discomfort. In such a case, take a break and try to relax your body.

Also, it is expected to feel a sensation of having to pee. To prevent anxiety about this, it is better to pee before you start playing.

Prostate Stimulation Safety Precautions

• If you use fingers, make sure the nails are clipped and there are no chipped ends. It is better to use surgical gloves or a condom for hygiene and smoothness.
• If you decide to use a dildo, ensure you get a model made from body-safe, non-porous materials like silicone, glass, or metal. Always use a toy with a flared base so it doesn't get lost inside.
• Use a lube that is compatible with your dildo. Don’t use hand creams or body lotions for prostate stimulation, as these contain harmful chemicals. Instead, use a quality, thick water-based lube.

The Bottom Line

Prostate play may not be for everyone, but you won’t know until you try it. We recommend you try it solo first to see if it is something you would be interested in. If you have open communication with your partner, nothing will stop you from experimenting together. Also, it does not matter if you are straight, gay, bi, etc., you are guaranteed to have a fantastic experience.

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