What is the prostate and where is it?
The prostate or P-spot is a walnut-sized gland in the male reproductive system. It creates a fluid with a milky consistency that, when combined with sperm, forms ejaculation. The prostate can be found below the bladder and next to the rectum, allowing you to feel it via its front wall.
External prostate stimulation can be accomplished by massaging the perineum, the region between the scrotum and the anus. Although external prostate play can be enjoyable, intense prostate-induced orgasms typically require anal penetration. Insert an anal toy or finger and tilt it toward your belly button to locate the P-spot. When aroused, your prostate will fill with prostatic fluid, making it more sensitive to touch and more straightforward to find. Additionally, the prostate will have a fleshier and softer feel than the surrounding areas. Prostate-play enthusiasts claim that "hitting the P-spot" or stimulating the prostate can cause powerful, all-over orgasms.
Everybody is unique, and it certainly takes practice and time to have a P-spot orgasm, so exploring what feels good is in order. The good thing is that it's simple to reproduce once you have one.
Why does it feel so good?
You can add a whole new dimension to your sex life with the simple help of prostate and anal play. The best thing about the prostate play is that anyone with a penis can experience it. Enjoying prostate stimulation means that you are curious and open-minded enough to experience a different kind of orgasm. It has absolutely nothing to do with your sexual inclination or identity.
Some people who have experienced prostate orgasms compare the sensation to the feeling they get right before they experience a genital orgasm. Others describe it as an orgasm that is more intense or full-bodied, similar to female G-spot orgasms.
Orgasmic impulses and muscle spasms that resonate further within the body can be experienced during a P-spot orgasm, providing a sensation of emotional and more profound release. But remember that no two orgasms are the same, so try not to focus too much on what you expect to feel.
How to do it with a dildo?
Whether you're flying solo, on the receiving or giving end, a little preparation can help you make the experience pleasant.
Anal douche
The necessity to douche varies from person to person and is affected by factors such as food and the individual's physiology. Avoiding large meals during the day will help.
Now, for the actual douching:
- Fill your anal douching kit with water that is at room temperature and use the toilet.
- After a maximum of 5 seconds, squirt the water out.
- Repeat 2-3 times.
- Take a relaxing shower after that, lie on some soft towels, and you should be fine.
Pro-tip: The discomfort that could be brought on by the toy pulling a random hair is also lessened by having a clean-shaven perineum and asshole.
Start with a finger
Use your finger first because it's smaller and gives you more control as you ease into prostate play. Before beginning, cut your fingernails and cover your finger with a glove, cot, or condom if needed. It's typical to experience some minor discomfort the first few times as you get used to the anal penetration sensation, but the pain should not be too severe.
You can massage the prostate in many ways, but starting slowly and increasing pressure and pace over time is better. Try stroking the prostate with the pad of your fingertip in a "come here" motion, tapping it, stroking it in a circle, or simply applying pressure to it without moving your finger.
It is time to use a toy to stimulate your prostate now that you understand where it’s located and what it feels like. There are numerous methods for stimulating the prostate, but including a toy in the mix intensifies the orgasm and offers more options. At this point, you should feel relaxed while also being aroused. You've warmed up and found your prostate with the aid of your finger, and you have a general concept of what you're looking for.
Use pleny of lube
When engaging in any anal activity, it is necessary to use lubrication to ensure the highest level of comfort. Apply lubricant to the rim of the anus, then start masturbating while stimulating your prostate from the outside using a vibrator.
More lubricant should be used on your dildo before insertion once you feel looser.
Getting the big O
Explore the prostate using various pressures, motions, and vibrations. Put the dildo in slowly, moving it up toward your prostate. Move the toy to point in the direction of the region where you initially felt pressure while using your finger to locate your prostate. If the toy vibrates, place it on the prostate and turn it on. When you are unable to stop, apply more pressure on the prostate. Use the device while continuing to masturbate until you are prepared to orgasm. It is important to remember that there is no refractory period with playing with the prostate; hence, you are free to spend as much time as you like enjoying the sensations produced by this remarkable organ.
What if it didn't work
Remember that you'll quickly discover your preferences, but it will take time and persistence to attain a mind-blowing, toe-curling prostate orgasm.
Getting a prostate orgasm is a process. Even if you find it pleasurable and experience more intense penile stimulation, you've made significant steps forward. Remember that you are experiencing an entirely new orgasm. Give it some time.
Additional advice:
- Pay attention to how you're feeling rather than what you're not feeling.
- Practice enjoying the sensations rather than attempting to rush or hurry the process.
- Breathe slowly and approach the activity more like a meditation than a stress-relief session.
- Even though some toys may cause orgasms in some people, there is no "optimal toy" because everyone is different. Continue experimenting with various materials, sizes, and angles.
- Play around with the various vibration settings, depth, and pressure to change things.
- Using a dildo makes pressure control easier, especially when playing alone. Find your sweet spot by applying pressure as you press it against the prostate.
- Since reaching might make it challenging to go deep, depth is another area in which toys excel. Get a more extended anal dildo that you can insert as deeply as your bottom demands, or experiment with different-sized anal dildos.
- You can get a dildo with various speed and rhythm settings. To find your preference, experiment with the multiple options. As you get closer to an orgasm, turn up the vibes.
