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How to Use a Dildo for Fulfilling and Intense Orgasms

How to Use a Dildo for Fulfilling and Intense Orgasms

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The mighty dildo is an incredibly versatile and fun sex toy fit for a broad range of users. Shaped like an erect penis, a dildo helps with sexual stimulation and helps enhance pleasure either alone, playing with other sex toys, or using the dildo with a partner.

Dildos are sex toys that various people can use, as most models are designed to give the user a personalized experience to reach that satisfying and leg-shaking orgasm. For that reason, we have prepared the following guide intended to help you learn how to use a dildo, help with tips on positions, and advice on how to get the most out of your dildo.

Why Use a Dildo?

Dildos provide authenticity and versatility, and while these provide sexual stimulation, there are other reasons why you would use a dildo. Here we share a few of the reasons why would someone use a dildo:

Replicate the sensation of an actual penis

Because the dildo is designed to look and feel like an actual penis, it is perfect for replicating the realistic sensation a penis provides during intercourse. It makes them ideal for users looking to experience this feeling without actually inviting another person into their bed.

Find out what you like

Dildos are incredibly versatile and are an excellent way to help you learn about your body and your likes and dislikes. It makes dildos the perfect tool to help with new positions, angles, and ways of self-pleasure. As you explore, you will start figuring out what works and what doesn’t, which will tell you how to target and stimulate your G-spot or P-spot and achieve a deeply satisfying orgasm.

Practice

Dildos are also great for practicing your skills and testing your limits. You can also experiment with anal sex, oral sex, double penetration, role reversal, pegging, or masturbation and do this alone. Plus, using a dildo is like having pleasure on demand, quite literally. You can use it whenever you want for as long as you want, with or without breaks.

Get back into action

The dildo is always up and ready for action; even if you’ve been out of the game, you can get a dildo and get back into the action. There are various reasons why you would stay away from sex, so a dildo can give back your confidence and prepare you to become intimate with another person.

Explore a sexual fantasy

Many people are afraid to give voice to their sexy fantasies, which we think is a shame. However, if you are curious and wish to try something new and exciting, then you can get a dildo (or more) and make your fantasy into reality. Plus, a well-made dildo is a great way to spice things up with your partner and experience something new in the bedroom.

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How to Use a Dildo

The way you use a dildo depends on the type you have. However, you can follow some general steps to learn how to prepare to use a dildo, play with it, and maintain it:

  • Start Slow – it is important to start slow and easy when using your dildo. Get acquainted with your dildo and learn its shape, how it feels in the hand, and how you can use it to maximize your pleasure. If there are extra features like vibrations, test these out first and learn the controls.
  • Lube is a Necessity – we always advise you to have lube handy when using any type of sex toy, and that includes dildos. A quality water-based lube allows easier, more comfortable penetration and a more pleasant overall experience. Make sure you apply a liberal amount of lube on the entire dildo, starting from the top to the bottom. Also, apply lube on yourself, ensuring you get a more comfortable glide.
  • Penetrate and Play – once you are familiar with your dildo and are aroused enough, you can start penetration. Grip the dildo by its base or handle with your dominant hand and start with slow, shallow penetration. Give yourself enough time to get used to the sensation of being filled and listen to your body.
  • Don’t rush: adapt the speed and movements to fit your body, and focus on relaxation and satisfying pleasure. Once you are comfortable with the sensations, you can experiment with speed, positions, and penetrating rhythms. Try different depths and angles, and don’t be afraid to mix other toys like a bullet vibrator or another exciting sex toy.
  • Clean and Store Your Dildo – after you finish playing, you must clean your dildo. Most dildos are waterproof, and you can wash them with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner. When your dildo is dry, make sure you store it in a lint-free bag, away from other toys, direct sunlight, and heat.

Best Dildo Masturbation Techniques

There are no set rules about using a dildo; using it should be intuitive and fun. You should experiment, try different things, and test things out to discover what works for you best. With this in mind, here are several examples of standard dildo masturbation techniques you can try out:

  • Shallow, fast strokes - The first ⅓ of the vagina contains most of the sensitive nerve endings, so, contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to go deep and hard to get the most stimulation with your dildo. Short and fast strokes will ensure you get the proper nerve stimulation without barraging your cervix. Even if the dildo is longer, this doesn’t mean you have to insert or use its whole length. You can use the dildo’s shaft to get a better grip on it and manipulate the movements easier.
  • Deep thrusting - For those who want more intense stimulation, deep thrusts are the way to go. The technique involves inserting the dildo deep, which is easiest to do while lying on your back. There are also suction dildos you can stick to a smooth surface and use for deep thrusting. Thrusting dildos are specifically designed to provide this type of stimulation. They are motorized and have a shaft that extends and retracts to mimic the thrusting sensation.
  • Rock on - dildos aren’t just for straight thrusts or shallow strokes. You can modify the motion and rock back and forth at an angle so that the tip of the dildo applies pressure to the bottom of your vagina. Lay on your back and push in the dildo while rocking it back and forth, and feel where it feels good when you apply pressure. This technique works best with curved dildos and more flexible ones that allow a more comprehensive motion range. You can take it up a notch and press it against your clitoris to get that double stimulation.
  • Hit the G-Spot - the G-spot is about 2 inches in on the front vaginal wall, and to hit it, you need to drag the top part of the dildo across it as you pull outwards. This is best done with a bulbous head dildo or a curved dildo that is designed for this exact purpose. Textured and rigid dildos, like models made from glass and metal, are also exceptionally suited for G-spot stimulation.
  • Get filled up - a relatively simple dildo masturbation technique where the goal is to fill your vagina: insert the dildo and keep it there while you engage in other sexy plays.
  • Anal play – you can use a dildo for anal play. There are models specifically designed for anal use, from small, entry-level training dildos to monster dildos intended to give the user a stretching sensation. We have to note there are special male dildos for this exact purpose. It also includes pegging dildos specifically made to be used by a woman on her male partner.
  • Double penetration - Dildos are also an excellent way for a woman to experiment with double penetration. A woman can do this alone with two dildos or a dildo and a butt plug or can utilize a dildo along you’re your partner. There are several ways in which you can use dildos for double penetration:
  • Two dildos, one inserted vaginally, one anally
  • A dildo inserted in the vagina and a butt plug anally
  • Dildo inserted vaginally or anally, and your fingers
  • Dildo and a partner (male partner or strap-on)
  • Temperature play – some dildos, like metal or glass dildos, are designed to be heated or cooled and provide heightened sensations. If you have such a model, we suggest you try temperature play for heightened sensations.

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How to Orgasm With a Dildo?

There is not a “one-size-fits-all” method of orgasming with a dildo. However, there are some things you can do to increase your chances of climaxing. We share some tips and tricks to help you experience an intense, satisfying orgasm with a dildo:

  • Find a rhythm – start slowly and build up the momentum as you get more aroused, increasing the thrusting motion and speed, finding the rhythm that works best for you.
  • Mix & match - Combine your dildo with a clit stimulator, wand vibrator, or a vibrating bullet to bring your experience to another level. Simultaneous stimulation can be delightful, especially if you do it with a partner.
  • Pressure - Once you locate the G-spot, apply deep pressure to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings and get intense stimulation that will help you orgasm. Curved & G-spot dildos do the best job of stimulating the G-spot.
  • Rub your Clitoris – because most women need clitoral stimulation in addition to vaginal penetration to climax, you can combine your dildo with your fingers, a finger vibe, or a bullet vibe to get the extra stimulation to finish.

Best Positions to Try With a Dildo

There is no universal position that works best for everyone using a dildo. It is a thing that depends entirely on your and your partner’s wishes and tastes, as some techniques work better in specific positions. While there may be some limitations to what you can do based on your body type, there are several positions that you can try with your dildo and get a most incredible experience:

  • Down on your back – this is the most common masturbation position that is usually the most effective one. For this position, just lie on your back and play with your dildo, as it feels natural. You can pull your knees up and play with the penetration angle.
  • Face down – an exciting pose to try is to lie on your stomach or get on all fours, and reach over your back or under the belly and use the dildo.
  • Sideways – you can lie on your side and enjoy a more filling sensation, as this position is easy to try and is very enjoyable. Also, you can experiment with straight or bent legs.
  • Sit & Ride a dildo – an interesting pose is to sit on your dildo or to squat on it and ride it like that. A suction cup base dildo works best for this pose. You can also utilize any smooth surface and ride your dildo hands-free, leaving your hands free to caress and stimulate other erogenous zones.
  • On your feet – yes, you can use a dildo while standing up on your feet. You can reach behind your back with your dildo or slide it between your legs. If you are feeling frisky, lift one leg to get a better angle of penetration.

Final Thoughts

Basically, there is no right or wrong way to use a dildo, as the way you use it depends on the type of dildo you get and your needs, wishes, and preferences. Use it solo, combine it with another toy, or use it during partnered play; a dildo is an exciting sex toy that will spice up anyone’s sex life.

We tried to cover the basics of using a dildo, and we can only state that you should relax and go with an open mind – feel free to experiment and find the thing that feels good to you and make sure you enjoy it. We have an excellent sex toy store where we carry a broad selection of dildos and other exciting sex toys for anyone’s taste.

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