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How to Choose Strap-On Harnesses

How to Choose Strap-On Harnesses

Editorial Team |

Strap-on sex toys are pretty popular among a broad audience, and rightfully so, as these are fun and exciting and bring a lot of variety in your sex life. However, strap-ons are more than the fun dildo end, as they need an essential part – the strap-on harness that makes everything possible.
The strap-on harness holds the dildo in place, close to the body, allowing you to safely and securely use the strap-on. The strap-on harnesses allow hands-free play and come in many shapes and sizes. So, here we’ll share all you need to know about strap-on harnesses, as well as the essential things you need to know when selecting a strap-on harness for you.

Strap-On Harness Dildo Attachment Types

The strap-on design has evolved over the years, and today, you get a vast selection of harness designs and materials. Before we tackle the dildo harnesses, we need to discuss the locking options they come with – the way the strap-on dildo attaches to the strap-on harness.

  • O-ring – in this design, you attach your strap-on compatible dildo to the harness using an O-ring that is attached to the harness. The O-ring is usually made from rubber, silicone, or metal and comes in several diameters that fit various dildo sizes. We suggest you look for an O-ring strap-on harness that allows for the changing of the O-rings so you can use it with different dildos.
  • Vac-U-Lock – the Vac-U-Lock design is a patented design by Doc Johnson, one of the USA’s premier sex toy manufacturers. It is a specialized ridged peg that is fixed at the front of the harness, and the dildo locks in via the ridges of the peg. We have to note that even if you have a Vac-U-Lock-compatible dildo but don’t have the harness plug if the dildo has a flared base, you can still use it with an O-ring harness.
  • Suction base – per this design, the strap-on harness has a smooth “body-dock” base that is compatible with a dildo with suction cup base. You can use any suction cup dildo with this strap-on harness, as the surface is concave and very smooth, allowing for easy and sturdy attaching of your suction cup dildo.

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Strap-On Harness Models

Let us now cover all the strap-on harness models you can try. Please note that each of these has an intended use, and you should select the one that fits your needs and wants. Also, we must note that many of these feature internal pockets where you can fit a vibrating bullet, a small bottle of lube, or even a condom.

  • Double-Strap Harness – the most famous strap-on harness design, this is one of the most comfortable and stable harnesses you can get. It looks like a jock-strap athletes wear. The double-strap harness attaches around the waist and has two straps that go under the butt, attaching to the waist strap. The straps are almost always adjustable, so you can make the perfect fit. We have to note that this is a unisex design, so men and women can wear it.
  • G-String Harness – very similar to the double-strap harness, this model has a waist strap and a single strap that sits between the butt cheeks and attaches to the waist strap in the back. These are more comfortable for women, as the G-string strap can comfortably sit between the labia lips and the butt. Please note that thicker straps may be uncomfortable for some wearers.
  • Corset Harness – a model that is very similar to the double-strap harness; this attaches around the waist and has two straps that go under the butt. The difference is that this harness is modeled to resemble sexy lingerie and appears more elegant and even delicate. Please note that these are usually more expensive but are just as sturdy as the regular double-strap harnesses.
  • Underwear Harness – molded after actual underwear, this strap-on harness is one of the most comfortable harness types you can use. Most often, underwear style strap-on panties have O-rings stitched in the design, so you can only fit one size dildo, and they don’t allow adjustability. However, you can also wear these as regular underwear and be ready at any time.
  • Lingerie Harness – designed like the underwear harness, this strap-on harness type is sexier and often comes with garters. Some models have fixed O-rings, but they come with adjustable straps that allow you to mold them to your body. Also, most models come with an open back for a sexier look.
  • Thigh and arm harness – these harness types are not intended to be worn around the waist but around the leg or the arm and allow unique penetration scenarios. We also like these as they allow you to expand your sexy horizons, as they are perfect for attaching to furniture, facilitating, and spicing up solo time.
  • Harness kits – we included these models here as we belive these are the best option for beginners. Strap-on sets come with an all-in-one solution where the dildo is fitted to the harness. These come with adjustable straps so you can fit them to your body and provide reasonable control and comfort for the wearer.

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How to Choose the Best Strap-On Dildo Harness

As you’ve seen above, you have so many strap-on harness options. Choosing a strap-on harness depends on your preference, intended use, and skill level. Here are some tips that can help you hone in on what model would be best for you.

  • If you want some light fun, you can opt for an underwear-style harness that comes with visual appeal and is effortless to maintain.
  • If you are into serious roleplay and want to take the male role, then we suggest you pick a strap-on harness model that provides better control, like a double-strap harness.

Strap-On Harness Considerations

The size of the harness is essential, as you need a harness that fits snugly on your body. If the harness is loose, then you risk losing control and ruining the experience. If your harness is too tight, you will be uncomfortable and even risk restricting circulation. Make sure your harness fits comfortably, as you don’t want it bumping on the vaginal mound too much, which can lead to desensitizing of the area and diminished sensitivity.

The next thing to consider is the material of the harness, as you are wearing this on your bare skin. The material should be body-safe and comfortable, so we advise you opt for woven nylon, leather, silicone, rubber, or faux leather strap-on harness materials for harnesses with straps and microfiber for underwear strap-on harnesses.

If you find that you can’t stand the feeling of the harness material on your body, you can put on a pair of underwear underneath the strap-on harness. Also, make sure you play gently, as too vigorous movements can make the strap-on harness loose, and you risk harming your partner.

Strap-On Harness Benefits

You get a lot of benefits from introducing a strap-on in your sexy games. These are designed to accommodate a strap-on dildo with which you can penetrate your partner. But if you want solo playtime, you can try the arm or thigh harnesses and attach them to various furniture.

All the different strap-on harnesses have their appeal, as some are for beginners, some are very sexy, and some are very versatile. Still, the double-strap harness is the most versatile model, as it is very adjustable, stays in place, and holds the dildo securely. Using a quality double-strap harness will allow you to concentrate on pleasuring your partner instead of worrying that the dildo will slip away.

Some of the aforementioned strap-on harnesses can be worn by men, which opens up a new avenue for sexy play.  Some are designed for double penetration of a female partner. In contrast, others come with hollow dildo attachments that help men with ED or premature ejaculation or add length and girth to the man’s penis.

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Strap-On Safety Considerations

Always take caution when putting your strap-on harness on, as you can overtighten the straps if you are not careful. Please note that reputable manufacturers have safety measures in place to protect users against this, which is why there are harnesses in different sizes. Make sure you get the correct size strap-on harness to start with.

Another thing to consider is the O-ring buckles, as these are usually metal snaps that hold the O-ring in place. When you get your strap-on harness, make sure you check for any rough edges that can harm your partner.

Also, please note that the most important thing safety-wise is the use of the strap-on dildo. Because the wearer does not feel anything, having constant communication with the receiver is essential. Don’t be stingy with the lube, and always use lube that is compatible with the dildo material. We suggest you use a quality water-based lube and apply it regularly during play.

Strap-On Harness Use Suggestions

People use strap-on harnesses and various strap-on dildos to prolong sexual play. A man can wear a hollow strap-on dildo and continue having intercourse even after he’s ejaculated. In another scenario, the man can put on a hollow dildo strap-on and penetrate their partner, as the decreased sensation allows them to last longer.

Men with ED can find this model extremely useful, as penetration, which is usually impossible for men with ED, is a real possibility by using a strap-on harness with a hollow dildo attached to it.

An exciting sexual activity where strap-on harnesses are essential is pegging – an activity where the male partner is penetrated by a female partner with a dildo or another phallic object. The action stimulates the prostate which can lead to deeper, stronger orgasms in men. Instead of using a handheld dildo, a suitable strap-on harness with a pegging dildo can be the perfect option.

Even oral sex is a thing with a strap-on harness and a suitable dildo, as many couples love the visual turn-on. Using a strap-on harness with a suitable dildo is the perfect option for female-on-female sex, where one partner wears the harness and vaginally or analy penetrates the other partner. We leave further strap-on harness applications to your imagination.

Cleaning & Storage Tips

1harness depends on the material it is made from. In most cases, you can throw strap-on harnesses made from woven nylon or microfiber in an underwear bag and wash them in a washing machine on a cold cycle. Please note that these should not be dried in a dryer as the heat can ruin them.

Leather strap-on harnesses are more challenging to clean, as these need a hot water wash and conditioning of the leather to protect it from stiffening up or cracking. Faux leather (leatherette) can be spot-cleaned but not wholly washed with water, as it can deform from the warm water.

After you clean and dry your strap-on harness, we suggest you store them in a protective bag to avoid them getting tangled with other items. Also, please note that you should store them in a dry, cool place, away from heat and direct sunlight. An underwear drawer is a suitable storage place.

The Bottom Line

Overall, using a strap-on harness allows your imagination to run wild so you and your partner can explore new sexual horizons. Nothing stops you from getting several models, trying and comparing them until you find the one that fits you best. Lucky for you, our store is stocked with excellent strap-on harness selection, as well as a variety of other exciting sex toys that fit anyone’s wishes.

FAQs

  • What happens if I want to use a larger dildo on my harness?

We suggest you always use a dildo that is compatible with your strap-on harness, and this relates to the size of the O-ring diameter and the base of the dildo. Another thing to note is that you should not use dildos that are too long with your strap-on harness, as this can be too heavy for comfortable use.

  • What is the ideal O-ring size for pegging my husband?

We always suggest you start low and go slow. Since the anus is much tighter and does not self-lubricate, you should use a pegging dildo specifically designed for anal penetration. In terms of O-ring size, these are usually about 1.25-inch diameter and are made from body-safe silicone. However, this is a personal matter, and a matter you should discuss with your husband.

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