How To Use a Strap-On with Your Partner

How To Use Strap-Ons

Using a strap-on requires getting used to it, and it is one of those activities you need to discuss with your partner. Get a strap-on model that you and your partner are comfortable with and learn all you can about your toy; here are the key things to know on how to use a strap-on:

• Get a strap-on that fits – before anything else, you need to ensure that your chosen strap-on model will fit your body and you can comfortably wear it. Learn how to put the strap-on harness on and take it off, and try the same with the strapless strap-on if this is your choice.
• Wear the strap-on for a while – put the strap-on and wear it around the house for a while (while you are alone with your partner) to get used to its weight and to get used to the movements.
• Use lube – always use lube with a strap-on toy to make things slide easily and comfortably. Make sure you are using a lube that is compatible with the material your strap-on is made, so we advise you to stick to water-based lubes for safe and comfortable playtime.
• Start slow – because the strap-on attaches to your body, you can't precisely feel how it enters your partner, so you need to be slow and careful when you first penetrate your partner. Stop often and make sure your partner is comfortable and there is enough lube. You can always stop and rest for a while to make sure you are both comfortable.
• Use a condom – condoms over sex toys can simplify cleaning and provide a barrier against contaminating the sex toys with potentially harmful bacteria. Also, condoms are compatible with more lube options for even less friction and more comfortable playtime.

Why Use a Strap-On

While the answer to this question may seem obvious to some, others may not be that familiar with the possibilities a strap-on can bring into the bedroom. However, you should use a strap-on because it is fun!

One example that comes to mind is for lesbian couples, where the strap-on allows you to have penetrative sex with your partner. Many strap-on devices come with a vibrating feature that stimulates the clitoris; others come with extra features like an insertable vibrating egg, like the strapless strap-on version.

Another example is for heterosexual couples, where the man can add a strap-on to their body to provide a double penetration experience to their partner. The strap-on gives you a chance to take a break and recover during sex while not leaving your partner hanging.

There are also specially-designed strap-on sex toys that can be put over a penis, allowing men with erectile dysfunction to have a satisfying sexual experience. Women can use a strap-on to peg their men for a pleasurable reversal of roles or during BDSM playtime.

Strap-On Basics

The strap-on functionalities seem straightforward, but there are some key things to know. There is much versatility between different types of strap-ons; the best one depends on your specific needs. Before we continue our guide on using a strap-on, here are a few strap-on basics you should know when choosing the optimal option for you:

Strap-Ons Vs. Harness-Compatible Dildos

The first thing you must consider is the flexibility of the design of your strap-on. For example, many couples prefer full-on strap-ons because of their practicality. This pertains to a complete strap-on kit that includes a harness and a dildo.But there is also the option to purchase a strap-on harness only and then select a suitable harness-compatible dildo. This approach allows you to mix and match - use different dildos with the same harness.

O-Ring

The O-ring is the essential part of any strap-on harness: it is the ring that connects the dildo and the harness. Here we need to note that the diameter of the O-ring determines the type of dildo that can be placed in your harness.

We recommend you opt for harnesses that allow changing of the O-rings, as it will allow you to change the dildos and try models in different sizes, shapes, and materials. Additionally, there are strap-on kits that include a harness with interchangeable O-rings and a palette of dildos with different circumferences and lengths you can use gradually.

Harness Types

The harness style plays a vital role in the comfortable use of this sex toy. Basically, there are two main styles: underwear and strap-on harnesses.  

The strap-on boxers resembles regular underwear and is the most practical option for beginners. This style provides good support around the hips and thighs and allows better control of your movements.

People looking for the visual aspect can opt for a thong harness. These come in many intriguing designs, including lace and G-strings; however, the visual appeal compromises flexibility. These may feel less secure during vigorous movement.

Strap-on harnesses go around your waist and provide a similar security as thongs harnesses. They resemble the jockstraps male athletes wear, and some come with a fixed dildo and others have interchangeable o-rings which makes them a practical and visually pleasing option that even beginners can quickly get accustomed to.

Best Positions To Use Strap-Ons

Depending on the type of strap-on you choose, there are different positions you could try to hit the sweet spot and achieve maximum pleasure. Here are some suggestions:  

• Missionary: The missionary pose is a great option that will allow you more intimacy with your partner while experiencing new things. It's best to place a pillow below your partner's back to ensure their body is in an optimum position to receive your dildo.
• Doggy style: A universally accepted position for beginners to strap-on sex is doggy style. This allows your partner to expose their genitals fully and provides you with more flexibility during penetration.
• Spooning: If you want to achieve fast and intense orgasms, choosing a spooning position is the best option. You can lay on either side and stay pressed to your partner's body, allowing you to go through the penetration motions slowly and deeply.
• Cowgirl/Cowboy: For the adventurers, the cowgirl or cowboy positions can be pretty exciting. These give extra agility to the person being penetrated and allow them to control the depth of the strap-on, leaving you - the wearer - with less power over the motions but a better view.

Important Things To Consider

Knowing what your partner wants is the first step to finding the perfect strap-on dildo. Additionally, your level of mobility with a strap-on also plays a significant role in the overall enjoyment. It's best to choose a smaller size, especially if you're opting for a pegging strap-on, and move on to larger dildos once your partner feels more comfortable. We suggest you choose comfort and practicality over visual appeal. Handling a strap-on while penetrating someone is challenging enough without worrying that your harness will move or fall off.

Material plays a vital role, and you should choose non-porous materials that will be durable for longer and ensure they are body safe for you and your partner. Additionally, extra attention should be paid to the cleaning process, especially if both partners share the toy and use it reversibly.

Beginners should stick to regular strap-ons rather than strapless strap-ons. Choosing a strap-on with a firmly attached dildo will allow you better motion from the start and less worry about dildo compatibility. Going slow and checking in with your partner before and during strap-on sex will ensure a pleasurable experience for both of you and open the doors to even more experimentation in your sex life.

Final Thoughts

One sex toy - thousands of sensations! The opportunities for pleasure are more than expected with a strap-on toy. Between different types of harnesses, dildos, and even more versatility with added features such as vibrating or squirting mechanisms, you can modify your strap-on experience to your liking. The versatility of materials, shapes, and sizes enhances your pleasure.

You can find many strap-on options, and we suggest you take the plunge, expand your sexual horizons and enjoy a mutually-satisfying sexual experience. Please browse our store for more exciting products!