Self-Bondage is the practice of applying self-restraints in a sensual and sexual scenario. It can be an enjoyable sexual play that enables you to indulge in your wildest desires of self-restraint without needing a partner. But because self-bondage is done without the presence of a partner, the person who chooses to engage in it needs to exercise increased caution when entering and exiting a scene.
Many practitioners find it appealing because of the extra challenges and risks it brings. As a result, they frequently come up with complicated self-bondage schemes and release mechanisms, both in real life and in erotic fiction. It's a practice that calls for well-mastered techniques because the more restrained someone is, the more they will need a reliable release mechanism.
Why do people like solo bondage?
To escape from reality
Self-bondage can provide bondage practitioners with a profoundly pleasurable and trance-like experience throughout the session because it is so different from and separated from everyday life. You can define new degrees of pleasure using this power over your body and mind to create a temporary escape from reality. Some people appreciate the sense of ultimate self-command from being a sub. For some, the thrill of being able to satisfy themselves without resorting to another person is a source of pride, confidence, and a strong sense of connection with one's self.
For its erotic effects
Self-bondage is a tool that may be used to experience everything from pleasure to pain. Ropes, for example, can be used to caress the body, especially the more delicate places, when tied or untied. You can use rope frayed ends for tickling and stroking or create a makeshift whip made of one or more rope strands. Bonding in the breast or genital region can increase sensitivity to pleasant and unpleasant stimuli by constricting the skin. Additionally, it tends to show the object of your attention in a very prominent and practical way. Direct stimulation of the clitoris, perineum, and anus can result from placing various bondage gear. Stimulation can happen with just pressure or with movement. Multiple toys can be gently twisted, pulled, or tapped to let you deliver your input. You'll soon discover which specific gear you enjoy using the most.
To indulge in role-playing and fetishism
The fetishistic attraction of the selected constraint method is the source of much pleasure for many practitioners, for instance, chastity belts, body bags, or strait jackets. It is also a crucial part of role-playing. After all, many games would be lacking in their primary appeal if not for some restriction. Of course, using suitable constraints can help to fuel the imagination.
To boost enjoyment
Evidence suggests that engaging in BDSM practices, such as self-bondage, induces a state of consciousness known as subspace. Submissives are said to be in a floating, high state throughout and after the play. Additionally, applying restraints could make someone feel sensory-deprived, contributing to their excitement and their remaining senses' perception, which could heighten their level of enjoyment.
Sensual self-bondage vs. strict self-bondage
Self-bondage poses a particular dilemma. On the one hand, you desire to be restrained to a satisfactory extent, which means you will be unable to escape. On the other hand, you will eventually need to escape, so you need to plan how you will do it. Considering the level of helplessness, you want to indulge in and the level of easiness to getting out of your restraints, self-bondage typically falls into one of two groups:
Sensual self-bondage
This self-bondage requires the capacity to break free of restrictions anytime and without delay. Sensual self-bondage includes a psychological high rather than actual physical restraint. Those who like sensual self-bondage may use ties they are confident in their ability to remove, or they may have the keys or tools necessary to remove the restraints close at hand. Sensual self-bondage allows one to feel restrained without facing additional challenges.
Strict self-bondage
The second and typically more dangerous type of self-bondage is strict self-bondage. This type lacks an available means to escape and has a self-activating release mechanism after a certain amount of time has passed. This form of self-bondage induces a greater sensation of helplessness in the practitioners. It's mainly used to fulfill fetishes such as humiliation, punishment, or slave play, depending on the practitioner's personal preferences. Because it is much more elaborate and intricate to escape, this form of self-bondage is for those who appreciate the risky nature of self-bondage and are up for a challenge.
Is it safe?
Self-bondage is as safe as you make it, and making it safe demands a lot of planning, research, and preparation. As with any activity, you should begin slowly, take small steps, experiment, and ensure you are comfortable before continuing. Make sure your release works, your breathing is not obstructed, and you always have someone to call in case of an emergency.
Emergency backup
An alternate approach is sometimes recommended because it finds a middle ground and strikes a balance between strictness and safety. The technique uses a backup release mechanism that is quickly accessible but has associated costs or penalties.
Some practitioners use these release mechanisms when significant harm, injury, or severe damage is imminent since their activation will result in an unfavorable consequence.
- Paint tin: A spare key is concealed within a paint or ink bucket so that retrieving it will cause the contents to spill, resulting in significant damage to the floor, carpet, or other items. However, in an emergency, such as a fire, practitioners use this release mechanism for a speedy release.
- Unpleasant drink: The key is stored in a container with an unpleasant drink and should only be released after the container's contents have been consumed. The container's design should prevent the contents from spilling. It is intended to make the beverage so repulsive, like urine, that it will only be used as a last resort.
- Rescue: The first option is to have a friend or a family member visit at a specific time after the bondage session is planned to end to ensure your safety. The person may or may not be aware of the bondage session. Another option is to place a phone in a location accessible throughout the bondage so that a friend or the emergency services can be reached quickly if the intended release mechanisms have failed.
How to self bondage
Based on your preferences, there are a lot of different positions you may choose from for your self-bondage session:
Rope harness
A rope harness can be perfected in various ways, and its beauty lies in the fact that it can be worn concealed for a hybrid of self-bondage and exhibitionism.
How to do it:
- Start by using a piece of long, fine nylon rope. It can be tied over your stomach, breasts, and beneath them.
- Loop it around your neck, passing it over your groin and down your stomach before hanging it back over your shoulders.
How to escape: Untie or cut the rope.
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Crotch rope
This method is perfect for those who feel constrained in the crotch area. Both a long piece of rope and a set of handcuffs are required.
How to do it:
- Place the rope across your hips and through your legs. If you want to feel the rope between your legs better, you can double it up.
- Make sure the handcuffs are tightly fastened around your bottom, and wrap the rope over the chain in the back. You'll feel the ropes' sensation increase as you move your hands more. You can remain in the handcuffs for however long you like after locking yourself inside.
How to escape: Unlock the handcuffs and untie the rope.
Chair tie
A chair tie is so easy to do that you probably already know how. You can stay in a variety of positions, and it only depends on what you prefer. As a personal preference, I like to use ankle cuffs to secure my legs to the chair's back legs and wrist cuffs or, if I'm feeling very bold, a trusty ice lock to tie my hands behind the chair.
Given that you are sitting up straight and are tied to a fixed object that moves around a lot, you should:
- Ensure the chair is sturdy enough to hold your weight and won't tip over if you tug on it.
- If you wish to avoid falling face-first onto the carpet, don't rock or shift the chair from its original position.
- If you're a beginner, instead of behind your back, tie your hands to each leg independently.
Strap a vibrating toy to your genitalia or the chair.
- Ideas on how to make the session better:
- If you release yourself within 15 minutes, you can try out nipple clamps.
- To further limit movement, tie Bondage Tape across your chest and thighs. But make sure you have safety scissors nearby.
Spread-eagle
The simplest version of the spread-eagle position is performed horizontally on the bed. In this position, your hands and legs are spread out and usually tied in the shape of an X. Still, if you have the necessary gear, you may perform it while sitting or standing up.
Unlike the Hogtie or Chair tie, which gives you some movement to free yourself, you will find that there is absolutely no chance you will get out of the spread-eagle if the release mechanism doesn't work, so you need to think of backup options. Fortunately, if you do it correctly, there's not much risk involved, and you may take advantage of this compromising position.
How to do it:
- Put your ankles in a spread position and fasten them to the end of the bed frame. Using rope, utilize a single-column knot that won't tighten and impede blood flow.
- Start forming the X shape by tying one hand to the opposite end of the bed frame with the wrist cuffs or rope in a single-column braid (look it up).
- Bind the other wrist. Since this is your escape plan, the best option is to use a wrist cuff that you can unlock and latch or a timed lock like an ice lock. When tying it, ensure that you can use some wiggle room.
How to escape:
Let go of the trigger hooks on the wrist cuffs, then let go of the other hand and 2 feet. If you're using rope, keep a pair of safety scissors close by and linked to the bed so you can quickly release yourself in an emergency.
If you employ a timed release technique, wait until the timer's end before releasing your legs in the same manner.
Hogtie
The main things to think about before entering the Hogtie are whether there is a chance that the restraints could cut off your blood supply and whether you have multiple backup plans for escaping. Hogties are still one of the most restricting ties you can use because they render you entirely defenseless and make it difficult to escape with your hands behind your back. Because of this, you should try it only after you have gained some self-bondage experience.
**PRO-TIP: Avoid using handcuffs.
How to do it:
- Tie your legs to the ankle cuffs and attach the carabiner
- Tie your hands into the cuffs behind your back. Make sure you can escape by opening the trigger hooks.
- Using the carabiner escaping device, attach the ankle cuffs to the wrist cuffs behind your back.
- Put your hands in the cuffs and tie them together behind your back. Make sure you can escape by opening the trigger hooks.
- Use the carabiner to attach the ankle cuffs to the wrist cuffs behind your back.
How to escape:
Release the trigger Hooks or the carabiner.
Ideas on how to make the session better:
- To further limit movement, tie your legs together with Bondage Tape.
- Wear fetish attire, such as a catsuit but without the hood.
- Use an ice lock or magnet lock instead of the carabiner.
- Punish yourself if you leave the Hogtie early.
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Full body
Rope - If you're interested in self-bondage, a rope can be a great place to start because it's adaptable and easily cut with scissors if you get stuck. A rope can bind certain body areas or act as a body harness. Many practitioners appreciate the erotic sensation that a rope can create as it brushes against its erogenous regions.
Chains - For some people, the weight, sound, and feel of chains on the body is a huge turn-on. Chains are hardcore and fun but much harder to get out of. Have some bolt cutters handy if you do decide to use chains.
Tape - Whether a duct or electrical tape, it restrains and pulls on your flesh, giving you that distinct sensation of pain and ecstasy, but getting out can be pretty challenging!
Plastic Wrap - Even though plastic wrap is soft and flexible, it isn't easy to get out of, and because it doesn't breathe, it causes you to sweat. Avoid putting it close to your face and neck!
Latex Bondage - Mummification bags, hoods, stockings, a catsuit to firmly enfold the body in its embrace, a corset to cinch in the waist, or latex gloves to smooth over the hands and make it more difficult to affect your release can all be employed to enhance the self-bondage experience.
For Certain Body Parts
Handcuffs - If you are starting, you should always begin by putting your hands in front of your body. You can set your hands behind your back after practicing removing the handcuffs from behind. Beginners should use handcuffs made of a softer material.
Spreader Bar - While still keeping your hands free in case of an emergency, this is a fantastic way to learn more about satisfying yourself. With a spreader bar fastened to your shins or thighs, you'll have easy access to your genitalia.
Anal hook - The ideal technique to improve your self-bondage experience if you enjoy anal play. Use lubricant, take it slow to get on the hook, and use caution to secure it to another surface. Make sure you test out the various scenarios beforehand because it can be challenging to remove the hook when you are hanging.
Nipple clamps - Possibly not for everyone, but nipple clamps are excellent for those who enjoy a little discomfort and enjoyment. Give them a try because many discover that they intensify their bondage and bring more pleasure than agony. Refrain from using them for more than 15 minutes since they can restrict blood circulation.
Blindfolds - A fantastic way to enhance your self-bonding by making you feel even more powerless.
Safety precautions when practicing solo bondage
Prepare your space and toys beforehand
Your session will go more smoothly and safely if you select a room with decent lighting and a full-length mirror. Preparing your restraints to save energy when you need to untangle and release them would be best. If you're using rope, for example, take precise measures of each body part to determine how much rope to use. You can even color-code the measurements to help you distinguish each piece.
**PRO-TIP: Have multiple backup releases in case one fails.
Have your tools handy
Having everything you need out in the open, right in front of you, is the safest and smartest way to begin your session. Safety scissors, or another backup plan for escaping your selected restraints, should always be available.
**PRO-TIP: Make sure there's nothing in the room that could be dangerous to you.
Test your methods
Before going all in, you should practice how your restraints will feel. It would be best to avoid anything interrupting your breathing and stopping the blood flow. To avoid unpleasant surprises, check that the material you intend to use can't suddenly tighten up on you.
Be aware of existing health conditions
Your self-bondage session can be significantly affected by even the most minor ailments. You should postpone your session if you're experiencing discomforts, such as an upset stomach, a cold, or other nasal congestion that prevents you from breathing normally. Also, ensure your blood pressure is normal before trying self-bonding techniques.
**PRO-TIP: Avoid consuming alcohol or drugs before your sessions because it will impair your judgment.
Don't overestimate your abilities
Having great reflexes can help in case of an accident, but you'll need to be physically fit enough to take care of yourself during your sessions. The first step is to ease into bondage by exploring its aspects. Self-bondage can be pretty demanding, so you shouldn't dive right into the deep end. Start small by wearing fetish clothing or using plugs and build up to stricter restraints.
**PRO-TIP: Don't allow your limbs to go numb or stop blood circulation
Hydrate
The unpleasant sensation of feeling thirsty during your self-bondage session may ruin your mood and cause you not to enjoy your time. On the other hand, you also want to consume only enough water since it will make you want to use the toilet while having fun.
Final thoughts
Self-bondage is the voluntary restraint of yourself for sexual enjoyment. When done right, it can be satisfying, but if you don't know what you're doing, it can also be quite dangerous! Avoiding unwanted scenarios and safely carrying out your self-bondage session requires a lot of preparation, planning, and research.
Since some bondage techniques are riskier than others, you need to consider your experience before choosing a method that is appropriate for you.