Most—if not all—agree that blowjobs are the height of sexual pleasure. No other sexual act compares to blowjobs' suction, wetness, and contrasting sensations. It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight; receiving such a personal present from a lover is incredibly erotic.
Unfortunately, you might not have a partner right now, or maybe you are dating someone who can't or won't give you a blowjob, leaving you with two choices. Either wait till you find a willing partner, or, as any creative and horny guy will tell you, you need to find a way to simulate the experience. Fortunately, there are a variety of BJ simulators available with various designs and styles, so you may pick your favorite or try them all out.
What men like about blowjobs
Men love oral sex, and there are a few reasons for this:
The pleasant sensations
Male sex representatives acknowledge that oral sex differs substantially from traditional intercourse in terms of the sensations it produces. A man's penis head is extremely sensitive in addition to being erogenous. A good blowjob requires the joint effort of the lips, tongue, saliva, hands, and — on some rare occasions — a receptive gullet. Of course, this cannot leave a man indifferent! With the proper blowjob technique, some men say the experience can be even greater than classic sex.
Not having to worry
A man may be bothered by a lot of questions during sex. Is his cock big or hard enough? Will he be successful in pleasing his partner? Will he last enough? As a result, a man cannot unwind completely. But with a blowjob, things are different. After all, they can relax and enjoy themselves without filling their heads with pointless questions. When the orgasm comes, it will be the right time, and nobody will be upset if it occurs too soon.
There are rare situations where a man cannot begin sex without first "warming up." To get fully aroused, some men need active stimulation of the penis. Once the blowjob begins, fatigue, stress, fear, and other factors preventing erection go far into the background—consequently, the man's sense of self-confidence increases.
Voyeuristic fantasies
In contrast to the limited view they get during traditional sexual encounters, in a blowjob, men have a front-row seat and can experience what is happening "in all its glory." When a man thinks about how his lover strokes his penis, his excitement rises even more. It's like watching a porn movie, not on the screen, but with his participation! And they can't disguise their happiness since, like everyone else, men prefer "hot" sex. And an essential component of it is oral sex.
Selflessness
Another reason men like oral is selflessness. In other words, when their partner gives head without expecting anything in return. Many men view this as a genuine example of love and trust. And considering that this "favor" produces such pleasurable sensations, it begs the very logical question: How can a blowjob not be liked?
How to stimulate a blowjob using your hands
The first advice is to visualize your partner giving you a terrific blowjob. She is sucking your dick in whatever way you like. Now begin to masturbate while your eyes are closed. You eventually get the same sensation as you did during the blowjob.
Although it seems easy, you often need patience and mental tranquility to envision your loved one. It might take some time because you are not watching porn films, which trigger your dopamine to rise within seconds, but once you get the feeling of sucking, you'll be done with it.
1. Balling the jack
This jack-off technique is unique since it focuses on your balls rather than your cock. You are pleasuring the base of your cock rather than the crown of your cock when you use this jerking boy technique.
- Grip the head of your cock with one hand while stroking the bottom of the shaft with the other hand.
- With each downward pull of the balls, the head will be stimulated.
- With a bit of lubrication, you can get a nice rhythm that simultaneously satisfies your cock and your balls.
- You can try polishing or squeezing your cock head to give extra stimulation as you get better at using this jerk-off technique.
2. Having thumb fun
When trying this technique, it would be best if you got cute and clever with your thumb.
- Apply some lubricant and make a loose fist as usual, but place your thumb on the outside of your cock rather than the inside.
- As you stroke, your cock, move the thumb around.
- Ensure your thumb is well-lubricated and stimulating right beneath your helmet to give the impression of a tongue.
- You concentrate on your thumb as you jerk off.
- You can trigger a powerful orgasm by carefully thumbing the underside of your cock's helmet.
3. Suck it to me
This technique has to be the closest you can come to a good blowjob with your hands. You will make your thumb and index finger feel like a pair of cocksucking lips. Lube is undoubtedly necessary for this technique.
It takes some time and practice, but ultimately, what you do is:
- Form the OK hand sign with your thumb and index finger visualizing a pair of lips and keep them motionless;
- Using your other hand, push your cock through the 'lips' as you would while receiving a blowjob.
- Another variation of this technique is the "fluffer" style.
- Take an artist's brush, preferably a fan brush or the biggest brush you can find.
- Put some hot water in a glass, and dip the brush in.
- You will now "paint" your cock with warm water, beginning with the top and working your way down. It feels like a delicate tongue is kissing your cock.
We highly recommend giving this spectacular jerk-off technique a shot. Using your brush skillfully, you can even simulate the infamous Oral Sex Butterfly Lick.
4. Banana spurt
Like bananas? You'll dig this jerk-off technique. You'll need a large, ripe banana and a knife for Banana Spurt. Because the inside of the banana peel acts as its natural lubricant, you won't need lube for this particular masturbation technique.
- Start by cutting the banana so that it is about an inch shorter than the length of your cock.
- Next, instead of peeling the banana in a typical manner, you will need to slice it vertically along the banana peel from top to bottom.
- Once you've removed the banana from the peel, you need to wrap the remaining peel around your cock while matching the shape of your cock as closely as you can. In this way, you can maximize the results of this jack-off technique.
It's important to remember that there are as many variations of this male masturbation technique as you can think of. You can cut the banana peel longer or shorter, or you could try keeping one end attached to create the appearance of a closed sleeve. You may even wank by hand without the peel and use the natural lubricant of the peel.
5. The sewing machine
This method of male masturbation is known as the "sewing machine" because, when performed correctly, your index finger will resemble a needle rapidly bobbing up and down.
- The head and the glans are the areas of emphasis in this jerking technique.
- Get a little lubrication on your thumb and middle finger and use them to grip your cock.
- Now place your well-lubricated index finger directly over the hole known as the glans on your cock.
- It would be best to rapidly flex your fingers in a steady up-and-down motion.
- Some guys who jerk off to this technique claim that breathing more profoundly helps to stimulate climax. As you get close to orgasm, you can get a full grip on your cock and finish things off the way you usually do.
How to stimulate a blowjob using a masturbator
The technology behind blowjob toys is constantly improving, bringing them closer and closer to replicating the same sensation you get from a regular blowjob. They are created from natural materials to give the same feeling as the inside of a real mouth. A well-lubricated blowjob toy can do an excellent job of providing a realistic experience.
There are a few different styles, ranging from the basic manual masturbator toy to automatic masturbators that move up and down and create an incredibly realistic sucking effect on your penis. Your budget and the experience you seek from the toy will dictate your choice.
Our top picks for blowjob masturbators
Manual blowjob simulators
Many options add to the experience by having a fake tongue or set of teeth. These mouth masturbators resemble traditional male masturbators in general, but rather than having a pussy or anus, the top of the toy will be shaped like a mouth. The canal into which your penis is inserted is typically quite tight, and the oral sex style may also be highly textured with a vortex or spiral shape that maximizes suction.
Original Fleshlights: The first and best-known type of toy for beating the meat. They often resemble flashlights and are available in various designs and pricing ranges.
Tenga Eggs: These feature a stretchable cup crafted to fit snugly over the tip of your cock and are discretely made to resemble an egg.
Soft Simulators: Soft simulators have a skin-like texture and are built entirely of soft and flexible material. The design allows you to apply more pressure to your penis while using it for a more realistic experience.
Onahole: While essentially identical to a pocket pussy, these Japanese-made male sex toys are distinguished by their sturdier materials, a more incredible selection of designs, and frequent usage of anime or hentai characters in their advertising and packaging.
Penis pumps: Penis pumps not only enlarge and thicken your penis but also give you a sucking sensation. They are, therefore, excellent candidates for blowjob simulators. Although penis pumps usually have a neutral, round opening, pumps with mouth openings are available for a full blowjob simulation.
Automatic Blowjob Simulators
There are several options available while searching for an automatic blowjob simulator:
- 'Licking' simulators: explicitly created to mimic the sensation you get when a tongue is used.
- Hands-free: These toys take care of everything. You need to sit back and relax and drop your load off.
- With vibrations: These vibration-enhanced simulators function precisely like regular simulators, but they add a new dimension through the vibrations, increasing your level of stimulation.
- With beads: Your penis will be massaged and stimulated to the fullest extent possible by the moving beads. The beads oscillate, creating the appearance of a real blowjob.
- With hand pump: These give the user control over the suction of the masturbator. Squeezing the pump produces a sucking sensation that simulates a real blowjob. Some hand pump simulators even include vibrations.
- With warming properties: These simulators provide added comfort and help make the whole experience more realistic.
Yes, when you have the proper blowjob simulator in your hands, it can be surprisingly simple to recreate the exquisite experience of oral sex at home. But if you want to keep things simple, you can always opt for a manual one. An automatic simulator can be your best option if you seek a powerful suction and a true mouthfeel. And don't forget the lube since it is crucial to have the most realistic experience.
How to make solo sessions last longer
Set the mood
Masturbation is an act of self-care. Unfortunately, most men wouldn't think to set the mood for themselves. The thing is, we have our best sexual experiences when we are at ease, relaxed, and in our element, and this includes our masturbation sessions. So pour yourself a drink, turn the lights down, and light a few candles. You could be amazed by how much it improves your solo session.
Take it easy
Too many guys develop a bad habit of rushing through masturbation and making orgasming as quickly as they can their goal when masturbating. Altering your mindset to focus less on the orgasm itself and more on the experience of getting there will help it last longer. Instead of going all out on your genitalia immediately, work up to it gradually and enjoy the experience. Start gently and increase the intensity over time. If your routine for masturbating includes many accessories, consider cutting back. Porn and sex toys can rapidly increase your arousal, which causes you to orgasm quickly. So try to achieve orgasm with nothing more than your hand, your imagination, and some lubricant. Enjoy and linger in the arousal.
Use a lubricant
No, a lotion is not a lubricant. As lotion absorbs into your skin, it becomes less slick, and some scented lotions may even irritate your skin. Your best option is a water-based lubricant. Although vaseline is not recommended as a sexual lubricant because it can break down condoms, since it's not toxic, it's safe to use it as a masturbation lubricant.
Choose your non-dominant hand
Do you usually use your right hand for self-pleasure? Then try switching it up with your left. Not only will you experience new sensations, but it will take longer to reach orgasm due to decreased coordination and control.
Switch it up
If you have a go-to stroke you use to masturbate every time, try to mix it up. There are numerous ways to achieve an orgasm, and newer techniques could take longer. Try stimulating different erogenous zones or experimenting with various strokes or masturbation techniques.
Try Edging
Edging involves getting close to an orgasm, pausing or reducing stimulation to prevent it, and then repeating the process. You will better understand your point of no return, allowing you greater control over when you come while masturbating and in sex. A bonus is that it may also lead to a more intense orgasm.
Final thoughts
It would be best if you employed your imagination to experience the same stimulation level when you're alone as you would when you have a bed partner. Fortunately, nowadays, it's easy to simulate a blowjob on your own since there is a wide selection of male masturbation toys available on the market for you to choose from. Blowjob simulators are available in various sizes and shapes, so you may pick the one that gives you the pleasure you seek. You'll no doubt find a toy that satisfies your desires and cravings! So, before you spend some money, have a long hard think about what you are looking for exactly.