Anal stretching vs. anal gaping
Before engaging in anal play, stretching your anus is recommended. Anal stretching will help you open the anal gape, which is the look of the anus after perpetual extension. But how do you get there?
For your anal stretching, you can use fingers and numerous sex toys, starting with small butt plugs and anal beads to large dildos. The stretching should be done gradually and with the consent of the receiving partner.
Since the anus is flexible and tends to return to its primary form, some stretching won't open the anal gape. Gaping occurs only after extended anal play when the muscles are fully relaxed and open. It’s appealing for several reasons and can make sex more manageable and comfortable for the recipient, reducing pain levels.
Purposeful anal stretching to create the anal gape is frequently used in BDSM to challenge power dynamics between the dominant and submissive partner.
Getting ready for anal play
Anal play is fun and undoubtedly pleasurable both for the giver and the receiver; however, it does require a little preparation. Anal stretching is part of the process, although it may be considered the most crucial step in the long run. Here are a few things to remember before engaging in anal sex.
Does it hurt?
To enjoy anal play, you need to get in the right mindset. If you're learning to stretch your anus and are a beginner at doing anal stuff, discomfort and minimal pain is common at the beginning. However, that doesn't mean you should sit still and do nothing if the pain gets excruciating or unbearable. The pain can be minimized if you gradually stretch your anus and don't rush the process. With proper training and tons of lube, you may reduce the pain to zero, and at best, you may feel slight discomfort when a toy or a penis enters your anus.
Being open about how the process feels and how much it hurts is essential, as letting your partner force themselves into you might bring on a lot of bleeding and bad injuries.
How deep can you go?
The depth of the anal canal and rectum differs for each person; how deep they can be penetrated depends on biological and circumstantial factors.
On average, the surgical anal canal is 1.5 inches long, and the rectum is 4.5 inches long, allowing bigger toys and deeper penetration. However, to feel comfortable being penetrated to that depth, anal stretching is necessary.
The anal canal and the rectum need to be accustomed to things of different sizes moving through them, and gradually going deeper into the anus is the only safe way to stretch yourself.
Would you get 'loose'?
This is a general question that concerns many people. The anus regularly stretches during bowel movements and returns to its primary position.
The same is true for purposeful anal stretching. The goal is to get the body used to have something in the anus for prolonged periods without feeling pain. After the anal play, even if you reach the point of anal gaping, the anus will return to its usual size shortly.
Although the anus itself won't get loose, your sphincter muscle might. This is the muscle at the end of your anus which keeps the feces in and dictates when you're defecating. Its loosening can happen only after a prolonged time of practicing anal sex. However, for those who are unwilling to give up this pleasure, there are Kegel exercises specifically designed to train the sphincter muscle and ensure its elasticity, preventing it from getting loose.
Is it permanent
If you practice safe anal play, the stretching effects are never permanent. The anus will go to its regular form shortly after you stretch it. To avoid damaging your sphincter muscle or causing any other injury, you need to get your anus relaxed. Ultimately, anal stretching will never affect the form of your anus; it simply makes your muscles more flexible and accustomed to being penetrated with different-sized objects.
No one wants to think about poop during erotic play, which is why it's essential to keep the hygiene around your anus to a maximum level.
While not everyone does it, anal douching is an excellent way to ensure your anus is clean and ready to be played with. Anal douching involves squirting water into your anus and letting it void to ensure no extra waste in the rectum.
Douching may not be necessary if you're using toys only; however, you might want to try it if you plan on getting penetrated. After all, the anus is full of bacteria, and not cleaning it as much as possible beforehand may result in unnecessary infections spreading onto your or your partner's genitalia.
How to stretch your anus?
Stretching your anus, whether for the fun and pleasure of doing it or as preparation for getting penetrated, is a delicate matter. Apart from managing hygiene, you must use the proper devices and methods to ensure maximum comfort. Below we'll give tips on safely stretching your anus for anal play.
The smaller, the better
Whatever the goal, anal stretching should be done slowly and gradually.' It's a journey that you should take one size at a time, and the easiest way to do so is to try an anal stretching kit.
These kits usually involve butt plugs and dildos of different sizes; some even have instructions and time frame manuals on how to be used most effectively. If you prefer to do your own shopping, purchase the most miniature plug for starters.
Even if you feel it's something you can easily take in, the sensation of having something enter your anus instead of exiting it requires time to get used to. Moreover, it's better to start with something that seems manageable and easy to get in than risk forcing a bigger-sized toy into your anus and injuring yourself.
Take your time
Every anus is different, which means each person will take different lengths of time to stretch it. Reading up and informing yourself about how long it took other people may give you a general idea, but the key is to listen to your body. Take it slow, and don't rush the process.
You use a single toy for as long as you like until you feel comfortable moving on to a bigger size. If you're using an anal stretching kit, you'll know beforehand which size comes next and can evaluate whether you're ready to move on from what you're wearing.
Practice makes perfect
The longer and more often you engage in anal stretching, the better result you'll have. Although the process shouldn't be rushed, finding a suitable toy to play with daily is best if you're committed to making your anus flexible.
If you decide to use butt plugs, there's no limit to how much time you can wear them. A few minutes a day is fine, but it's okay if you deceit wear it for prolonged periods. Additionally, moving with the toy inside you will increase your sexual drive and make you feel even more motivated to engage in anal play.
You can make your partner part of the process to keep it fun. They can help you insert the toys as a form of foreplay and proceed to please you in other ways while you're wearing the plug.