How to Eat a Pussy: Guide to Cunnilingus

Oral sex is one of the most intimate acts and one of the most effective ways to give a woman an orgasm. It is also one of the surest ways that will ensure your female partner will writhe in pleasure, and you can give her all the pleasure she deserves. Becoming an expert in cunnilingus can be daunting as it calls for practice and experimentation. However, it is helpful to consult a guide, which is why we prepared this pussy licking guide, where we share the techniques that will help you learn how to become a pussy-eating expert.

How to Become a Master in Pussy Licking

Popular culture has set so many false expectations when it comes to sex, and many get confused or rush through things just because they’ve been conditioned to do so. But, the truth about oral sex is the opposite, and the key thing to know when going down on a woman is to take your time and do it right.

Master Female Anatomy

The key thing to becoming an expert in cunnilingus is to learn female anatomy. The image below describes all the parts of the vulva – the outside of the vagina where you need to aim your efforts. Here are the main areas to know and focus on:

• Clitoral Hood – the top of the vagina that covers the clitoris. It is a skin flap that protects the clitoris, and once the woman is aroused, the clitoral hood moves back to reveal the clitoris.
• Clitoris – the most sensitive part of the vulva where you need to focus the most of your attention when eating her out. When the woman is aroused, the clitoris gets engorged and extends above the hood. But, under the surface, the clitoris extends on both sides of the vaginal canal, which is why focusing attention on a larger area is essential.
• Outer and Inner labia – these are flaps of skin that are on both sides of the vagina and protect it. These can be very sensitive in some women and not that sensitive in others, so licking and teasing these comes down to personal preference.
• Urethral opening – this is the opening from which the pee comes out. It does not require any special attention.
• Vaginal opening – the vaginal opening is the entry to the vagina, and this is a sensitive part where you can direct your attention. You can focus your attention on licking the opening, but you can also add a finger or an insertable toy and stimulate the outside with your tongue.
• Anus – the anus is also very sensitive, and many women respond pretty well to licking and teasing of this area.

On the inside of the vagina, there are the G-spot and the A-spot, two highly sensitive areas where you should also focus your attention in combination with oral play on the outside.

• G-spot – the G-spot is located about 2 to 3 inches inside the vaginal canal on the front wall. It is the area that feels ridged, and the more a woman is aroused, the more these ridges are pronounced. Check out our guide on the best G-spot vibes.
• A-spot – the A-spot is deeper in the vagina, on the back wall, near the cervix. This is a highly sensitive spot that leads to intense vaginal orgasms.

Devote Time to Arousal

Now that you know about the key areas of the female anatomy, we must emphasize the importance of arousal. We constantly talk about the effectiveness of foreplay, and when you are looking to make the entire cunnilingus experience more pleasurable and more memorable for the woman, make sure you devote enough time or about 15 to 20 minutes.

• Kissing – start slow, with sensual kisses beginning from the mouth and moving your attention lower. Pay attention to the breasts and nipples, and move lower to her waist and hips.
• Don’t rush with the panties – we recommend not rushing with taking her panties off quickly. Instead, kiss her over the panties and use these to your advantage.

Position and Build-Up

When she is sufficiently aroused, you should move forward and continue to tease and lick. Building up the arousal to incredible heights is essential, as it will allow her body to get in the groove and experience a mind-blowing orgasm like nothing else:

• Getting her naked – if she is still wearing panties, then you can slowly slip the panties down her hips and take them off. It is time to take it a step further, but not all the way yet, so make sure you keep your kisses and licks light and teasing.
• Find the perfect position – you can try having her on her back with her knees spread wide and her heels on the bed. It is the most comfortable position for the woman, and she is most relaxed in this pose. However, you can also try positioning her in a doggy-style pose and lick her pussy from behind. Facesitting is also a viable position.

Tongue Action

Now, it is time for the good stuff – learn how to control your tongue for the most effective stimulation and most powerful orgasms she’s ever known.

• Relaxed tongue – sticking your tongue out and holding it wide, flat and relaxed is one of the most effective ways to lick a pussy. Start with your tongue down at the vaginal opening and lick your way all the way up to the clitoris, making sure the tip of the tongue passes over the clitoris. Try to keep your tongue as relaxed as possible, keeping it wide and flat, and move your head.
• Don’t Rush – don’t rush the pleasure, and don’t move like you are licking an ice cream that is about to melt. Instead, take it slow and easy. Slow and steady is essential. When you apply a slow and steady rhythm, you make sure that her pussy is hyper-sensitive, which will cause the woman to orgasm harder than usual.

Mix Up Techniques

Apart from using your tongue in a relaxed, wide, flat position to lick her pussy, you can also try sucking her clit. To do this, make an O with your lips that is slightly bigger than her clitoris so it will fit in your mouth and cover the surrounding area. Cover the lips with saliva, place them over the clitoris and start sucking.

Stay gentle and slowly and easily suck her clitoris in your mouth; most women respond very positively to this action. You can keep a constant level of suction, suck hard and slowly release it or try a rhythmic action where you pull her clit in and out of your mouth.

Use Fingers and Add in Accessories

Eating a woman out is not just about tongue action, as you can also add in your fingers or use other accessories. Let’s cover some things that you can easily do to amp up the sensations:

• Fingering – if you insert a finger in the vaginal opening when you lick her pussy, you are simultaneously providing internal and external stimulation, which many women enjoy. One of the easiest to do is to lick her pussy with the tongue flat out while fingering and massaging her G-spot.
• Add a vibrator – while using your fingers to stimulate her internally is a good idea; if you can’t reach deep enough with your fingers, you can always use a thin dildo or a longer bullet vibrator and provide the extra oomph she’s craving. We recommend you have the vibrations on low as they only need to support the external stimulation you are providing with your tongue.

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Consistency Is Key

We noted this above, but it is so important that we’ll mention it again: being consistent is key. Most women prefer constant pressure (notice how we don’t say hard pressure) on their pussies during oral play, so try to stay as consistent as possible. There is nothing wrong with changing things from time to time, like swirling up your tongue around her clit or flicking it from side to side. Still, many women find the inconsistent flicking of their clit more annoying and not pleasurable.

Things to Avoid During Oral Sex

Now that we covered the things to do, we must outline the things you should not do when eating pussy. Most of these are problems that can potentially ruin the pleasure of your woman. Here, we list the things to avoid and the things to focus your attention on:

• Don’t spell the alphabet – a common move when performing cunnilingus is to draw the alphabet with your tongue on her pussy. It will not bring the expected results as it is an incredibly inconsistent move. While some of the moves will hit the places she likes, most of the time, you’ll be just scraping your tongue all over the place without focusing attention on where she needs it the most.
• Don’t imitate porn – porn is made to look good on screen, and that does not mean that porn poses are enjoyable or pleasurable for the partners. So, avoid taking instructions on pussy licking from a porn video.
• Don’t complain about the smell and taste – the vagina has its own smell and taste, and it is supposed to smell like a vagina, and it is not something to complain about. There is nothing wrong with the natural smell and taste of the vagina. Most men describe the vaginal smell as salty, musty, or tangy, and it is perfectly normal.
• Don’t forget your hands – using your hands when licking a pussy is almost mandatory. For example, switch it up between stimulating her with your tongue and rubbing her with your fingers.
• Listen to her body – always listen to her body and observe how she reacts to the things you do to her. Moaning and breathless sounds are indications that you are doing things correctly.
• The orgasm is not the only goal – oral sex is all about pleasure and intimacy, so our advice is not to focus on the orgasm but on providing pleasure during the whole act. Female arousal and sexual pleasure work differently than male pleasure, so she won’t be pressured to cum or fake an orgasm if she can’t get there.

The Bottom Line

It is surprisingly easy to lick a pussy and make your woman writhe in pleasure. However, the first thing you need to do is to help her get in the mood and amplify her sex drive. Talk to her and ask her how she feels about having her pussy licked, and do the things we outlined above to give her a mind-blowing oral sex that she’ll never forget. It is, after all, only fair to return the favor and explore and enjoy each other’s bodies.

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