How to Eat a Pussy: Guide to Cunnilingus

How to Become a Master in Pussy Licking

Popular culture has set so many false expectations when it comes to sex, and many get confused or rush through things just because they’ve been conditioned to do so. But, the truth about oral sex is the opposite, and the key thing to know when going down on a woman is to take your time and do it right.

Master Female Anatomy

The key thing to becoming an expert in cunnilingus is to learn female anatomy. The image below describes all the parts of the vulva – the outside of the vagina where you need to aim your efforts. Here are the main areas to know and focus on:

• Clitoral Hood – the top of the vagina that covers the clitoris. It is a skin flap that protects the clitoris, and once the woman is aroused, the clitoral hood moves back to reveal the clitoris.
• Clitoris – the most sensitive part of the vulva where you need to focus the most of your attention when eating her out. When the woman is aroused, the clitoris gets engorged and extends above the hood. But, under the surface, the clitoris extends on both sides of the vaginal canal, which is why focusing attention on a larger area is essential.
• Outer and Inner labia – these are flaps of skin that are on both sides of the vagina and protect it. These can be very sensitive in some women and not that sensitive in others, so licking and teasing these comes down to personal preference.
• Urethral opening – this is the opening from which the pee comes out. It does not require any special attention.
• Vaginal opening – the vaginal opening is the entry to the vagina, and this is a sensitive part where you can direct your attention. You can focus your attention on licking the opening, but you can also add a finger or an insertable toy and stimulate the outside with your tongue.
• Anus – the anus is also very sensitive, and many women respond pretty well to licking and teasing of this area.

On the inside of the vagina, there are the G-spot and the A-spot, two highly sensitive areas where you should also focus your attention in combination with oral play on the outside.

• G-spot – the G-spot is located about 2 to 3 inches inside the vaginal canal on the front wall. It is the area that feels ridged, and the more a woman is aroused, the more these ridges are pronounced, and you can more easily feel them with your finger. Another important thing about the G-spot is that it does not feel very good when teased if the woman is not sufficiently aroused, so make sure you devote enough time to foreplay and arousal. Check out our guide on the best G-spot vibes.
• A-spot – the A-spot is deeper in the vagina, on the back wall, near the cervix. This is a highly sensitive spot that leads to intense vaginal orgasms. Still, it is more challenging to reach it with a finger, so we recommend you get an insertable toy or a dildo when looking to stimulate it during oral play.

Devote Time to Arousal

Now that you know about the key areas of the female anatomy, we must emphasize the importance of arousal. We constantly talk about the effectiveness of foreplay, and when you are looking to make the entire cunnilingus experience more pleasurable and more memorable for the woman, make sure you devote enough time or about 15 to 20 minutes. Here is a step-by-step guide on how to tease and arouse a woman:

• Kissing – start slow, with sensual kisses beginning from the mouth and moving your attention lower. Pay attention to the breasts and nipples, and move lower to her waist and hips. Slowly explore her body and learn all her erogenous zones.
• Don’t rush with the panties – we recommend not rushing with taking her panties off quickly. Instead, kiss her over the panties and use these to your advantage. Then, move your attention lower, to her inner thighs, and pay attention to the sensitive skin, building arousal as you go.

Position and Build-Up

When she is sufficiently aroused, you should move forward and continue to tease and lick. Building up the arousal to incredible heights is essential, as it will allow her body to get in the groove and experience a mind-blowing orgasm like nothing else:

• Getting her naked – if she is still wearing panties, then you can slowly slip the panties down her hips and take them off. It is time to take it a step further, but not all the way yet, so make sure you keep your kisses and licks light and teasing. We recommend you keep some contact with the vagina while you explore it with your lips and tongue.
• Find the perfect position – you can try having her on her back with her knees spread wide and her heels on the bed. It is the most comfortable position for the woman, and she is most relaxed in this pose. However, you can also try positioning her in a doggy-style pose and lick her pussy from behind. Facesitting is a viable position, as then you won’t have to move your neck too much but can get better control over the movements of the tongue on her vulva. You can also try the famous 69 pose, where you perform mutual oral sex on each other.

Tongue Action

Now, it is time for the good stuff – learn how to control your tongue for the most effective stimulation and most powerful orgasms she’s ever known.

• Relaxed tongue – sticking your tongue out and holding it wide, flat and relaxed is one of the most effective ways to lick a pussy. Start with your tongue down at the vaginal opening and lick your way all the way up to the clitoris, making sure the tip of the tongue passes over the clitoris. When you reach the top, pull away and start from the bottom again. Saliva is welcomed, as it will facilitate the action and make the entire experience more pleasurable. Try to keep your tongue as relaxed as possible, keeping it wide and flat, and move your head. It will provide the most consistent stimulation and not take away from the experience. Try not to make any shapes and extra movements with your tongue, and don’t try to exert additional pressure, as it does not mean more intense pleasure. Instead, lighter movement with a relaxed tongue can be far more effective than anything else. You can pause and ask her how she feels or try to gauge her reaction by exerting more pressure and seeing how she enjoys the pleasure.
• Don’t Rush – don’t rush the pleasure, and don’t move like you are licking an ice cream that is about to melt. Instead, take it slow and easy, as slow and easy does it. Slow and steady is essential, as it will provide her with enough stimulation on the vaginal opening, the labia, and the clitoris that will lead to a consistent build-up and ultimate detonation. Adversely, switching it up may ruin the mood and cool her off instead of arousing her more. When you apply a slow and steady rhythm, you make sure that her pussy is hyper-sensitive, which will cause the woman to orgasm harder than usual and for the orgasm to last longer.

Mix Up Techniques

Apart from using your tongue in a relaxed, wide, flat position to lick her pussy, you can also try sucking her clit. To do this, make an O with your lips that is slightly bigger than her clitoris so it will fit in your mouth and cover the surrounding area. Cover the lips with saliva, place them over the clitoris and start sucking.

Stay gentle and slowly and easily suck her clitoris in your mouth; most women respond very positively to this action. You can keep a constant level of suction, suck hard and slowly release it or try a rhythmic action where you pull her clit in and out of your mouth. You can check her body and gauge what is most effective for her.

Use Fingers and Add in Accessories

Eating a woman out is not just about tongue action, as you can also add in your fingers or use other accessories. Let’s cover some things that you can easily do to amp up the sensations:

• Fingering – if you insert a finger in the vaginal opening when you lick her pussy, you are simultaneously providing internal and external stimulation, which many women enjoy. One of the easiest to do is to lick her pussy with the tongue flat out while fingering and massaging her G-spot. There is sufficient scientific data to confirm that manual stimulation (fingering) of the G-spot combined with oral stimulation is most likely to cause a woman to orgasm. A trick to enhance the pleasure further is to press down on her mons pubis with your free hand and provide external pressure on the area for a snuggle fit and more stimulation.
• Add a vibrator – while using your fingers to stimulate her internally is a good idea; if you can’t reach deep enough with your fingers, you can always use a thin dildo or a longer bullet vibrator and provide the extra oomph she’s craving. We recommend you have the vibrations on low as they only need to support the external stimulation you are providing with your tongue.

Consistency Is Key

We noted this above, but it is so important that we’ll mention it again: being consistent is key. Most women prefer constant pressure (notice how we don’t say hard pressure) on their pussies during oral play, so try to stay as consistent as possible. There is nothing wrong with changing things from time to time, like swirling up your tongue around her clit or flicking it from side to side. Still, many women find the inconsistent flicking of their clit more annoying and not pleasurable.

Things to Avoid During Oral Sex

Now that we covered the things to do, we must outline the things you should not do when eating pussy. Most of these are problems that can potentially ruin the pleasure of your woman. Here, we list the things to avoid and the things to focus your attention on:

• Don’t spell the alphabet – a ommon move when performing cunnilingus is to draw the alphabet with your tongue on her pussy. It will not bring the expected results as it is an incredibly inconsistent move. While some of the moves will hit the places she likes, most of the time, you’ll be just scraping your tongue all over the place without focusing attention on where she needs it the most.
• Don’t imitate porn – porn is made to look good on screen, and that does not mean that porn poses are enjoyable or pleasurable for the partners. So, avoid taking instructions on pussy licking from a porn video.
• Don’t complain about the smell and taste – the vagina has its own smell and taste, and it is supposed to smell like a vagina, and it is not something to complain about. Unless the woman has very poor hygiene or has a health issue that makes her vagina smell bad, there is nothing wrong with the natural smell and taste of the vagina. Most men describe the vaginal smell as salty, musty, or tangy, and it is perfectly normal.
• Don’t forget your hands – using your hands when licking a pussy is almost mandatory, as you can do so much more when you involve the fingers and change things up. For example, switch it up between stimulating her with your tongue and rubbing her with your fingers. Also, inserting one or two fingers in the vagina when focusing your tongue on the vulva is a good way to pleasure her in two places at the same time. Or use your hands to tease her breasts or thighs while you lick her to completion.
• Listen to her body – always listen to her body and observe how she reacts to the things you do to her. It will give you a good idea of the things that she enjoys the most and also ask for her feedback to learn what techniques are the ones that will bring her immense pleasure every time. Moaning and breathless sounds are indications that you are doing things correctly, and harder, faster breaths and muscles tensing are a sure way that she is close to an orgasm, which means you are on the path of making her cum.
• The orgasm is not the only goal – oral sex is all about pleasure and intimacy, so our advice is not to focus on the orgasm but on providing pleasure during the whole act. When you are eating her pussy, don’t promise that she will get off. Female arousal and sexual pleasure work differently than male pleasure, so she won’t be pressured to cum or fake an orgasm if she can’t get there. Instead, focus on providing a well-rounded experience and ask her what else to do to her to provide her with the ultimate sexual pleasure.

The Bottom Line

It is surprisingly easy to lick a pussy and make your woman writhe in pleasure. However, the first thing you need to do is to help her get in the mood and amplify her sex drive. Talk to her and ask her how she feels about having her pussy licked, and do the things we outlined above to give her a mind-blowing oral sex that she’ll never forget. It is, after all, only fair to return the favor and explore and enjoy each other’s bodies.