The Best Strap-On Sex Positions to Try

Get Started with Strap-On Sex

Before we share some of the best positions to have strap-on sex, we should quickly rundown through the basics of getting started with strap-on sex. First off, discuss things with your partner and obtain their consent. Then, choose an appropriate strap-on harness and dildo.

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When you and your partner decide on the type of strap-on play you wish to engage in, you need to pick out your strap-on harness and dildo. Make sure you get a well-fitting harness that you can securely put on and adjust to your body. Then, choose the dildo and place it in the harness, and make sure the dildo corresponds to your experience level and intended use. For sexy and exciting options, check out our selection of dildos for strap-ons.

Put on the harness and practice walking and moving with it. You don’t want to put it on for the first time before sex and risk hurting yourself or your partner. Once you have everything nicely settled and your body accustomed to the strap-on, grab the lube, and you are all set.

When it comes to lube, it is non-negotiable, as the anus is not self-lubricating. We recommend you stick to quality water-based lube, as this is compatible with all sex toy materials and skin types. If it starts to dry, a few drops of water will reactivate it, or you can always apply more of it. We don’t recommend you use silicone, or oil lubes, as these can mess up the strap-on dildo surfaces. If you have doubts about hygiene, the receiving partner can do an anal douche to cleanse their body, and you can also use condoms for added safety and easier cleanup.

Best Positions for Strap-On Sex

When you have everything ready, you can get down to business with your partner. While it will take you some time to get in the groove of moving and thrusting with the strap-on, practice will take care of this. We have to remind you to go slow, as you will not get the same feeling with the strap-on, as you don’t feel it, but it depends on interpreting your partner’s responses. Start with beginner-friendly strap-on sex positions and move on to more advanced poses when you and your partner gain some experience.

• Missionary – the missionary pose is a classic for a reason, and this pose is excellent for first-time strap-on users. The man lies on his back and puts a pillow under the hips to elevate them and have a better angle of penetration. The woman comes between his legs, positioning the strap-on dildo and slowly entering her partner. The woman controls the pace, but the man has his hands free for further exploration of the woman’s body.
• Rear Entry – this pose is perfect for beginners in pegging. The man is lying face-down on the bed in a relaxed pose, and the woman straddles his thighs and slowly enters him from behind. It may not be the best pose for first-time strap-on users, but once you gain some experience, you can freely try this pose. The position allows the woman to control the movement and the depth of penetration and leaves the hands free to explore her man’s back. To boost intimacy, the woman can lie on top of her man or caress them sensually. To reenact a D/s pose, the woman can pin and hold her man down while penetrating them.
• Cow Girl/Rodeo Rider – when the woman is on top, riding the man, the pose is known as the Cow Girl pose. However, because more often, the woman wears the harness and penetrates her man, this pose is called the Rodeo Rider. The woman lies on her back, and the man straddles her thighs, slowly coming down on the strap-on dildo. The man will control the depth and speed of penetration, and the woman won’t have to move too much. It is excellent for beginners because both partners can become more comfortable with using the strap-on, and the hands can be engaged in stimulating the penis, the breasts, or the vagina.
• Spooning Sex – the spooning sex pose is excellent for lazy sex, and it can also be perfect for strap-on sex. Both partners lie on their sides, and the woman slowly eases the strap-on while whispering in her man’s ear. The woman can drape her leg over his hips, or the man can lift his top leg for better access and control of the movements. It is excellent for people with intermediate experience, and it also allows the woman to reach around and stimulate his penis with the nipples or hold her partner in place and whisper encouraging or sexy words.
• Doggy Style – America’s favorite sex pose is excellent for strap-on sex as well. This is a powerful pose that has so much potential as it is perfect for vaginal sex, anal sex, and pegging. The man gets on all fours, and the woman gets behind him, angling and slowly pushing the strap-on in. The man is free to play with their penis or simply enjoy the P-spot stimulation. If the woman is shorter than the man, she can put a pillow under her knees to gain some height, or the man can bend his knees to lower his body.
• Bent Over – this pose requires one partner to be bent over a suitable piece of furniture, and the other partner penetrates them from behind. For strap-on sex, you should find a furniture item that is the right height for the woman to comfortably penetrate her man. We recommend you test a table, an armchair, or the side of the couch, or get a special sex bench that is optimized in shape and height. The man should lean over, draping their body over the chosen furniture, and the woman approaches and penetrates him from behind. Similar to doggy style, this position allows the woman to pin down her man and caress his back.
• Sandwich – this position is interesting, as it is a variation of the missionary pose, but requires some experience. The man lies on his back and brings his knees up towards their chest. It leaves his back door open and ready, and the woman approaches from the front, slicing between his legs and starting to penetrate him. She needs to grab his thighs and use them for leverage while thrusting.
• P-Spot Target – similar to the sandwich pose we explained above, the P-Spot Target pose requires the man to lie on his back and bring his legs up, lifting his butt. We recommend you use a sex pillow to elevate the body and keep it in a comfortable position. The woman gets on her knees, with her legs slightly open for better stability and leverage, and penetrates her man. The woman can play with the man’s penis and bring him to incredible orgasmic heights.
• Sitting Sex – is more common for lap dances and a man penetrating a woman; the sitting pose is also suitable for strap-on sex. The woman should sit down on a comfortable chair, and the man needs to straddle her thighs and slowly come down on the strap-on dildo. The man’s legs are often longer, which makes this a comfortable pose for him, as he can control the depth and angle of penetration. The man’s legs can be on the outside of the woman’s thighs for better control of the depth, or he can have the legs on the inside of the woman’s spread legs for more pressure and pleasure.

How to Improve Strap-On Sex for the Wearer

Now, let’s talk about some creative and fun ways you can improve strap-on play for the person wearing the strap-on, which is often the woman. While this sex game can be stimulating psychologically, there is little actual physical stimulation for the woman. Thus, additional toys are necessary.

• The main way to make strap-on sex more pleasurable for the woman is to use a strapless strap-on toy that is designed and optimized for the simultaneous stimulation of both partners. We loved testing these, and we refer you to our guide on how strapless strap-ons work and how to use a strapless strap-on.
• An egg vibrator is another excellent option to add to when engaging in strap-on sex. The egg vibe is insertable and sits in the vagina, while you can slip on the harness on top and enjoy the vibrations as you pleasure your partner. We recommend you get a quality vibrating egg with a wireless remote controlled and even hand over the remote to your partner and allow them to control your pleasure while you fill them up with your strap-on.
• The next option to consider is the vibrating panty. These are slim-shaped vibrators that slip and clip on panties, positioning against the clit and providing extra sensations while you penetrate your partner. Please note that these only work with underwear-style harnesses that have enough room for the panty vibe to clip to. Quality models come with wireless remotes so that you can change the settings and vibration levels mid-play.
• Using a butt plug when you engage in strap-on play is another viable option, as the butt plug will keep your nerves in a state of heightened arousal and make you needy for sex. We recommend you get a quality anal vibe with a wireless remote or get a glass butt plug that is firm and weighty and will provide a feeling of fullness.
• The wand vibe is a woman’s friend, and it can be pretty helpful when engaging in strap-on sex. You can use the wand to provide vibrations at the base of the strap-on dildo so that both partners can feel the vibrations, or you can focus the wand’s vibrating head on the underside of the man’s penis while filling them up with the strap-on.

The Bottom Line

We hope that you found our guide on the best strap-on sex positions helpful and that we’ve helped you with some issues or fears. Please note that strap-on sex is not for everybody, but if you want to try it, there should be no fear or shame. Talk things over with your partner, choose an appropriate strap-on harness and dildo, and enjoy.

There is nothing wrong with widening your sexual horizons and exploring your kinks, and we support you fully in your road to sexual exploration. We invite you to check out our sex toy store, where we carry a broad range of strap-ons, vibrators, dildos, male sex toys, anal toys, sexy lingerie, BDSM gear, and all else for a more fulfilling sex life.