Regular dildos and vibrators are fun, but there's nothing like penetrating your partner. Better yet, as many couples would agree, enjoying internal stimulation while penetrating someone is the most fun, intimate, and pleasurable thing you can do in your bedroom.
So, today, we're talking about the queen of strap-ons, the strapless strap-on! Most people avoid them and find them intimidating. It's only logical to think, how can I keep it inside while penetrating someone else?
The strapless strap-on is not for beginners, but with some practice, this double-edged pleasure device can bring pleasurable stimulation and multiple orgasms to both parties involved. There are several types to choose from, and you can even make modifications to get used to it and keep the strap-on inside more manageable.
Follow our guide as we explain why you should give strapless strap-ons a try, how to use strapless strap-ons, and all the available types you can choose from!
Why Use a Strapless Strap-On
First things first, let's discuss what a strapless strap-on is. If you have not seen one, you probably need clarification about its looks. A strapless dildos is a double-ended strap-on dildo without a harness. They feature a round bulb, a saddle, and a dildo for penetrating the receiver. The bulb is designed for people with vaginas to wear it.
The main reason for using a strapless strap-on dildo is the increased pleasure and closer connection with your partner. Both partners can enjoy being penetrated, and the opportunities for multiple orgasms or finishing together are right there.
Another reason to try strapless strap-ons is that they allow more spontaneity. They take less time and effort to put in; you can slide the bulb in, and you're ready for penetration. Moreover, the strapless strap-on can be more affordable since you don't have the additional expense of buying a harness and other strap-on equipment.
Strapless strap-on dildos are designed to fit your vagina and are positioned for entering your partner at the right angle. No pain or bruising should be involved if you get a suitable model and lubricate correctly.
Overall, strap-less strap-ons are fantastic and can be integrated into the sex life of all couples. Since only the wearer needs to have a vagina, the sex toy can also be utilized for anal penetration of the receiver. Moreover, it can initiate gender play, role rehearsal, or even power plays in your bedroom.
How to Use a Strapless Dildos
While using a strapless dildo is straightforward, there are some things to consider beforehand. Strapless dildos are not suited for beginners, and someone without experience can find it hard to keep the saddle in. If you have experience using strap-ons or are confident in the strength of your pelvic mound, then utilizing this sex toy in your bedroom will be super easy.
First, you need to set the mood and discuss with your partner if you both desire this. Penetration is an intimate act that can bring you closer together and open a new world of sex positions. Ensure you engage in passionate foreplay beforehand and you're both primed and relaxed. You can also use lube to ensure it slips in smoothly.
Be careful and generous with the lubricant if you use the shaft for anal penetration. When the vaginal bulb is in, and you feel comfortable, it's time to take your position. The most basic beginner positions are the missionary or doggy style. They offer comfort for both partners and are naturally the most accessible positions for penetration. If you feel more adventurous, you can also try other positions.
Most importantly, take it slow and listen to your and your partner's body. Comfort on both sides is essential, and you can keep increasing the pace as both of you get used to the movements. One of the reasons many couples prefer strapless strap-ons is because of how realistic they feel during penetration.
Parts of a Strapless Strap-On
Depending on your preference, there are a lot of different shapes and sizes of strapless strap-on dildos you can choose from. In addition, we'll go through all the parts of a strapless strap-ons you can find:
- Vaginal bulb for Immense Pleasure
The main part of a strapless strap-on is the vaginal bulb. This model is the easiest to insert and wear. The bulb can gently massage the G-spot without further expanding the feeling of being penetrated. The shaft, however, can come in different sizes according to the receiver's desires. For a more realistic feel, you can choose bulbs with clitoral bumps that will intensify your internal stimulation.
- Large Bulb for Adventurers
If you want to feel more secure while wearing the strapless dildo, choosing one with a larger bulb might be the better option. The bulb is slightly curved and penetrates deeper into the vagina of the receiver, ensuring any extra movements won't result in it slipping out. Since they are more extensive, you can only expect the stimulation to be stronger. The added security allows you to experiment more with it and try riskier positions.
- Add Vibrations to the Mix
If you're feeling naughty, opting for a vibrating strapless strap-on will open a new realm of pleasure. Built-in vibrating mechanisms ensure you and your partner experience intensified massage and G-spot stimulation on top of the regular penetration.
- Meet the Rabbit
If you desire clitoral stimulation while penetrating your partner, opt for a strapless strap-on with built-in rabbit ears. The extra feature will ensure maximum pleasure while stimulating your G-spot and clitoris. Some rabbit strap-ons have a vibrating mechanism, guaranteeing explosive orgasms.
- Adjustable Neck Strap-on for Better Comfort
This is the most tactical strapless strap-on, as it allows you the most comfort and a lot of room for experimenting with positions. The dildo and the bulb are joined in the middle with a flexible neck, which can be adjusted to fit your preference. It will allow you more freedom to shift mid-sex and play with different angles.
Strap-On Dildos vs. Strapless Dildos
Both strapless and strap-on dildos offer a lot of versatility, whether we're talking about size, use, or practicality. Although there is a slight distinction for the receiver, each option has a set of benefits and a few drawbacks for the person who chooses to wear it.
Here are the similarities between the two: the dildo/probe on both strap-ons is very similar in size, girth, and material. Also, both strap-on dildos and strapless dildos can be vibrating and textured. Strap-on dildos are more practical for rough sex as the harness provides secure holding of the dildo during penetration.
Also, the strap-on dildos usually come with adjustable O-rings, and you can use these with various harnesses. In a way, the strap-on dildos are a better option for beginners looking to penetrate someone, as these are more secure and come in various designs.
However, you must purchase a harness to use with your strap-on dildo and try it out before you can use it with your partner. The harness can be a turn-off for someone, as they come with straps and require adjustability. Please note that some strap-on dildos can cause pain to the pelvic mound after prolonged use and vigorous play.
On the other side, strapless strap-ons are designed for pleasure of both partners. You and your partners can both be penetrated at the same time; the woman controls the strapless dildo with her Kegel muscles and the other partner (whether female or male) can enjoy being penetrated.
Strapless dildos also provide targeted clitoral stimulation, especially in models with vibrations and even rabbit clit stimulators. These are also easier to put on and take off, and if you don't like the sensation, you can easily take it off and continue with your sexy game.
Still, the strapless dildos request the use of your pelvic muscles, which means you'll need to work to strengthen them before trying the sex toy. Overall, strapless strap-ons are not something for beginners, but lucky for all novices, many strapless strap-ons can be used with a harness until you gain enough experience and confidence to use these as intended.
How to Keep the Bulb In
It is the most critical question for many women looking to try a strapless strap-on face. Honestly, the answer could be tricky. The vagina is self-lubricating, so the interior can become quite slippery, it may become nearly impossible to keep the bulb in place.
You also have to think about the weight of the strapless strap-on. Some materials are heavier than others; if you consider any electronic mechanisms inside, your pelvic muscles may not be up to the task.
Next comes penetration. The movements and the slippery environment may easily result in your strap-on slipping out. There’s also the added resistance of the place you’re penetrating. For example, your partner’s vagina will also be wet, and depending on the angle of the position, it may be easier to penetrate. On the other hand, the anus is tighter and may require a lot of strength to thrust in and out of it.
Start exercising your pelvic floor muscles to strengthen them and be able to hold the strapless strap-on bulb inside. As a by-product of improved pelvic floor mucles, you can get deeper orgasms. An exciting way to do this is to use Kegel balls – insert the balls in the vagina and flex the pelvic floor muscles to strengthen them.
Note that you shouldn’t flex your glutes while wearing a strapless strap-on, as it has the opposite effect on your pelvic muscles. Our advice is to try sex positions that provide extra comfort and allow you to better grip the vaginal bulb. One pose for this is for you to lie on your back and have your partner ride you, as it allows more control and comfort for both partners.
Strapless Dildo with Strap-On Harnesses & Strap-On Underwear
If you want to keep using your strapless toy but require a helping hand, you can opt for strap-on underwear. We’re talking about specially designed panties or boxers with strategically located holes for the strapless dildo to fit in.
These are a convenient choice because they allow you to enjoy the appeal of the double-ended strap-on while eliminating the possibility of it slipping out at any time. You get the same pleasure and experience minus the constant worry.
The only downside here is that you need to find the right fit of underwear for the size of your toy. In addition, some people feel that wearing underwear during sex takes a bit out of the visual appeal.
For those who are concerned about the sexual and aesthetic appeal in the bedroom, using a harness cam be the best option. You can use multiple strapless strap-ons with a harness that has adjustable O-rings.
There's no real downside to this option except the added cost. Depending on your preferred design, some harnesses can be costly, but that's nothing compared to the pleasure you get in return. Additionally, you can use one harness with multiple toys, so their longevity is guaranteed.
Final thoughts
Both traditional and strapless strap-ons are excellent choices that can enrich your sex life. The added bulb variations, the shaft's design, and extra features, such as the rabbit ears or vibrating motors, are more reasons to opt for the strapless dildo.
As we stated, this sex toy might be challenging for beginners, but there's a solution to that problem. You can devote yourself to Kegel exercises, start using Kegel balls, and try out a few of our tips for keeping the bulb in during sex. While you get used to the saddle, you can opt for strap-on underwear or a traditional harness to rest assured that the sex toy will stay in place.
You can also make full use of an adjustable strapless dildo and enjoy a variety of positions that are guaranteed to bring you and your partner to climax every time. There's no need to wait – browse our store for the most exciting sex toys that will spice up your bedroom!
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