How to Use a Strapless Strap-on

Why use a strapless strap-on?

First things first, let's discuss what a strapless strap-on is. If you have not seen one, you probably need clarification about its looks.  

A strapless strap-on is a strap-on dildo without a harness. They feature a round bulb, a saddle or pony, and a dildo for penetrating the receiver. The bulb is also known as the saddle or pony, designed for people with vaginas to wear it.

Since the bulb goes inside your vagina, it's logical that you won't need extra help to hold it in place. Instead of a harness, your pelvic floor will do the heavy lifting.  

The main reason for using a strapless strap-on would be the added pleasure. Both partners can enjoy being penetrated, and the opportunities for multiple orgasms or finishing together are right there. In addition, there are vibrating strapless strap-ons that add extra stimulation and could bring more intense pleasure.

Another reason to try strapless strap-ons is that they allow more spontaneity. They take less time and effort to put in, you can slide the bulb in you, and you're ready for penetration. Moreover, the strapless strap-on can be much cheaper since you don't have the additional expense of buying a harness and other standard strap-on equipment.

Unfortunately, some regular strap-ons can cause pain in the pubic mound. Because of their positioning, the penetration can bruise the spot, preventing you from continuously penetrating your partner and using the toy. Strapless strap-ons, however, are perfectly designed to fit your vagina and positioned for entering your partner at the right angle. No pain or bruising should be involved if you lubricate correctly.  

Overall, strap-less strap-ons are tremendous and can be integrated into the sex life of lesbian, trans, and even straight couples. Since only the wearer needs to have a vagina, the sex toy can also be utilized for anal penetration of the receiver. Moreover, it can initiate gender play, role rehearsal, or even power plays in your bedroom.

How to use a strapless strap-on?

While using a strapless strap-on is straightforward, there are some things to consider beforehand. Strapless strap-ons are not suited for beginners, and someone without experience can find it hard to keep the saddle in.
If you have experience using strap-ons or are confident in the strength of your pelvic mound, then utilizing this sex toy in your bedroom will be super easy.

First, you need to set the mood and discuss with your partner if you both desire this. Penetration is an intimate act that can bring you closer together and open a new world of sex positions.

Once you agree on who should be the wearer and receiver, let the games begin! Ensure you engage in passionate foreplay beforehand and you're both wet enough. You can also use lube on the build to ensure it slips in smoothly.  

The same goes for your partner. Be careful and generous with the lubricant if you use the shaft for anal penetration.  

If the saddle is in and you feel comfortable, it's time to take your position. The most basic beginner positions are the missionary or doggy style. They offer comfort for both parties and are naturally the most accessible positions for head-on penetration. If you feel more adventurous, you can also try lying on your sides or standing.

Most importantly, take it slow and listen to your partner's body. Comfort on both sides is essential, and you can keep increasing the pace as both of you get used to the movements.

One of the reasons many couples prefer strapless strap-ons is because of how realistic they feel during penetration. Depending on your preference, there are a lot of different shapes and sizes you can choose from. In addition, we'll go through some of the most popular types of strapless strap-ons you can find.

Small bulb for immense pleasure

The most generic strapless strap-on is the one with a small bulb. This model is the easiest to insert and wear. The bulb can gently massage the g-spot without further expanding the feeling of being penetrated. The shaft, however, can come in different sizes according to the receiver's desires.

For a more realistic feel, you can choose bulbs with clitoral bumps that will intensify your internal stimulation.

Large saddle for the adventurers

If you want to feel more secure while wearing the strapless strap-on, choosing one with a larger saddle might be the better option. The saddle is slightly curved and penetrated deeper into the vagina of the receiver, ensuring any extra movements won't result in it slipping out.  

Since they are more extensive, you can only expect the stimulation to be stronger. The added security allows you to experiment more with it and try riskier positions.  

Add vibrations to the mix

If you're feeling naughty, opting for a vibrating strapless strap-on will open a new realm of pleasure. Built-in vibrating mechanisms ensure you and your partner experience intensified massage and g-spot stimulation on top of the regular penetration.  

Meet the rabbit

If you desire clitoral stimulation while penetrating your partner, opt for a strapless strap-on with built-in rabbit ears. The extra feature will ensure maximum pleasure while stimulating yourself on both the g-spot and the clitoris. Some rabbit strap-ons have a vibrating mechanism, guaranteeing explosive orgasms.

Adjustable strap-on for the biggest comfort

This is the most tactical strapless strap-on, as it allows you the most comfort and a lot of space for experimenting with positions. The dildo and the saddle are joined in the middle and can be fixated at one angle, depending on your preference. This will allow you bugger freedom to shift mid-sex and play with different angles.

Adjustable strap-on for the biggest comfort

This is the most tactical strapless strap-on, as it allows you the most comfort and a lot of space for experimenting with positions. The dildo and the saddle are joined in the middle and can be fixated at one angle, depending on your preference. This will allow you bugger freedom to shift mid-sex and play with different angles.

Strap-on dildos vs. strapless strap-ons

Both strapless and strap-on dildos offer a lot of versatility, whether we're talking about size, use, or practicality. Although there is a slight distinction for the receiver, each option has a set of benefits and a few drawbacks for the person who chooses to wear it.

First off, the dildo part in both strap-ons can be the same. There are a lot of size and girth choices, meaning your partner can find something to their satisfaction, whatever strap-on you choose. The same goes for extra features, such as vibrating mechanisms and the texture of the surface.

Regarding the wearer, strap-on dildos are way more practical, especially if you like rough sex. The harness provides extra security that your sex toy will stay in place despite the movements involved during penetration. This will also eliminate the worry of penetrating your partner anally since the anus is usually tighter and provides much more resistance.

In addition, strap-on dildos can come with adjustable O-rings and be used with different dildos. They're perfectly suitable for beginners still getting the hang of penetrating someone else and want to guarantee the dildo won't slip out. For your convenience, you can also choose them in multiple designs - jockstrap, thong, or briefs.  

On the downside, traditional strap-ons involve a lot of extra gadgets in the equipment. You need to purchase a dildo, a harness, and maybe a few o-rings first, which means the cost would be higher. In addition, strap-on dildos are known to cause pain to the pelvic mound after consistent use and are not designed to bring pleasure to the wearer.

There's also the process of getting in and out of the harness. The harness makes it practically impossible if you're in a hurry and want a quickie before going out.  

Strapless strap-ons deliver pleasure to both parties. Between the different types of saddles and different sizes of shafts, they ensure you and your partner can find the right fit and experience simultaneous orgasms like never before.  

In addition, there are adjustable strapless strap-ons that let you explore all kinds of positions otherwise and provide flexibility that a traditional strap-on can't. You can get added clitoral stimulation from designs with rabbit ears or vibrating motors. Finally, there's no harness to put on and prolong the sex, nor extra straps around your body that can bring discomfort afterward.

Contrary to that, strapless strap-ons request the use of your pelvic muscles. This means you'll need to work to strengthen them before trying the sex toy. Overall, strapless strap-ons are not something beginners are used to and may result in many slip-outs if you haven't got the experience.

In that case, it's better to go the safer route and use a harness than spend the whole time wondering if you can keep the sex toy inside.

How to keep the bulb In

This is the most critical question many women face, and honestly, the answer could be tricky. For starters, the vagina is self-lubricating all the time during sex. Because of this, the interior can become quite slippery, and if any additional lubricant is applied, it may become nearly impossible to keep the saddle in place.

You also have to think about the weight of the strapless strap-on. Some materials are heavier than others; if you consider any electronic mechanisms inside, your pelvic muscles may not be up to the task.

Next comes penetration. The movements and the slippery environment may easily result in your strap-on getting out. There's also the added resistance of the place you're penetrating. For example, your partner's vagina will also be wet, and depending on the angle of the position, it may be easier to penetrate. On the other hand, the anus is tighter and may require a lot of strength to thrust in and out of it.  

So what can you do to ensure your strapless strap-on stays in place?

First, you need to think about your previous experience with dildos and remind yourself what has worked best for you. You can choose between different types of saddles, and if you're a beginner, go safe with a larger one.

The next logical step is to 'exercise' your pelvic floor. If you haven't stied a strapless strap-on before or you have, but it keeps slipping out, it means the muscles in that area need strengthening.

You can try simple Kegel exercises or turn things up a notch and exercise with Kegel balls. These are inserted into the vagina, and you keep them inside by doing the Kegel exercise. Doing the exercises correctly and not overworking your muscles is essential, as it can be counterproductive.

Another thing to remember while penetrating your partner is not to squeeze your glutes. You might be compelled to do so while thrusting inside them, but this has the opposite effect and deactivates the pelvic muscles.  

To ensure you're most comfortable with your strapless strap-on, you should also keep positioning in mind. Different sex positions may give you extra comfort and grip over the strap-on. If you want to start slow without immediate penetration, you can lay on your back and allow your partner to ride you. This eliminates the penetrating movements on the wearer's end and enables the receiver to control the speed and depth of the penetration.

Using strap-on underwear with your strapless strap-on

If you want to keep using your strapless toy but require a helping hand, you can opt for strap-on underwear. We're talking about specially designed panties or boxers with a well-located hole for the strapless strap-on to fit in.  

These are a convenient choice because they allow you to enjoy the appeal of the double-ended strap-on while eliminating the possibility of it slipping out at any time. You get the same pleasure and experience minus the constant worry.

The only downside here is that you need to find the right fit of underwear for the size of your toy. In addition, some people feel that wearing underwear during sex takes a bit out of the visual appeal.  

Using a harness with your strapless strap-on

This idea is evident to those who like to think outside the box. Why not indulge in the pleasure of a strapless strap-on while using a harness?

For those who are concerned about the sexual and aesthetic appeal in the bedroom, this may be the best option. You can use multiple strapless strap-ons with a harness that has adjustable O-rings.

There's no real downside to this option except the added cost. Depending on your preferred design, some harnesses can be costly, but that's nothing compared to the pleasure you get in return. Additionally, you can use one harness with multiple toys, so their longevity is guaranteed.  

Final thoughts

Both traditional and strapless strap-ons are excellent choices that can enrich your sex life, but in our opinion, the latter has the edge.

Pleasuring your partner must be high on your list of priorities, but ensuring both are stimulated and enjoy being penetrated simultaneously is the couple's goal. The added saddle variations, the shaft's design, and extra features, such as the rabbit ears or vibrating motors, are more reasons to opt for the strapless strap-on.

As we stated, this sex toy might be challenging for beginners, but there's a solution to that problem. You can fully devote yourself to Kegel exercises, start using Kegel balls and try out a few of our tips for keeping the bulb in during sex. While you get used to the saddle, you can opt for strap-on underwear or a traditional harness to rest assured that the sex toy will stay in place.

You can also make full use of an adjustable strapless strap-on and enjoy a variety of positions that are guaranteed to bring you and your partner to climax every time. There's no need to wait - choose your preferred strapless strap-on at once and bring double penetration into your bedroom!