How to Use an Anal Vibrator and Expand Your Sexual Horizons

What is an Anal Vibrator?

Anal vibrators are vibrators designed for anal play. Typically, anal vibrators are much smaller since the sphincter muscle is tight, and you wouldn’t want to force something through it. They always feature a flared base, allowing you to hold it by it or ensure it stays in place if you leave it in your bum for longer.

Anal vibrators have a vibrating mechanism, which can be battery or power operated. Some anal vibrators have USB cords for recharging, allowing you to take your sex buddy everywhere. Modern anal vibrators have different modes and vibrating patterns, some even offering you to create customized pulsations. You can operate them either by buttons on the base of the vibrator or by a remote controller.

How to Use Anal Vibrator

Anal play is one of those sexy activities that take some time to get used to. If you’ve never played with anal toys, it’s best to start with a simple anal plug or an anal trainer to give your anus time to stretch and get used to the new sensations. However, if you’re ready to move on to anal penetration with a vibrating sex toy, there are a few steps you must follow.

Discuss Consent

If it’s your first time trying an anal vibrator with your partner, you’ll want to discuss it beforehand. Whether you want them to watch, participate, or even totally submit the anal vibrator into your partner’s hands, it’s best to agree upon what goes and what doesn’t before you enter the bedroom. You can also establish some safe words and ground rules on how you should both behave.

Start Clean

The first rule of anal play is to start with a clean booty. It’s best to empty your bowels beforehand and avoid messy accidents later. You can shower or use a cleaning solution to remove fecal remains from your anus using appropriate anal douche. We also have a detailed guide on how to prepare for anal sex and clean your bum.

Prepare the Mood

Anal play is an intimate act, whether solo or with a partner. Make your environment as relaxing and calm as possible. You can light candles, put on music, or even dress up in your favorite lingerie for the occasion; anything that will put you in the mood is welcome.

Relax Your Anus

Simply thinking about something going up your but can make your anus instantly freeze up. Instead of being tense about it, relax your sphincter before even using the anal vibrator. You can do this by slowly massaging the muscle and maxing circles around it with your index finger. You can add some quality water-based lube to make everything smoother. You can also start playing with other body parts, such as your nipples or clit, to get in the mood. Initiating anal play becomes easier when you’re turned on and crave stimulation.

Start Slow and Listen to Your Body

Once you feel comfortable with the massage, you or your partner can insert a finger into your anus. Slowly build up to two or more fingers as your anus gets more relaxed and easier to stretch. You can choose a small butt plug and wear it for a while to increase the flexibility of your anus.

Bring on the Lube

Once ready to insert the anal vibrator, you must also reach for the lube. It’s best to put some lube on your anus and a larger quantity on the anal vibrator. Ensure the lube you’ve used is compatible with the sex toy and won’t cause unnecessary discomfort or make you susceptible to infections. Generally, it’s best to select water-based lubricants since they pair well with all sex toy materials and are easy on the skin.

Insert Your Anal Vibrator

While it sounds like an easy job, this process can take a while. Some people take multiple tries, days, or weeks to reach this stage. After you lube up your anal vibrator, you can set it on low vibrations and drag it around your anus. The pulsations will provide a pleasant massage, allowing the muscles to relax even more. If your partner controls the device, tell them to start pushing it in a few millimeters at a time.

You can dictate the pace and determine how deep the anal vibrator goes. Once it’s in, allow it to sit for a while before moving on to penetrations. Pleasure is guaranteed if you don’t forcefully push it in and use enough lube! You can increase the thrusting speed and engage the vibrations as things heat up.

Aftercare & Cleaning

Anal sex, whether with a natural penis or anal vibrator, can sometimes cause minor skin tears and cause bleeding. It’s recommended to shower after sex and rinse the area as gently and as much as possible, but make sure you use a neutral soap and warm (not hot) water.

Then, wash your vibrator. You can use warm water, a specialized toy cleaning solution, or antibacterial soap to rinse it. You can also check the sex toy’s label to determine whether you can fully or partially submerge it into water. Once clean, leave the anal vibrator to air dry and store it in a toy storage bag to keep it safe from lint and direct sunlight.

Types of Anal Vibrators

You can select between several possibilities when it comes to anal vibrators: butt plugs, anal vibrators, anal beads, and vibrating anal dildos. However, most people usually go for the basic butt plug because this one has a straightforwrd use.

Next, you cqan select from a list of anal vibrators. These come in various shapes and sizes, as you get to choose differnent shapes and sizes, including vibrating butt plugs and vibrating anal beads that are optimized for intense pleasure and comfortable use. We need to also mention the vibrating prostate massagers, vibrating anal probes and vibrating anal dildos, as these not only vibrate, but are also intended for targeted anal stimulation.

Choosing The Right Anal Vibrator For You

While anal vibratos can be super fun, they are powered devices that must be handled carefully for your safety and pleasure. We have a full guide on how to select anal vibrators, so here we will only list the basics you need to consider:

• Material: As a first-timer, it is best to choose non-porous materials since they are much easier to clean and feel more natural. Additionally, the anus has thousands of nerve endings, meaning it is extra sensitive, and you’ll want to play with something softer and flexible. When in doubt, opt for a silicone anal vibrator!
• Size & Girth: Many beginners overestimate their abilities and reach for bigger-sized toys, only to discover their anus isn’t stretched enough to fit their vibrator. Even if you have played with other toys, such as anal plugs or anal beads, remember that anal vibrators are more stimulating, and the vibrations themselves can be too much to handle, even after you fit the toy inside you.
• Vibrations: We advise choosing anal vibrators with the most diverse modes and patterns to ensure you can enjoy the toy for a long time without getting bored.
• Extra Features: We advise you to look for an anal vibrator that is waterproof, as it will significantly facilitate things. Also, if you are looking for a unisex or male-friendly anal vibe, look for one with a vibrating base to stimulate the perineum.
• Budget: First, determine your budget and then look for the highest-quality toy that fits your budget. Look for a silicone or a metal anal vibe that is USB-rechargeable.

Who Can Use an Anal Vibrator?

Although it is typically marketed as a sex toy for women, anyone can use an anal vibrator if they’re healthy and follow the proper steps. Additionally, there are multiple ways for both couples and singles to enjoy such a sex toy.

You can entice your solo nights and allow anal vibrators to enhance your experience as a stand-alone sex toy or in combination with other sex toys. Lay on your back, squat, or doggy style are just some positions allowing you to insert the anal vibrator easily. You can combine it with a bullet vibrator or clit sucker for double intensity.

For couples, the horizons are even broader. Whether you’re a straight or lesbian couple, you can make your anal vibrator part of your double penetration fantasies. For example, your partner can penetrate your vagina while thrusting the anal vibrator into your booty.

The easiest choice would be for your partner to wear a harness designed for double penetration: one for his penis and one for the anal vibrator. If you opt for an anal vibrator with a harness, pegging is also an option. You can choose a P-spot anal vibrator with a perineum massager attached and help him reach powerful prostate orgasms.

Last but not least, anal vibrators are often part of anal training among D/s couples. If you enjoy role-playing or teasing your partner, you can tie them up and let the games begin. Of course, consent and safe words should be established despite the relationship dynamics.

Final Thoughts

Whether a beginner or anal play veteran, anal vibrators are great sex toys to add to your collection. Whatever type of anal vibrator you choose, remember to pair it with a compatible lube and take it slow. Prioritize discussing this with your partner and choose an anal vibrator that meets your needs and expectations.

It’s important to remember that anal play isn’t scary! The sphincter muscle is very adaptable, and you can take your time to stretch your anus and prepare it for an anal vibrator. Stick to our recommendations, take it slow, and soon enough, you’ll reach the most intensive orgasms of your life! Make sure you check out our sex toy store, where we have a complete offer of anal toys, including butt plugs, prostate toys, and anal training kits, as well as a massive selection of vibrators, dildos, male toys, BDSM tools, and so much more.