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How to Choose a BDSM Spreader Bar

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How to Choose a BDSM Spreader Bar?

by Kate Miller on Aug 08 2025
The spreader bar is a handy tool to use in a bondage scenario, as it allows you to cuff and restrain your partner in some creative ways. The spreader bar is a sturdy tool, and you can use it to gain access to your partner’s bits while they are positioned in a best-access position. So, here we’ll discuss all you need to know about spreader bars, and we’ll take a deep look at how to choose a BDSM spreader bar. What is a Bondage Spreader Bar? The spreader bar is a metal bar with D-rings or wrist and ankle cuffs you use to keep your partner in a spread position. You can use it to explore more sex positions, keep your partner in a helpless state, and even use it for leverage during penetration. When you place the spreader bar at the wrists, it keeps the arms spread away from the body, allowing full access to the sub’s torso. When the spreader bar is attached to the ankles, it prevents walking and keeps the legs spread wide, allowing full access to the groin area. In the models that enable simultaneous wrist and ankle binding, the sub’s body is bent, and they are unable to walk and are entirely at the mercy of the dominant partner. The uses of the spreader bar are multiple, and you and your partner will get a deeper insight into bondage plays and a great way to keep your partner’s legs spread wide. Shop Bondage Spreader Bars Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Select BDSM Spreader Bar? You have several things to note when selecting a spreader bar. Apart from the primary intention to keep the wearer’s legs wide open, you can get spreader bars with extra features that you can use to your advantage. So, here is our guide on how to select a BDSM spreader bar: Design – The basic spreader bar is designed as a metal or wooden bar with attachment points at the ends. The design can be fixed, a single bar with attachments at the end, or can be adjustable and can expand in length. The adjustable spreader bar can be used to bind the wrists or to bind the ankles and keep your partner’s legs spread as wide as you want them. Accessories – these include cuffs attached in place, D-rings, or loops that can have Velcro closing, strap closures, or padlock closures. Each has its merits, and you can find different ways to utilize each option. There are also spreader bars made from neoprene and nylon that many find more flexible and comfortable to use. Intended Use – the spreader bar is intended to be used for restraining the hands or legs, but some models include a detachable impaler bar where you can place a dildo and fill your partner with it while they are spread and bound to the spreader bar. There are also heavy-duty spreader bars you can use in suspension play. Please be mindful, and if you wish to use it for this application, you must choose a model designed for such use; otherwise, you may hurt your partner or yourself if using an inappropriate model. We created this expert-supported guide on how to choose a bondage spreader bar, and we hope we covered all the basics you’ve been wondering about. We have an incredible array of how-to choose and how-to-use guides about using various BDSM tools and sex toys. We invite you to check out our excellent sex toy store, where we carry a fantastic selection of BDSM spreader bars, BDSM gear, sex furniture, whips, canes, ticklers, and much more. FAQs Is it dangerous to use a bondage spreader bar? Using a spreader bar is not dangerous, as the spreader bar attaches to the wrists and ankles via specialized cuffs and D-rings that are comfortable to use. However, as with any bondage play, you need to be careful and mindful when using a bondage spreader bar, like don’t overtighten the cuffs, discuss things with your partner, and make sure there are no health problems that can be an issue. What toys to combine with a spreader bar? The spreader bar restrains the wrists and ankles, leaving your partner at your mercy. It allows you to use a wide array of sex toys like a vibrator, a vibrating wand, a vibrating egg, a finger vibe, a butt plug, a tickler or a flogger, or any other sex toy that you both enjoy. Can beginners use a bondage spreader bar? Yes, beginners can use a bondage spreader bar and explore new sexy playtime options. Because the spreader bar can be attached to the wrists and ankles, it is one of the safest and most beginner-friendly bondage implements that beginners can safely use. How to clean a spreader bar? It is straightforward to clean a spreader bar as these are made from metal and have leather or nylon cuffs. You only need to wipe the spreader bar with a household disinfectant, wipe it with a dry cloth, or leave it to dry and store it in a safe place, away from prying eyes. Learn More With Our Other Sex Toy Guides: How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles? 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How to Choose a BDSM Whip

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How to Choose a BDSM Whip?

by Kate Miller on Aug 07 2025
The whip is one of the more potent BDSM impact play tools, and it is particularly popular with people who enjoy some biting pain mixed with their pleasure. So, today, we will discuss BDSM whips, more particularly, what makes a quality bondage whip and how to choose a BDSM whip that will rock your world. What is a BDSM Whip? A whip is made from a handle, a long, slim tail that can be lashed, and a cracker/popper tip. Unlike a flogger that has many tails, the BDSM whip has a single tail that delivers a targeted impact and a stinging sensation. One can use a bondage whip to tease, stimulate, or punish their partner, and it all depends on how you use it and what effect you wish to achieve. Shop BDSM Whips Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Select a BDSM Whip? The bondage whip you select will influence how you can use it, and it takes a lot of practice to become proficient with a whip. But some models suit beginners, and models suit experts, so here we’ll outline all the critical features you need to know when choosing a BDSM whip: Material – the material of the whip is one of the key metrics you need to use to select a quality whip. Make sure you are choosing a whip made from quality materials like leather, vegan leather, or quality synthetic materials like nylon or rubber. The different materials bring different effects; for example, the rubber whip will bounce from the skin, providing a satisfying sting; a leather whip will provide a thudding sensation and will last a long time, and nylon whips will provide sharp strikes. Design – the basic whip has a handle, a tail, and a cracker tip. Still, the design can vary, and there are whips with loaded handles that provide extra weight for the wielder and require more skill to master. The whips with smaller or flexible handles require more masterful skills. The models with forked tails provide a more flogger-like sensation and are suited for people looking for the cracking sound but not the stinging pain of a bullwhip. Length – the length of the whip is also critical for using it, and you need to be aware that the longer the whip you get, the more room you will need to use it properly. Additionally, the longer the whip, the more difficult it is to master, and it will take a long time to master it. An expert advice: a beginner-friendly whip should not be longer than 4 feet. Versatility – a whip can be a versatile tool if you know how to use it. Apart from whipping and punishing your partner, you can use a whip to tease and tickle your partner and use it for a lightweight, sensual play. We covered the main factors that can help with how to choose a BDSM whip. Our experts also prepared several other guides on how to use and select different BDSM tools and various sex toys. Additionally, we also have an excellent sex toy store, where we carry a fantastic selection of BDSM whips, canes, ticklers, BDSM tools, sex furniture, and so much more. FAQs Is whipping painful? Whipping is one of the main corporeal punishments used in BDSM plays, as the whip is one of the most painful tools one can use. However, this strongly depends on the skill and intention of the dominant partner, as a whip can be used for pain and pleasure, especially the softer, flogger-like whips that provide a thudding sensation. Can a beginner use a whip? It takes a lot of time and practice to learn how to use a whip without posing a danger to your partner or yourself. That said, a beginner should use a soft tail whip like a dragon tail whip made from suede that will deliver the cracking sound without being too painful. A good way to practice is to hang a towel on two boxes placed apart from each other and practice hitting the towel with the tip of the whip without hitting the boxes. Practice by moving the boxes closer together, and once you are secure in your aim, you can use a whip with your partner. Where to hit my partner with a whip? The whip is a dangerous tool if not used correctly, so you must know where to hit your partner for the most significant effect and safety. Our experts advise you only stick to the fleshy parts of the body, like the butt and the upper thighs. You can hit your partner with a whip across the back, but be mindful to avoid the spine, the kidneys, and the tailbone. How to clean a whip? Cleaning a whip is straightforward, and it depends on the material the whip is made from. You can use a soft brush to clean away any residue from a leather whip and apply a leather conditioner to keep the whip in pristine condition. If you have a whip made from nylon or vegan leather, then you can use a lightly dampened cloth to wipe away any residue and leave the whip to dry. Always hang your whip to dry to avoid misshaping its form. Where to store my whip? The best way to store a whip is to hang it in a cool, dry place. We advise you to always hang your whips to prevent them from tangling or wrapping them, and make sure they are stored away from direct sunlight, heat, and excess moisture. What is more painful: a whip or a crop? It depends on the way you use these BDSM impact implements. It depends on what these are made from and the intention of the dominant partner. The whip travels faster and delivers a cracking sensation – the sonic boom from the tip, which can bring sharp, biting pain, but you can also be quite intense with a crop as well. Learn More With Our Other Sex Toy Guides: How To Choose a Dildo Chair? How To Choose Sex Sheets? How To Choose a Portable Sex Machine? How To Choose a Riding Sex Machine? How To Choose a Sex Pillow? How To Choose a Dildio Mount? How To Choose a Sex Machine? How To Choose a Sex Bench? How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles?
How to Punish a Sub - 15 Punishments You Should Try

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How to Punish a Sub - 15 Punishments You Should Try

by Kate Miller on Aug 07 2025
Although every BDSM relationship differs, discipline is usually crucial to the experience. And as everyone knows, there's no discipline without punishment! Even the most well-behaved subs can break the rules sometimes, and the Dom should establish a proper penalty system for how they will be punished. The beauty of consensual punishment is that it gives much space for creativity and exploration. However, even as a dom, figuring out the right way to discipline your partner may be difficult. For example, bratty subs always go above and beyond to break the agreement, and you may need help to develop new ideas for establishing dominance. Some may require different punishments, so you must think outside the box to apply the proper punishment. If you're a dom looking for new ways to punish your sub or want to explore this aspect of BDSM relationships, we know how to spark your creativity. Read on and find new ideas about giving your sub new ways of pleasure and establishing proper penalties for their wrongdoings. How do BDSM Punishments Work? BDSM relationships work in an entirely consensual manner. That said, not all BDSM relationships include physical or emotional punishments. Some doms focus on positive reinforcements and give more attention to bondage to discipline their subs. However, in most cases, the dominant partner uses various punishment methods to teach their sub a lesson. This goes hand in hand with providing encouragement and even rewards when they do something good or follow the commands. To ensure both partners are safe and happy during this type of relationship, they must think ahead and disclose the acceptable behaviors and consensual punishments when establishing the dom-sub roles. The sub should clearly state what means of punishment work for them so the Dom can know when and how to discipline them. The D’s relationship may also involve a written or informal agreement where all these things are clearly defined. If both partners decide to incorporate submission or slave training, the punishments and rewards can take many forms inside and out of the bedroom. The dominant partner has a significant role in the process, as they are expected to devise the disciplinary action with \attention and detail. The sub relinquishes all control and allows the other partner to decide when and how to punish the sub, which means the Dom is the one who should ensure the proper enforcement. Tips On How to Properly Punish Your Sub As we explained, disciplining a sub is a delicate task. To ensure both sides enjoy the process and your roles in the relationship are clear, you must stick to the agreement and uphold your end when things get rough (pun intended). Apart from the predetermined consent to incorporate punishments into their relationships, partners need to discuss the nature of the punishments, how severe or mild they can be, the timing, the rules subs need to respect, etc. Below are a few topics to discuss with your sub. Know Their Limits As a Dom, you possess most, if not all, power in the relationship. Depending on your agreement, you can dictate even the most minor things about your sub's life, such as what they eat or drink for every meal. This, in turn, gives you the obligation to learn what your sub likes and dislikes, even apart from what they directly stated. It also leaves you with the duty to take care of their well-being and teach them a lesson when they disobey you. Knowing your sub's limits is essential to their satisfaction level. In most cases, the subs will state what things are off limits, but given the exploratory nature of BDSM relationships, they may not be aware of all types of punishments they can withstand. In terms of discipline, this leaves you, the Dom, responsible for learning and predicting which forms of punishment your sub could enjoy and which ones will be overwhelming. Additionally, you have to factor in other factors like the sub's physical and mental state. If you are already engaged in disciplinary action, looking for signs of distress is essential. Subs can sometimes intentionally push themselves to please the Dom, but their partner's job is to protect them even from themselves and avoid dangerous situations or acts. For example, if you're executing the punishment through some bondage, you should always mind the subs circulation, pain tolerance, and level of comfort or discomfort during the process. Predetermine Which Behavior Will Be Punished Obviously, this is one of the critical elements of sub or slave training in D/s relationships. Punishment is to let your submissive partner know that you've noticed their disobedience, and you won't let it slide. But for you to 'put them in line' again, they need to know what they've done wrong. If the sub isn't aware of why they're being punished or feels like you're punishing them for no reason, that is considered a breach of your consensual BDSM agreement and will undoubtedly break the trust. Since punishments are meant to overpower the sub-consensually, even please them, Doms shouldn't use disciplinary actions to torture them physically or mentally as they wish. Instead, punishments should be consequential and purposeful. Surprise punishments are also out of the question. Even before you start disciplining your sub, you should discuss their breach of rules and how you wish to proceed with the punishment. As a Dom, you must tell them why you will punish them. A form of pnunishment is even leaving the sub to think about their mistake and torture themselves trying to guess. Of course, you also need to mind the timing, as waiting too long to discipline your sub may lower the impact of the punishment. And once the sub has made amendments to their actions and learned the lesson, you can move on. It's best to determine the rules of the relationship beforehand. Even if you don't initially discuss acceptable forms of punishment, there's still room to do so as the relationship progresses. Make Your Punishment Adequate to Their Actions You'll know why this is important if you've ever faced severe consequences for minor actions. No sub wants to feel like their Dom is too harsh and doesn't factor in how big or small their breach of the rules is. For example, a bad attitude or talking back is a minor infraction compared to not following specific orders. Your punishment must be less or equal to their wrongdoing. So, for the former act, you may punish them with a time-out or restrain them for a bit, while the latter may be fit for a spanking. As a dom, you want to devise the smallest form of punishment that will allow you to get the message across. If the sub keeps breaking the same rules, you can increase the severity of the punishment. However, keeping your cool and treating the punishments as a disciplinary tool for their well-being rather than your satisfaction solely is essential. Moreover, you should always expect your sub to disobey in one way or the other. Putting too big expectations on your submissive partner may lead to anger, quickly leading to poor decisions. Punishing your sub while angry will cloud your judgment and you may use too intense or potentially harmful punishments. This could easily break the trust in the relationship, and not to mention, you can cause mental and physical damage to the person you're supposed to protect. Don't Go Too Soft Most submissive partners behave the best when they feel their Dom is closely watching their moves and disciplining them daily or weekly. If the sub has stopped trying hard to please their Dom, that's usually a sign that they must be punished. After all, there's always room to correct human behavior or improve upon the rules in the relationship. Additionally, as a dom, it is your responsibility to look for behavior patterns and see when your sub purposely or unintentionally undermines the relationship. Bratty subs enjoy the attention and often break the rules to engage their partner in disciplining them. And just as the sub needs to respect the agreement and follow the rules, the Dom must always be prepared to devise the proper disciplinary action. If you're selective about when to punish the sub for a particular behavior and when to let it slide, you're undercutting your power in the relationship. Many Doms at the beginning of their BDSM journey often feel reluctant to enforce harsher punishments, which can leave the sub disappointed. However, safe words are a great option in this situation. The sub can use a specific word or a phrase to let the Dom know that they've gone too far or when they want the punishment to stop completely. If your sub is too keen on pleasing you, you can make them count, say words or phrases during their training, and measure their pain level based on their voice. The Importance of Aftercare While many assume that aftercare is just an ointment after a spanking, there's much more to it. Both physical and emotional punishments should be followed by aftercare, as this is the time when the Dom shows their soft side. No matter the severity of the training, you need to make your sub feel secure and allow them as much time as they need to recover. Overall, the aftercare is focused on the sub's needs, so it's essential to listen to them, or if the sub needs to get used to being vocal, to decipher from their state what might make them feel more comfortable, loved, and cherished. A blanket, a meal, and an electrolyte drink can all help in these situations; if you've practiced impact play, taking care of their physical health is a priority. Additionally, you can include cuddling, kissing, positive statements, and congratulations on how good they've been. Skipping the aftercare may disappoint your submissive partner or make them feel unappreciated for their efforts. This can easily break your trust or harm the sub's mental well-being, thus compromising the relationship's nature. 15 Punishments You Should Try There are many ways to train your partner in a BDSM relationship; the punishments can range from mild to extreme and extraordinary. Now that we've covered when and why to punish your sub, we'll discuss the how. Of course, not all punishments are physical, as many doms prefer incorporating mental and emotional discipline before grading their whip. Below we'll cover all discipline categories and disclose familiar and lesser-known forms of punishments. 1. Time Out/Forced Silence In many cases, this is an effective form of punishment that can be used for minor forms of disobedience. You can put the sub in a corner and make them face the wall as we did in school, order them to go to their room, or forbid them from saying a word aloud. Other ways for a sub to spend their time out is to kneel on the floor, hold a ping-pong ball between their knees in a squat position, or do any other static punishment you can think of. It's easy to re-establish dominance without using bondage toys or physical force. 2. Restraining Your Sub with Cuffs, Ropes, and Chains One notch above on the punishment scale come restraints. Doms can use bed restraints to strap the sub to the bed, handcuff them to a piece of furniture and forbid them to move for a while, or cuff their legs and make them walk around like that for the rest of the day. For repetitive behavior and disobedience, you can restrain the sub with ropes in an uncomfortable position, such as to the ceiling, or tie their hands and feet behind their back. There's much room for creativity in this department so that you can repeatedly enforce the same form of punishment in different ways. Product Suggestion: Lux Fetish 7 Piece Bed Spreader Restraint System OVERVIEW Comfy, adjustable velcro cuffs Perfectly unisex, and great for all, from beginners to experienced users No bed posts needed, and sets up easily in minutes View Product 3. Orgasm Denial Plain and simple: bring your partner close to climax and leave them hanging. Even better, you can make them start stroking their penis or edge at the foot of the bed, then command them to stop before reaching an orgasm or physically restraining them. 4. Forced Orgasm This punishment pairs well with bondage restraints. Instead of just tying your sub to the bed, why not force them to cum too? You can repeatedly arouse them and achieve orgasms while they're left dry and exhausted. 5. Spanking, Paddling, or Whipping This punishment is the most common form across the BDSM community, and subs often prefer it. The difference is that spanking requires you to use your hands, while paddling can be done with any hard object with a hard surface and a handle, and whipping requires a whip. The effect is the same; they all induce physical pain and quickly remind the sub they should behave. Product Suggestion: Rouge Long Suede Flogger OVERVIEW Leather-wrapped handle A loop at the end of the handle wraps around the wrist for a secure hold during play Perfect for power and sensory play View Product 6. Putting a Collar on Them This punishment works both as a humiliation tactic and as a restraint. You can walk your sub around like a dog in the house and outside or tie the leash to something and make them behave like animals. The Dom can also make the sub eat or drink off the floor. Product Suggestion: Full Pup Arsenal Set OVERVIEW Complete puppy play kit Stretchy and durable The hood has poseable ears and a removable muzzle View Product 7. Deny Them the Pleasure of Pleasuring You As a Dom, you can take sex off the table and forbid your sub from giving you orally or kissing. Additionally, you can deny them any physical contact, or you can masturbate in front of them and let them watch without being able to do anything to please you. 8. Wax play Another way to use this is to make your sub self-inflict the punishment; for example, you can sit down and order the sub to use wax play candles on different parts of their body. If the sub is comfortable with something more advanced, you can even perform a Brazilian wax as punishment. The wax should be body-safe, and you should be careful when playing around with hot and cold temperatures to avoid burns or injuries. Product Suggestion: Make Me Melt Warm-Drip Candles OVERVIEW Perfect for titillating BDSM fun View Product 9. Shower Them with Gold No, we don't mean buy them jewelry but rather engage in a golden shower. If both partners are comfortable sharing those kinds of body fluids, a golden shower is a great humiliation tactic. Some D/S relationships implement even more extreme takes on this punishment, such as the sub drinking the pee. However, this can be unsanitary and result in unwanted health issues later. 10. Make Them Wear Toys Throughout the Day You can expose your sub to your punishment throughout the day to show them you're in complete control. For example, making them wear vibrating panties or a cock ring at work or while with others is the perfect way to remind them they're yours to punish. Even better, you can be together publicly and control the vibrations, making them orgasm or constantly holding them on edge. 11. Take Masturbation off the Table This is another simple form of punishment that can be used in many situations and is usually practiced in long-distance BDSM relationships or when the Dom isn't near the sub. By forbidding them to masturbate, you're controlling their sexual pleasure without lifting a finger, playing with their mind just as much as with their body. 12. Menial Chores If there's a chore or housework the sub, particularly dislikes, you can use it to your advantage and pose it as a form of punishment. You can order your sub to do simple things like mop the floor while you repeatedly spill stuff on it, wash your laundry, or do the cooking. For a more extreme punishment, you can give your sub a toothbrush instead of a mop and make them clean the whole house. Even better, menial chores can be mind-numbing, so they can easily be used as torture. 13. Use Them as a Piece of Furniture Has the sub crossed some lines as you were about to dive into a good book? You can always use your partner as human furniture and rest your feet on them. You can also use them as a table, coat hanger, or whatever home decor you can think of as a form of punishment. 14. Deprive Them of Their Favorite Things Grounding your partner is an excellent way to exert dominance and teach them a lesson, just as parents do with their kids. You can take away your sub's phone, forbid them to watch their favorite show or access the TV overall, or even punish them by forbidding them to engage in any exercise or sport they enjoy. 15. Cuckolding Although a bit extreme, many BDSM relationships allow room for exploring the partners' sexuality with other people. If you've previously agreed that you are comfortable bringing other people into your bedroom, then cuckolding can be an excellent form of torment and punishment for the sub. The Dom can make the submissive partner watch as they engage in sexual acts with another person and deny them the pleasure of joining in. Of course, both partners should agree beforehand on the actions the Dom is allowed to perform or engage with, and they can decide together which person will be allowed in their sex life. Related Article Best Bondage Kits Reviewed Final Thoughts With great power comes great responsibility! Punishing a sub is no easy task, and Doms should take it seriously. Although it may seem fun to think about having control over another person's life or actions, it's essential to understand your part of the agreement. The Dom should always consider how big of a mistake the sub has made, and not be too hard or too soft, but find the fitting punishment when disciplining the sub. Timing and aftercare of the sub also take a significant role in the process, and they're also integral parts of the dominant partner's obligations in the relationship. As long as the Dom and the sub agree beforehand on the rules and respect each other's limits, they can enjoy the relationship. After all, BDSM agreements are based on mutual trust, and doing things the other person hasn't consented to is considered abusive, no matter the nature of your connection.
How to Use a Sybian Solo or With Your Partner

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How to Use a Sybian Solo or With Your Partner

by Kate Miller on Aug 07 2025
The Sybian has been a sex enthusiast's favorite for several decades, and it's not hard to see why. With its unique design and incredible simulation capabilities, the Sybian has gained popularity among people of all genders and sexual orientations. The Sybian's vibrating saddle and interchangeable attachments can stimulate your every inch below. And, unlike many other sex toys, the Sybian is built to last, ensuring you can enjoy sexual pleasure for years. Before you saddle up and get ready to ride, you should know a few things. First, the Sybian is a serious piece of machinery requiring some setup and know-how, not for the faint of heart. It's. But don't worry; this article will guide you through so that you can experience all the pleasure and none of the pain. We'll look in-depth at the Sybian, explore its effectiveness, and discuss tips for using it effectively. In this article, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about using a Sybian, from selecting the right attachment to adjusting the vibration speed and intensity. And if you're curious and want to explore prostate stimulation, don't worry. We've got you covered! Whether solo or with a partner, this baby will take you on a pleasure ride you won't forget. But first, what is a Sybian? A motorized sex machine consisting of a saddle with a powerful motor that drives a dildo or another sex toy attached to it. The user sits on top of the Sybian and controls the speed and intensity using a wired or wireless remote. Why Use a Sybian? The Sybian packs a powerful punch with its combination of vibration and penetration, leaving you with mind-blowing full-body orgasms. Its intense clitoral and vaginal stimulation might provide multiple orgasms in one session. Moreover, Sybian's hands-free design allows you to explore other erogenous zones while you ride the waves of ecstasy. 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The warm glow of candlelight will make you feel more sensual and in sync with your body. Next, listen to some music to help you relax and get in the mood. If you have roommates or family members, ensure they're not around because the Sybian can be loud. Complete privacy will help you immerse yourself in the experience without distractions or discomfort fully. Speaking of discomfort, taking a quick bathroom break before your session is a great way to prevent unwanted interruptions. Remember, the goal is to enjoy all the sensations the Sybian offers, so take the time to allow yourself to let go and experience pure bliss. Start Slow Now that you are set up and ready to go, it's time to hop on and enjoy the ride. But don't go full throttle just yet! The Sybian can be overwhelming at first. So, start slowly with the basic settings and work up to higher intensities as you become more comfortable. Since the device stimulates your clitoris and vagina at the same time, it's essential to take your time and find the perfect spot that works for you. It would be best not to rush into it and risk being overstimulated or injured. Remember to take breaks if needed. The Sybian is intense, so don't push yourself too hard. It's all about caring for yourself and exploring your body safely and enjoyably. Enhance Your Experience Let's talk attachments! Your Sybian comes with a few attachments, but based on your needs, there are many more you can buy. But before swiping your credit cards, you need to ensure to choose attachments that are compatible with your Sybian. Read the product descriptions and reviews before purchasing to ensure you get a product that meets your needs. For example, the G-Max attachment is perfect for G-spot stimulation, while the Orb provides a more intense clitoral experience. And if that is not enough for you, the Double Delight allows for simultaneous penetration and clitoral stimulation. You can even pair your Sybian with a hands-free vibrator for more pleasure. Product Suggestion: The Unicorn Premium Sex Machine OVERVIEW Interchangeable insertable and non-insertable attachments for variety and exquisite experiences Powerful vibrations and rotation movements with six vibrating patterns Body-safe silicone attachments with unique textures View Product Types of Sybian Attachments Get ready to saddle up and explore the wild world of Sybian attachments: Original Sybian: This OG model has existed since the '80s and continues to thrive today. With a saddle-shaped seat that vibrates and rotates, plus attachments for vaginal and clitoral stimulation, it's a classic for a reason. Venus for Men: Men can also join the fun and experience the powerful vibrations and rotations of the Sybian through the Venus for Men attachment expands the machine's appeal beyond its primarily marketed female demographic. Silky Smooth: The Silky Smooth Sybian is the way to go for those who like it extra smooth. Its unique silicone dildo attachment will provide you with maximum comfort and pleasure. G-Wave: This attachment can intensely stimulate your G-spot with its curved shape and powerful vibrations. Orb: If you're looking for a different sensation, the Orb's spherical ball provides a deep, full feeling that's hard to describe. Double Trouble: Featuring two dildos, one for vaginal and one for anal stimulation, this attachment provides a genuinely intense and full-body experience. Triple Delight: Why settle for two when you can have three? The Triple Delight attachment combines three dildos for simultaneous vaginal, anal, and clitoral stimulation.If you are feeling picky, some Sybian machines can be customized with different attachments and accessories so that you can create the perfect device for your needs. How to Use Sybian with a Partner The Sybian is often touted as the ultimate sex machine for solo play, but did you know you can use it with a partner too? Have Your Partner Watch You If you're into exhibitionism or your partner loves watching you experience pleasure, using the Sybian can be an excellent way to include multiple people in the experience. Hop on your Sybian, turn it on, and let your partner watch as you ride it to orgasm. The BDSM Route The Sybian's powerful vibrations are known to provide multiple and intense orgasms, making it an ideal tool for BDSM enthusiasts seeking a forced orgasm. You can even take it to the next level by having your partner tie you up and tease you with a magic wand vibrator while you ride the Sybian. Combining the two sensations can result in some genuinely mind-blowing and euphoric orgasms you'll never forget. But, as always, communicate with your partner beforehand and establish clear boundaries and safe words to ensure a safe and pleasurable experience. Combine Penetration with the Sybian Most people use the Sybian with an internal attachment, but there's also an attachment made mainly for clitoral stimulation. This feature allows your partner to have penetrative sex with you while you're straddling the Sybian. Both partners can feel the vibrations, and the ridges on the attachment can hit your clitoris for extra stimulation. Using the Sybian for Prostate Stimulation The prostate is a gland just below the bladder in men that is responsible for producing semen. Stimulation of the prostate gland can lead to intense pleasure and orgasm and can even bring about health benefits such as improving prostate health. To use the Sybian for prostate stimulation, you must use an appropriate attachment designed for this purpose. Many attachments are available for prostate stimulation, so choose one that is comfortable and fits your anatomy well. To make the experience even more pleasurable, consider incorporating other forms of stimulation, such as nipple play or a vibrating butt plug, and experiment with different lubricants to enhance the sensation. Experiment There are countless ways to incorporate the Sybian into partnered play, so don't be afraid to experiment and take risks. If you're comfortable and willing to try new things, the Sybian can provide both partners an exciting and satisfying experience. Remember to communicate openly with your partner about your desires and boundaries, and always prioritize consent and safety. Product Suggestion: LoveBotz Saddle Deluxe Riding Sex Machine with Dual Attachments OVERVIEW Accommodates two different attachments for varied pleasures Faux-leather comfortable padded saddle Multiple vibration and speed settings View Product Keeping Your Sybian Clean and Ready For Use Taking care of your Sybian is crucial to continue enjoying its pleasure-inducing abilities. We know that cleaning sex toys may not be the most exciting topic, but trust us, it's essential. Cleaning the Saddle It's essential to clean the attachments of your Sybian before and after use since they come into direct contact with your body. Good cleaning helps prevent bacteria buildup and ensures you can use your sex toy safely. Don't worry; it's easy-peasy. Remove the dildo part from the machine and wash it with warm water and gentle soap. You can opt for a soft-bristled brush to remove dirt hidden in the little nooks and crannies and the hard-to-reach areas. Rinse it again with warm water and dry it with a clean towel. Storage Let the parts air dry, then pat away any excess moisture using a clean towel, ensuring you get into all the grooves and crevices. You can use a storage bag or case to keep your Sybian dust-free. Store it in a dry place away from direct sunlight and heat sources when everything is dry. Related Article Best Sex Machines Reviewed Final thoughts Sybian sex machines have become increasingly popular among sex toy enthusiasts for their numerous benefits and features, leaving users craving more. These modern ride-on vibrators offer a high level of customization, allowing for a more personalized and satisfying experience. Furthermore, the quality and durability of Sybian machines ensure a long-lasting investment. You can even control your Sybian through an app or allow a partner to take control from afar, adding excitement to your sex life. Using a Sybian may not be everyone's cup of tea, especially for those new to sex machines or vibrators. Unlike a traditional dildo or vibrator, Sybian requires more storage space and is not as discreet due to loud noise. Additionally, due to the multiple components of a sex saddle, including the base, remote, attachment, and other accessories, it can be a more significant financial investment. Maintaining proper hygiene is also crucial, as you must clean the attachments and machine regularly to prevent the spread of bacteria. Ultimately, deciding whether to invest in a Sybian saddle is a personal choice that requires careful consideration of the advantages and disadvantages, as well as your unique wants and needs.
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How to Use a Portable Sex Machine?

by Kate Miller on Aug 07 2025
The portable sex machine is a compact device that is designed for versatile use and easy portability, allowing you to take it with you when you travel and use it in different locations. You may already have experience using a fuck machine, but here we’ll discuss how to use a portable sex machine, and we’ll share advice on how to get the most out of your fuck machine. What Is a Portable Sex Machine? The portable sex machine is designed for easy transport, as it combines the features of bulkier fuck machines and the travel-friendliness of handheld sex toys like vibrators and dildos. The portable sex machine is easy to carry anywhere without having to compromise the powerful features. Most of the portable fuck machines are powered by rechargeable batteries and come with vibrating and thrusting features, and come with wireless or button controllers for ease and convenience. Shop Portable Sex Machines Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Use a Portable Sex Machines: Step-By-Step Guide Using a portable sex machine is exciting and sexy, mainly because you are not limited to using it in one place. Before we go into details on how to use this sex toy, we need to talk about something else: how to set up your portable sex machine: Assemble, Set Up, Position and Test Assemble the sex machine and try placing it on different surfaces. We suggest you put it on an anti-slip surface, especially if the machine has a suction cup base, which you need to stick to a flat surface. Test out the stability of the machine, ensuring it won’t slip while you use it. Wash and dry the dildo probe and attach it to the sex machine. If you don’t like a more detailed cleanup, we suggest you use a condom over the dildo. Test the controls and features of the machine, running it from low to high vibration and thrust speeds, and familiarize yourself with the controllers and the options. Get in the Mood and Devote Time to Foreplay Always devote enough time to foreplay, doing the things that put you in the mood. Light candles, play sexy music or an erotic movie, and play with your partner, allowing your body enough time for arousal, which will provide a more relaxed, in-depth experience. Always Use Lube We always advise you to have lube handy when you use any sex toy, and that includes the portable sex machine. Even though you may get very wet when aroused, lube helps with friction and makes the experience more pleasurable. Our recommendation is a quality water-based lube that works with all sex toy materials, especially with the silicone and TPE attachments the portable sex machines come with. Best Sex Positions to Try with a Portable Sex Machine The portable sex machines usually come with a suction cup base that sticks them to most flat surfaces. The design also allows you to position them in various angles, which will enable you to play with them in several positions. That said, here are some of the positions you can try with your portable sex machine: Squat & Bounce – the squat and bounce pose is one of the best ones you can try with a portable fuck machine. For this pose, you need to affix your portable fuck machine to the floor, squat over it, position the dildo to your vagina, and engage in the thrusting action, taking the pounding from below. Standing Up – most portable sex machines are adjustable, and you can adjust it to thrust up, allowing you to place it on a table or a chair and have it penetrate you as you stand up, bending over a chair for more comfortable access. Sex from Behind – this pose is similar to the doggy-style pose that is favored among many. You can position your sex machine by sticking it to a smooth wall or a mirror and position your body for the best access for vaginal or anal play. You can take more pounding this way but also engage in some forced orgasm play with your partner. Sideways Sex – stick your portable sex machine on the floor, twist your body, and have it penetrate you from the side, as you don’t have to do anything but enjoy the sensations. But this pose is incredibly comfortable when you want to add other sexy toys to your playtime. Partnered Play - if you get a handheld portable sex machine, then you should involve your partner and have thee pleasure you with the machine. This is a great way to boost intimacy and explore your deeper sexual fantasies. Portable Fuck Machine Care & Maintenance The portable sex machine is straightforward to clean and does not require much maintenance. Some models are fully waterproof or splashproof, meaning you can quickly rinse them with soap and water or your preferred sex toy cleaner, leave them to air-dry, and store them in a convenient storage bag. The models that are not waterproof require careful cleaning. First, remove the insertable dildo from the machine and clean it as you would any other dildo. Carefully wipe your portable sex machine with a lint-free cloth and a household disinfectant, removing lube and other residue. Once everything is dry, store it in a proper place, like a sex toy storage bag or case. Don’t store the insertable dildo mounted on the sex machine to protect it from deformation, but remove it, keep it in a protective bag, and store it in a safe place. We prepared the guide on how to use a portable sex machine as a way to help you get into the groove of using this pleasure aid. We have a long list of helpful guides on how to use and how to choose various sex toys; you can check out some of these below. Also, feel free to browse our sex toy store, as we carry a fantastic selection of high-quality products for you, like sex machines, sex furniture, dildos, vibrators, male sex toys, etc. FAQs Is the portable sex machine expensive? The portable sex machines are relatively affordable, with prices varying from $80 to $350. The price is directly related to the construction of the sex machine, and the portable sex machines are usually made from lightweight plastic materials, unlike the heavy-duty saddle fuck machines and thrusting sex machines. Can I use a portable sex machine for anal penetration? You can use a portable sex machine for vaginal and anal penetration. However, our experts advise you to use a suitable dildo for every use: use a larger-size dildo for vaginal penetration, and you can use a slimmer anal dildo for anal penetration. Don’t forget to use compatible lube for both uses, and we always recommend you have a quality water-based lube nearby as this lube is compatible with all dildo materials and skin types. Can a man use a portable sex machine? A man can use the portable sex machine, but for this, you will need to attach a compatible anal dildo or anal probe. The anal dildos come with more slim shafts for easier insertion and targeted P-spot stimulation. How do I change the settings on my portable sex machine? The majority of portable sex machines come with button controls where you control the thrusts and vibrations. Some models have wireless remote controllers where the buttons for the various controllers are clearly marked for easy use. Please read the manual of your particular portable sex machine to learn about the precise settings and controls. 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How to Use a Dildo Chair?

by Kate Miller on Aug 02 2025
You have probably tried using your regular furniture during sex, and while the bed is the primary place for sex, you may want to try something different and more exciting. We are, of course, talking about adding a dildo chair to your bedroom and using it to explore new ways to play with your dildo. Here, we outline how you can use a dildo chair and discuss the various possibilities and positions you have at your disposal. What Is a Dildo Chair? A dildo chair is a specialized chair or bench-like gadget that allows you to mount a dildo and do some heavy riding. The industry has provided us with plenty of dildo chair models; some come with the dildo firmly mounted, and others have a detachable dildo, allowing you to use your favorite dildo. These are made to provide you comfort and ease with positioning, easier thrusting, and body support, and we cover the bases on how to choose a dildo chair in a separate guide. Shop All Dildo Chairs Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Use a Dildo Chair Using a sex chair is exciting, and it allows versatile positions, especially the option for weightless sex. It will enable you to try some positions you would have trouble with, and it frees your hands so you can enjoy sex even more and combine your play with other toys. Here are the key things related to using a sex chair: Set Up Your Sex Chair First, set up your sex chair. Most models today come already assembled, but in the case of getting your chair in sections, you need to put everything together, ensuring all the screws and mounts are sturdily attached. Test the weight limit and the possible positions, and see how well your select dildo sticks to the chair. Place the sex chair on different surfaces, like the bed, on the floor, on a carpet, or a cushioned surface like a blanket on the floor. This is to protect your knees and allow you to explore different penetration angles. Set the Mood One of the things we always advise is to set up a sexy mood when you plan to play out a sexy scenario or enjoy a masturbation session. Dim the lights and put on erotic, sexy music or play some porn. Start slow and explore your and your partner’s body, and add some teasing toys like a finger vibe or something equally tempting. Ride your Dildo Chair When you are sufficiently aroused, you can move on to penetrative play, and for this, you can straddle your sex chair, position the dildo, and lower your body onto the dildo. Don’t forget to add some lube for more leisurely glide, and take charge of your pleasure. Best Positions to Try with Your Dildo Chair Here are the best positions to try with your sex chair. You can always combine your dildo chair play with other toys, like adding a butt plug, playing with a finger vibe, some nipple clamps, or something equally exciting. Please note that these may vary depending on the particular design of your dildo chair, but the general positions are: Bounce Up & Down The best position to try with a dildo chair is to bounce on it up and down at your own pace. Straddle the dildo mount as you would do a partner during the cowgirl pose, and slowly lower yourself on the dildo attached to the sex chair. You control the angle and the speed, and you can sit right down on the elastic straps and bounce on for the most significant effect. Reverse Cowgirl The reverse cowgirl pose requires you to lower the top of your body and allow your partner to get a deeper angle of penetration. You can imitate this pose with a dildo chair and use your hand to tease your sensitive areas. Straddle the dildo chair and lean forward, allowing the dildo to get a better penetration angle and move as you feel comfortable. Oral Play The design of most dildo chairs makes them perfect to be used as queening/kinging chairs. You sit on the chair, aligning your privates with the gap in the chair, and your partner lies beneath the chair, getting full access to you. Use a pillow to support the head of the partner who lies down, and enjoy the sensations of cunnilingus or analingus. Slow, Grinding Play The dildo chair allows you to grind yourself on your dildo, enjoying the sensations on the exterior of the vagina or perineum. For this, add a smaller dildo to the dildo chair or a special grinding toy, add some water-based lube, and grind away. Dildo Chair Care & Maintenance The dildo chair is very straightforward to clean and maintain, as most of these models are made from metal, elastic, or leather/vegan leather. Still, keeping it clean is essential, and here is how to do this. Remove the dildo from the dildo chair, if possible, and clean it with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner. If the dildo is non-removable, then wipe it with an antibacterial wipe and spray it with a sex toy cleaner to remove lube and other residue. Wipe the dildo chair with household disinfectant to remove all residues and clean the surfaces. Leave the chair to air-dry, and then store it in a suitable place. Never store your dildo stuck to your dildo chair; store the dildo in an appropriate sex toy storage bag to avoid damaging or deforming the dildo. The dildo chair is an exciting implement you can use to play with your favorite dildo or play with your partner. You get more options, and, let’s face it, it is pleasurable to play, and you and your partner can get more. We hope we have covered the basics of how to use a dildo chair, but if you need more advice, check out our other guides on how to choose and how to use various sex toys. Check out our sex toy store, where we offer an incredible selection of dildo chairs, dildos, vibrators, sex furniture, and so much more! FAQs Are dildo chairs expensive? The dildo chairs come in a broad range of prices, and these vary according to the materials used and the added features. For example, an inflatable dildo chair with a simple vibrating dildo will cost you less than $100, but a more advanced model, like one with a thrusting dildo machine, will cost you more than $1000. Can I use a dildo chair for anal penetration? You can use a dildo chair for anal penetration, but you will need to use a proper dildo. We recommend you take a look at our selection of anal dildos and choose one that fits your needs and has a suction cup base that is compatible with your dildo chair. Don’t forget to add plenty of lube for anal play, and we recommend you stick to quality water-based lubes as these are compatible with all materials and skin types. However, if you have a dildo chair with a fixed dildo, you can use it for anal penetration, but make sure you use it with a condom for easy cleanup. Can a man use the dildo chair? 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Best Sex Slings for Better Positioning During Sex

by Kate Miller on Jul 25 2025
When you add a sex sling to your bedroom, you and your partner will reap a heap of benefits. Some of these are the possibility of new positions and the ability to go deeper and have your partner’s body accessible to you in ways you’ve never thought possible. Yes, we established that sex slings could help with better positioning, but what model is right for you? Well, we have tested many different models, and here we bring you our selections for the best sex slings that are guaranteed to spice up your sex life. Quick Overview of Our Top Picks Best Overall: Padded Leather Thigh Sling Best Budget Pick: Fetish Fantasy Series Spread-Eagle Sling Best Sling with Stirrups: Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups Best Thing Sling: Thigh Sling With Wrist Cuffs Best Padded Adjustable Sling: Padded Thigh Sling with Wrist Cuffs Best Sling/Swing for Bondage: Strict Extreme Sling The Best Deals This Week* Strict Extreme Sling — $390.99 (List Price $666.99) Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups — $431.99 (List Price $518.99) Padded Leather Thigh Sling — $257.99 (List Price $307.99) *Deals are selected by our commerce team Deep Dive: Our Top Picks Padded Leather Thigh Sling Best Overall Choice Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 4/5Ease of Use: 5/5Comfort: 5/5Recommended For: Everyone Why We Picked It We chose the Padded Leather Thigh Sling as our top choice because this model looks so sexy and durable. It is made from premium leather and comes with heavy-duty metal hardware. We love how the thigh straps are nicely padded and can be adjusted in length. The neck support is also padded and comfortable to wear, and all the straps are adorned with metal studs that give it a serious BDSM vibe. While the initial purpose of the Padded Leather Thigh Sling is to keep the restrained partner’s legs fully open, we found that this model offers plenty of adjustment options. The straps come with D-ring attachment points so that you can attach extra wrist cuffs to the Padded Leather Thigh Sling, or you can bind your partner to a BDSM board or bondage-appropriate furniture. Plus, the leather is easy to clean and maintain, and with proper care, this sling should last you a lifetime. Who It's For The Padded Leather Thigh Sling is an excellent choice for every couple looking to add some BDSM elements into their bedroom and want to try a quality, simple, yet adjustable sex sling.. Reasons to Buy ✓  Adjustable, padded thigh cuffs ✓  Adjustable strap and padded neck support ✓  High-quality leather and heavy-duty metal ✓  D-ring attachment points Reasons to Avoid ✗  Expensive Specs Dimensions Length: 86.5" Thigh Cuffs: adjust from 21.5" to 29.5" Material Leather, Metal Sold out See It Now Fetish Fantasy Series Spread-Eagle Sling Best Budget Pick Our Rating: 4.5/5Quality: 4/5Design: 4/5Ease of Use: 5/5Comfort: 3/5Recommended For: Everyone Why We Picked It We chose the Fetish Fantasy Series Spread-Eagle Sling because this is a simple, budget option great for many types of users. The sling comes with a long woven nylon strap that has padded neck support and plastic buckles at the ends. These can be adjusted for length to accommodate people of different heights. The buckles attach to the ankle cuffs, which are also made from woven nylon with slight padding and Velcro closures. We like the simplicity of the Fetish Fantasy Series Spread-Eagle Sling, as it is perfect for keeping your partner’s legs open. Still, we don’t like that it offers no other adjustability, nor does it have the option to attach it to other BDSM implements. Still, it is inexpensive, fun to use, and very easy to keep clean. Who It's For We think that the Fetish Fantasy Series Spread-Eagle Sling is a good option for beginners who want to get a simple sex sling that enables keeping the legs spread for better access. Reasons to Buy ✓  Simple restraint set ✓  Ankle cuffs with Velcro closure ✓  Padded neck support ✓  Woven nylon straps Reasons to Avoid ✗  Limited adjustability Specs Material Nylon Sold out See It Now Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups Best Sling with Stirrups Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 4/5Ease of Use: 5/5Comfort: 5/5Recommended For: Everyone Why We Picked It We chose the Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups because this model is perfect for keeping your partner’s legs spread and having their nether region exposed and ready for your attention. The Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups is made from genuine leather and it features padded neck and head support, as well as padded thigh and ankle cuffs. We love that the leather is combined with heavy-duty hardware, like the chain, the swivel clips, and the attachment points. You will find it very durable and easy to maintain, as you can spot-clean the leather with a damp towel and put on leather conditioner to keep it in pristine shape. The Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups are also fun to use in other positions, and you can combine them with different sex toys or bondage implements. Who It's For We think that both beginners and experienced users will find the Strict Leather Sling and Stirrups a great choice, as this model is optimized for keeping your partner’s legs spread, giving you full access.. Reasons to Buy ✓  Durable leather material ✓  Heavy-duty chains and hardware ✓  Padded neck and head support ✓  Great for oral play Reasons to Avoid ✗  Expensive Specs Dimensions Thigh Cuffs: 27.5" x 2" Ankle Cuffs: 14.5" x 2.25" Head and Neck Padding: 11" x 6" Chain: 19" Material Leather, Metal Sold out See It Now Thigh Sling With Wrist Cuffs Best Thigh Sling Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 4/5Ease of Use: 4/5Comfort: 5/5Recommended For: Everyone, Experienced Users Why We Picked It We chose the Thigh Sling With Wrist Cuffs because this is more than a simple thigh sling. In fact, this is a body harness-like sling that comes with highly adjustable options. Let’s start with the fact that the sling comes with back and chest straps that adjust in length so you can comfortably restrain your partner. Then, there are the wrist cuffs and the thigh cuffs that also adapt and allow you so many playing options. The cuffs are padded for more comfort and feature lockable metal buckles and heavy-duty swivel clips that enable you to position your partner in various positions. For example, you can bind their wrists at the small of their back or keep their legs spread by attaching the thigh straps to the D-rings on the body harness straps. The entire thing is made from padded PU leather and metal, so it is durable and comfortable. Who It's For We believe that the Thigh Sling With Wrist Cuffs is for more experienced BDSM practitioners, as the harness-style sling requires experience from both partners. Reasons to Buy ✓  Durable materials ✓  Harness-style sling ✓  Adjustable straps and swivel clips ✓  Lockable, padded buckles Reasons to Avoid ✗  Expensive Specs Dimensions Length: 86" Back Strap Length: 5" to 10" Wrist Cuffs Circumference: 5" to 9.5" Thigh Cuffs Circumference: 13" to 23" Chest Strap Circumference: up to 45" Material PU Leather, Metal Sold out See It Now Padded Thigh Sling With Wrist Cuffs Best Padded Adjustable Sling Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 4/5Ease of Use: 5/5Comfort: 5/5Recommended For: Everyone Why We Picked It We chose the Padded Thigh Sling with Wrist Cuffs because this model caught our attention with its wonderfully padded neck support and padded thigh cuffs. The design of this sling is intended to keep your partner’s body in position and fully open to your attention while keeping them as comfortable as possible. The Padded Thigh Sling with Wrist Cuffs comes with adjustable wrist and thigh straps that are also lockable or removable, so you can be as lax or as strict with your partner as you want. 6 D-ring attachments allow you to further strap down your partner, maybe to a bondage board or a bed restraint, and have your way with them. The Padded Thigh Sling with Wrist Cuffs is made from durable PU leather and metal hardware, so it will last you a long time while being simple to clean and maintain. Who It's For The Padded Thigh Sling with Wrist Cuff is for all couples who are looking for a comfortable, padded sling to use for light and extreme BDSM games.. Reasons to Buy ✓  Very comfortable sling ✓  Padded neck support ✓  Adjustable, lockable wrist and thigh cuffs ✓  6 D-ring attachments Reasons to Avoid ✗  Locks not included in the set Specs Dimensions Thigh Cuffs Circumference: 20" to 28" Wrist Cuffs Circumference: 6.25" to 10" Straps Width: 1.5" Material PU Leather, Metal Sold out See It Now Strict Extreme Sling Best Sling/Swing for Bondage Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 4/5Ease of Use: 5/5Comfort: 5/5Recommended For: Experienced Users Why We Picked It We chose the Strict Extreme Sling because this model is so great in many ways. We love the full-body sling that is optimized for suspension play. The base is made from durable leather, and there is a padded pillow for the head. But the real fun items are the removable stirrups that allow you to position and restrain your partner in a sexy position, gaining full access to their body. The Strict Extreme Sling is also very durable, as it is made from leather-lined straps and heavy-duty hardware. The straps are adjustable via buckles, so you can elevate or lower your partner’s body as you like. The sling attaches either to ceiling mounts or to a sex swing stand via durable karabiners. Still, we did not like that the mounting chains were not included in the set. Who It's For   We believe that the Strict Extreme Sling is for experienced BDSM practitioners who know how to safely use a suspension sling and provide ultimate pleasure to their partner. What Customers Are Saying - Excellent The sling is excellent, and I love being put in it and my man playing with me how he likes. He installed it on detachable rings from our bedroom ceiling and I love when he positions me in it. - Sophie - Pleased I’m pleased with the sling, and I love how I can harness my woman and do all sorts of dirty things to her. - Anthony Reasons to Buy ✓  EQuality bondage sling ✓  Great for suspension play ✓  Padded headrest and adjustable straps ✓  Detachable leg stirrups Reasons to Avoid ✗  Chains not included in the set Specs Dimensions Length: 38" Width: 21 Material Leather, Metal Sold out See It Now Why Trust Our Reviews? HotCherry’s editorial team includes sex experts, including sexologists, sexual health writers, product testers, and researchers. Having an editorial team lets us get a holistic view of the products in each category and choose the best products from top brands. We also have first-hand access to customer reviews on our website and consult with our customer service team to identify potential issues and defects of the products in our lists after long-term use. Our selection method is meticulous: our experts hand-pick the best products to feature in each guide based on customer reviews, popularity, brand reputation, product features, and customer satisfaction post-purchase. Then, the editorial team personally tests and reviews every product, looking for all the traits that make a product unique and worthy of being featured in our best products lists. Then, we summarize the findings and bring detailed buying guides that are helpful for you. When reviewing a product, our experts pay attention to the material, shape, size, and features with a keen eye and point out potential issues of every product. We also call out what the product feels like based on our reviewers’ personal experiences, which helps us bring you valuable insight. Key Things About Sex Slings The sex sling differs from a sex swing in many ways, and the key one is that a sex sling is more of a BDSM implement, while a sex swing is an implement for acrobatic sex. Jokes aside, the sex sling does not suspend the partner from a ceiling or a door, but it allows for better positioning and keeping their legs spread to the extent you want. It is also important to mention that, unlike sex swings that require installation, you don’t need to install anything to use a sex sling. Most come with adjustable straps and cuffs, allowing you to position your partner’s body and get effortless access to their sweet spots. Here are the key things to note when shopping for a sex sling: Sling type – you can get a positioning sling or a spreader sling, as these are the two main types of sex slings. However, there are variations to these models, so we recommend you look for one that suits your needs and lifestyle. Material – most sex slings are made from leather, woven nylon or vinyl, as these materials are durable, look incredibly sexy, and are easy to maintain. Adjustability – we recommend you look for models that have adjustable straps and cuffs so you can fine-tune the length of the straps and position your partner’s body just right. Comfort – look for a sex sling that features padded sections, especially the places that are in direct contact with your partner’s sensitive body parts. We are talking about padded neck supports, lined cuffs, and wide body straps. The Bottom Line The list above may be short, but we found these to be the best sex slings you can see in our store. We tested each model personally, and we can confirm that using a sex sling can do wonders for spicing up a stale sex life and can bring so much more pleasure to both partners. For more guides and suggestions, we invite you to browse our blog, where we share guides on choosing and using different sex toys and tools. Also, feel free to browse our sex toy store, as we carry an impressive selection of dildos, vibrators, male sex toys, anal sex toys, BDSM tools, sexy lingerie, lubes and essentials, and all else you may need for better sex. Shop All Sex Slings Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More Two Column Layout Learn More With Our Other BDSM Gear Guides: How To Choose a BDSM Collar? How To Choose Women's BDSM Harness? How To Choose Bondage Restraints? How To Choose a BDSM Choker? How To Choose a Sex Bench? How To Choose a Sex Machine? How To Choose Sex Sheets? How To Choose BDSM Chains? How To Choose a BDSM Cane? How To Choose BDSM Lingerie? How To Choose Men's BDSM Harness? How To Choose a Sex Pillow? How To Choose a BDSM Crop? How To Choose a BDSM Whip? How To Choose a BDSM Flogger? How To Choose a BDSM Paddle? How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles? 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Why Do People Like Bondage?

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Why Do People Like Bondage?

by Kate Miller on Jul 18 2025
Do you enjoy getting frisky in the bedroom? Maybe you like to be tied up by your partner and let them have their way with you? Well, you are not alone in this, and you should know that many couples enjoy this activity, known as bondage. Here, we’ll cover the topic of why people enjoy bondage and like being tied up during sexual games. Bondage is a form of sexual play where one partner submits to the other; one of the partners is consensually tied up and submits to sexual pleasure or sexual torture by the other partner. The two lovers have a complete thrust, or they build trust between each other. It is considered even an art form and is a thing that spices the love life of many couples, especially BDSM enthusiasts, as the B in the acronym stands for bondage. Why People Enjoy Bondage? Bondage happens when partners trust each other; one partner uses restrants on the other partner. The entire action increases the intensity of the stimulation and the pleasure they feel and share. It also allows new sensations that can increase over time, and many people have said that they enjoy and love participating in bondage play. Generally, people love bondage because it brings partners closer to each other, and they can explore their desires and fantasies. There is a psychological element to bondage related to letting go of control and allowing their partner to make the decisions. You can also look at it like this: the person works a regular day job and follows orders all day, so they need to feel empowered in their private time; bondage allows them to become the boss who gives the orders. When people tie their partner, they can feel aroused and strong; the submitted or the tied-up partner also feels aroused and enjoys obeying the partner’s orders, which can increase intimacy. Many people have said they’ve tried some kind of bondage, usually involving bondage rope and liked the feeling it brings. Bondage makes people safe in the hands of their lovers and sometimes even keeps them away from the guilt or shame of doing something they secretly like but are ashamed to say or ask. What Can You Use for Bondage? People can use bondage cuffs, scarves, ropes, or different aids when it comes to bondage restraints; sometimes, other kinds of physical restraints are used. Novices to bondage usually buy and use bondage kits that include everything you need to restrain and tease your partner. More experienced pairs can engage in potentially dangerous plays, but we should note that this requires experience and a great deal of trust between the partners. However, the partners should agree on terms and a safe word that is a stop signal when it is too much or when things are on edge and crossing a line. Please note that if you are considering trying bondage, you should start slowly and start using beginner-friendly restraints until you build trust and achieve a level of comfort with your partner. Experienced users can also resort to using specialized bondage sex furniture to make binding a partner more acessible. Final Words There are many benefits from bondage sex; it is easy to do, it can be different, there is role play involved, there are many ways to do it, you can become closer with the partner, you can build your trust, it enhances pleasure, and it is always consensual. You can find more helpful guides in our blog, and browse our sex toy store, where we have an excellent variety of BDSM gear and a lot more. Shop All Bondage Gear Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More Learn More With Our Other BDSM Guides: How to Use a Sex Machine How to Use A Ball Gag How to Punish a Sub How to Use Nipple Clamps How to Self-Bondage How to Use a Sybian
How to Choose a BDSM Mouth Gag

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How to Choose a BDSM Mouth Gag?

by Kate Miller on Jul 18 2025
The mouth gag is the perfect gear to keep your partner quiet while you have your way with them. You can keep them silent with the perfect ball gag, but some models allow you to keep your sub’s mouth open or even filled with a dildo. To help you learn what BDSM ball gag will work best for you, our experts prepared the following guide, where we discuss the different mouth gags and how to choose a BDSM mouth gag. What is a Bondage Mouth Gag? The BDSM mouth gag is a sex toy that has an adjustable strap that goes over the wearer’s head and a silicone or rubber ball gag that fits in the mouth. When fastened in place, the mouth gags prevent speech and muffle moans. It is a commonly used sex aid in BDSM plays, as the mouth gags are very sexy; they create a sense of helplessness and vulnerability for the wearer and allow the dominant partner to exercise more control over their submissive. Shop BDSM Mouth Gags Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Select BDSM Mouth Gags? There are various BDSM mouth gag models, many of which are inventive, creative, and sexy, allowing you to significantly spice up your sexy games. To save you from wondering, we share a guide on mount gag purchasing, and we list the main features you need to look for when buying a mouth gag: Design – there are three basic mouth gag designs, and each of these has its merits and provides a different type of experience. Over-the-mouth gag – this type of mouth gag is placed over the wearer’s mouth, and it can be as simple as a scarf placed over the mouth and tied behind the head. There are also tape gags where bondage tape is placed over the mouth, similar to what they do in the movies. Panel and muzzle gags are other examples of over-the-mouth gags that you can get. In-the-mouth gags – these are the most commonly found and used gags, and the most famous variety is the ball gag. It has a ball that goes into the sub’s mouth, behind the teeth and straps that attach around the wearer’s head. The ball gag is designed not to trigger a gag reflex, and it is effortless to use. The ball gags come with solid or breathable balls, with the latter being the perfect choice for beginners. Another choice for an in-the-mouth gag is the famous dildo gag, a two-in-one model that has a small penis instead of a ball that goes into the wearer’s mouth. It can also protrude and be used for penetrative sex. There are also inflatable penis gags where you can inflate the penis-shaped gag to fill out your sub’s mouth. Some models are even designed to trigger the gag reflex and cause excessive drooling, which some find appealing. Another model is the bit gag, which is often shaped like a bone and is favored by people with animal fetishes. Mouth-opening gag – the third variety is the mouth-opening gag that keeps the sub’s mouth open. The most famous model is the O-ring gag, where a hollow ring is placed behind the wearer’s teeth, and the straps attach to the back of the head. If the ring is large enough, you can also use it for oral sex. There are lip-shaped mouth-opening gags that look exotic. Other models are the ratchet-style or Jennings gag and the spider gag; these are used to keep the sub’s mouth open and control how much it will open. Size - the size of the ball is the most crucial factor you need to know when selecting a ball gag. Ball gags often have letters attached to them to their size, and they range from XS which has about 1.25 inches in diameter, to XL with about 3 inches in diameter. If your partner is a beginner or if you want to hear more of their cries, it's best to use a smaller ball and then up the size as time progresses. Experienced users who wish to enhance their fantasies or use ball gags as torture - the rule is the bigger, the better. It also goes for the size of the o-ring gags and dildo gags, as knowing the size of the insertable part is essential for safe and satisfying use. Material – The next thing to note is the materials from which the mouth gag is made. The most common choice is a silicone or a rubber ball attached to a leather or faux leather strap that can have snap closures, buckle closures, or even Velcro closures. There are also models with elastic straps. We recommend you get a silicone ball gag, as silicone is a durable, body-safe material that is comfortable on the teeth. The open-mouth gags are usually made from a metal or silicone ring that is attached to a strap. Please be mindful when using metal gags, as improper handling can hurt the teeth. Accessories – the last thing you need to consider when choosing a BDSM mouth gag are the provided accessories. Some models come with attached nipple clamps, while others come with a blindfold, a collar, handcuffs, and even entire headgear straps. FAQs Is it dangerous to use a mouth gag? The mouth gag is intended to keep the wearer’s mouth occupied and filled, restricting speech and screaming. Most of the mouth gags are designed to prevent the gag reflex, but there are still some safety concerns. For example, people with asthma and other breathing problems should not use a mouth gag. Also, the dominant partner should keep a close eye on the wearer, and you should never leave a gagged person alone. Can beginners use a BDSM mouth gag or a ball gag? The best beginner-friendly ball gags are the breathable silicone ball gags, as these are less restrictive and allow easy breathing. However, before you introduce a ball gag or any other type of mouth gag to your sex play, you and your partner should discuss this and establish safety signals that will clearly point when it is time to stop. How to clean a ball gag? It is essential to clean a mouth gag, and often, washing them with warm water and antibacterial soap is enough. You can use liquid soap, dish soap, or an antibacterial toy cleaner to wash and disinfect your ball gag. It is trickier to clean the breathable ball gags, as the small holes in the ball need extra diligence when washing, and we recommend you rinse them under running water and use small pipe cleaners to remove any residue and ensure you will have a clean and sterile breathable ball gag. Learn More With Our Other Sex Toy Guides: How To Use a Ball Gag? How To Choose a Sex Pillow? How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles? How To Choose a Dildo Chair? How To Choose a Dildio Mount? How To Choose a Sex Machine? How To Choose a Sex Bench? How To Choose a Portable Sex Machine? How To Choose a Riding Sex Machine?
How to Choose Women’s BDSM Harness

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How to Choose Women’s BDSM Harness?

by Kate Miller on Jul 10 2025
Using a harness can enhance and highlight specific parts of the body and direct attention to the enticing bits of the beautiful female form. It is also perfect for people with a leather fetish and bondage enthusiasts, as the ideal woman’s harness can provoke, excite, and frame the lovely female body. Here, we’ll discuss how you can choose a woman’s bondage harness and how to get the most out of this amazingly sexy accessory. What Is a Women’s Bondage Harness? A bondage women’s harness is an aesthetic item that women wear to showcase the body and bring attention to specific body parts. The harness is made from a series of straps that are strategically placed and arranged over the body, held together with buckles, loops, and snap closures. It can be made from leather, faux leather, neoprene, elastic and other materials. There are various models of BDSM women’s harnesses, like models worn over the chest, models with g-strings, full-body models with lace inserts, and other accessories. Depending on the model, a woman’s bondage harness can be worn as an only item, or it can be combined with different accessories or fetish clothing. Shop BDSM Women's Harnesses Strict Bondage Thigh Harness with Bows - Black Sold out Glow in the Dark Full Body Harness Sold out Gender Fluid Majesty Harness Sold out Female Chest Harness Sold out See More How to Select a BDSM Women’s Harness? Selecting a bondage women’s harness is most definitely an exciting process, but you have to know what to look for, as harnesses differ from women’s sexy lingerie. For example, the harness needs to be easy to put on and take off but still offer support and fit the body perfectly. Our experts prepared the following shopping guide to help you choose the perfect woman’s bondage harness: Design – the design is the first thing you need to consider when choosing a women’s harness. You need to consider the body parts you wish to enhance, like the breasts, the waist, the buttocks, etc. Also, note the additional accessories and attachment points that allow you to attach the harness to a suitable anchor point. Closures – When choosing this item, also note the type of closures the women’s harness has, as it will affect how you put it on and take it off. You can get models with buckles that you can either put on by yourself or have a partner help you. Some models definitely require your partner’s help to put on, especially models with intricate straps and multiple closure buckles or snaps. Size – always choose a model that fits the wearer. You want the harness to fit perfectly, not be too loose or too tight. Don’t try to fit into a bondage harness that is too small, as it will ruin the appearance, and you are risking hurting yourself. Also, if the harness is too loose, it will not have the expected effect, and it will ruin the experience. Material – women’s bondage harnesses are usually made from leather, vegan or faux leather, neoprene, and elastic. However, some models have lace and microfiber elements strategically placed to enhance the look of the harness. Accessories – the women’s harnesses come with various accessories that enhance the look and the overall experience. Some harnesses come as simple elastic bands that lift and bring attention to the breasts, but there are complex models with a collar, handcuffs, thongs, tassels, and even D-rings you can use in various bondage scenarios. We hope our guide on how to select a woman’s bondage harness covers the basics and key features to note when you choose a bondage harness for the lady in your life. We also have a whole collection of guides on how to select and use different BDSM tools and various sex toys. We also invite you to browse our sex toy store, where we carry a fantastic selection of women’s and men’s BDSM harnesses, BDSM tools, sex furniture, whips, canes, ticklers, and a lot more. FAQs Is it safe to wear a women’s bondage harness? The bondage harness is a safe item to wear, but you need to be careful to only put on a well-fitting harness. Another thing to note is that you should never overtighten the straps and buckles and remove the harness if it becomes uncomfortable. Why do women like wearing a leather bondage harness? The women’s bondage harness is a highly aesthetic clothing item that brings focus to specific body parts. The bondage harness does not offer any protection on the body, as it only frames and showcases the bare skin. When used with other bondage equipment, it becomes a sultry, sexy item that enhances the visual appeal of the female form. Learn More With Our Other Sex Toy Guides: How To Choose a BDSM Cane? How To Choose a BDSM Crop? How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles? How To Choose a BDSM Flogger? How To Choose a BDSM Whip? How To Choose a BDSM Paddle? How To Choose BDSM Chains? How To Choose a Sex Bench?
How to Use a Cock Cage

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How to Use a Cock Cage

by Kate Miller on Jul 10 2025
Whether you're hunting for a fun new novelty item or a dedicated practitioner of BDSM pleasures, a cock cage is a great way to enhance your sex plays. As one of the best male sex toys for impulse control and orgasm restrictions, the cock cage is designed to discipline the mind and the body. Many couples use cock cages to form deeper intimacy, gain control over one partner, or as part of their kinky sex sessions. For D/s relationships, this is a great way to induce training sessions and make your sub bend to your will, anticipating when you'll allow him to enjoy the sweet sexual release. Whether you're a dominatrix or someone who enjoys having control in bed, the cock cage is necessary for modern couples who aren't afraid to explore their kinks. Stick around as we explore the different types of cock cages, their benefits, and how to ensure you buy the right size for your man's penis. What Is a Cock Cage? Male cock cages also known as male chastity cages are sex toys designed to enclose the penis to restrict an erection and any type of sexual activity. They are made from various sturdy materials, such as metal or plastic, and usually have an open or partially open design to allow for hygiene and ventilation. Some models also feature urination openings that will enable the man to freely use the bathroom and wear the cock cage for hours or days on end. Cock cages are designed as cage-like structures surrounding the penis with or without involving the testicles. There is usually a lock that secures the cock cage; it stays locked in place and can't be removed unless a key or the right combination is entered. In essence, the cock cage represents a restrictive device that controls when the man can have an erection or reach an orgasm. This sex toy is also called a chastity cage since it puts the man in a position to abstain from sexual desires and pleasures Shop All Cock Cages Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Put on a Cock Cage While putting the cock cage on is relatively easy, you need to be careful how you handle the genitals. Here are a few basic steps to follow whenever you decide to lock your man's penis away for good: Apply Lots of Lube: Lubing up both the penis and the cock cage is the first step of the process. If you're using a metal or plastic cock cage, you can easily pair it with any lube and ensure a smooth fitting. If you're using a silicone cock cage, make sure to opt for a water-based lubricant since silicone-based lubes can deteriorate the surface of the sex toy and cause discomfort or infections if you wear the cock cage for a prolonged time. Put on The Ring: Once you're all lubed up, it's time to slide the O-ring onto the penis. If you've taken the proper measures, the ring should be a good fit and not cause any pain to the wearer. One by one, you can carefully slide in the testicles and ensure the scrotum skin isn't caught in between. The ring should be comfortably sitting at the base of your genitals; however, if that's not the case, remove it immediately, as restricted blood flow to the testicles can cause long-term damage. Cage the Penis: Next, you can put the cock cage over the limp penis and make sure the wearer doesn't start to get an erection. The cock cage should have some wiggle room left, enough to distance from the penis' skin. There shouldn't be any chafing or pinching; that would mean the cage is too tight for the wearer's penis size. You can line up the ring and cage pins if all fits nicely. Close the Lock: If everything falls into the right place, you can put on the lock and close the cock cage. If you're using a cock cage with a padlock, give it a little wiggle to ensure it is securely joined, and you can start the bedroom fun or go on about your day. What is the Appeal of Cock Cages? Cock cages are a popular item in the BDSM community; however, many couples try to incorporate these sex toys into their bedroom fun. For starters, cock cages play perfectly into the idea of D/s relationships, where the dominant partner controls the submissive partner's pleasure. Cock cages are a particular favorite among Dominatrices since they're not only controlling when the man orgasms but also put him in a state of frustration and inability to form or maintain an erection. For the men on the receiving end, the appeal is related to relinquishing control and allowing someone else absolute power over their sexual pleasure. Since they cannot get an erection, they're forced to purposely distract themselves from sexual thoughts and feelings, even when otherwise teased by the Dominant partner. Additionally, the cock cage puts the wearer in a constant state of excitement and anticipation, waiting to see when they'll be allowed out of the cage and to pursue sexual pleasure freely. Usually, the subsequent orgasms are more potent and intensive because of the build-up. Even if you're not part of a D/s relationship, cock cages can be a fun way to enrich your sex life. While most sex toys are focused on women, cock cages allow men to be in the spotlight and put their pleasure (or lack thereof) as a central point during the sex play. How & Why Use a Cock Cage with a Partner As with any other restrictive sex toy, using a cock cage should be based on mutual communication and consent. Both partners should agree beforehand on the type of cock cage they would like to use and the time frame for wearing it and establish clear goals regarding this sex play. There should also be clear rules and boundaries that both partners need to follow, and they need to establish safe words or signs to signal when things get uncomfortable or painful. There are a lot of ways to use cock cages in and outside of your bedroom to deepen your intimacy, establish bigger trust, and experiment with power plays as a couple. Here are a few ways you can use a cock cage for mutual enjoyment: Remove the Distance in Long Distance Relationships Some couples opt for the cock cage to symbolize their devotion in long-distance relationships. The wearer could wear the cock-cage for as long as they're apart or as a form of building sexual tension until they can meet again. Have Fun Teasing Him Whether in a D/s relationship or not, you can easily use a cock cage to discipline your man into directing his erections for your pleasure only. He can put on the cock cage as a part of foreplay, or you can continuously tease him and build up his sexual feelings for their ultimate release inside you. As a form of testing, you can experiment with everything from light touching and kissing up a sensual massage to sensory or temperature play to heighten their desire while keeping the cage on. If your partner is open to wearing a cock cage in public, the fun can continue outside the bedroom. You can tease him over dinner with your words or actions and promise he'll get his freedom back if he makes it through the day or evening. Start The Power Plays Cock cages are a great way to reverse the power dynamics in straight couples and allow the woman to take complete control over her man’s orgasms. You can establish verbal commands or reinforce dominance through different roleplaying scenarios, and the cage-wearing partner will obey them submissively, hoping they result in an orgasm. Depending on the agreed-upon rules, you can also start masturbating in front of him and make him watch. If you want something more extreme and your partner feels capable, you can make him please you orally and see how they struggle to withhold their erection inside the cage. Another option is to tie them up and sit on their face, restricting them from touching you with anything but their lips and tongue. BDSM Play For kinky couples who aren't afraid to experiment, there are several BDSM scenarios they could try. For example, you can restrain your partner to the bed on their stomach or order them to stay in a doggy position. Then, you can use a small dildo or a strap-on for pegging until they beg to come out of the cage and cum all over you. Some D/s couples use cock cages when indulging in humiliation scenarios. For example, the man's penis is to be caged, his neck is collared, and the woman would walk him around and treat him like a dog. In addition, there is room for other sex toys, such as gag balls, nipple clamps, or anal plugs. Another exciting form of BDSM roleplay is punishment, and cock cages are an excellent fit for these scenarios, and are essential for orgasm denial punishments. The function of the sex toy is to punish the wearer for improper behavior or restrict them from playing with their genitals. Spanking and slapping are also a great way to punish the sub, in addition to the cock cage. Choosing The Right Cock Cage If you're considering getting a cock cage, you must be careful about your pick! You want to make sure you get one that's the right size and made of safe materials. There are also different locking mechanisms, colors, and designs, and here we explain the main features you must know when choosing a cock cage: Take Measurements to Find the Right Size You must know how to measure for the right size cock cage - the size of the ring that goes around the base of the penis and scrotum and the length and width of the shaft. Make sure to measure when the penis is flaccid, like just after a warm shower when the penis is at its most accurate size. Also, you must ensure the cage fits tight enough to stop you from getting an erection but is still loose enough to allow blood flow. People have different-sized penises, so you can expect to find cock cages with different measurements and designs. The product box usually carries the sizing information, and you can check out our product descriptions for more information. Choose The Best Material If you're in the market for a cock cage, you have a few options: go for something softer like silicone or something harder like plastic or metal. Silicone cages are easier to clean and maintain - even if the man wears them. They're also more flexible and suitable for beginners who fear getting their bits stuck in a cage. But silicone cock cages don't offer as much restriction as some harder materials, and some men can still orgasm while wearing them. On the other hand, metal cages are restrictive and an excellent toy for BDSM sex plays. They look pretty cool too, but they can be a pain to get off and somewhat dangerous if you need to take them off quickly. It all depends on what you want to use the cock cage for - if you want intense and sexually fused sexcapades, go for hard materials, but if you're just fooling around, softer materials may be better. Different Types of Cock Cages There are many types of cock cages available on the market; cock cage types are usually divided based on their materials and locking mechanisms. These features are the most important when choosing the best cock case for personal use, and they can make or break your experience. Metal cock cages - These are the most aesthetically pleasing and restrictive cages, typically made from stainless steel or other premium metals. They provide a sturdy structure that surrounds the penis and are incredibly strong, permitting them to be worn for extended periods. The penis is completely restrained, so an erection is not an option. You'll usually find metal cock cages with adjustable rings and locks so that the dominant partner can modify the size and ensure it's secure. Plastic Cock Cages - Plastic cock cages are sex toys made from lightweight, hypoallergenic materials like polycarbonate. They have a similar restrictive appeal to metal cages, but the plastic is more comfortable. Plus, they're super easy to clean and can be used for a long time. Leather Cock Cages - If you're into the visual more than the practicality, leather cock cages are a great pick. They usually come with adjustable straps and provide a more sensual experience. People often use them in the fetish community and BDSM world, but you and your partner can spice up your sex life with this kinky sex toy without getting too serious outside the bedroom. Silicone Cock Cages - If you've got sensitive skin, silicone cock cages are the perfect choice! They're softer, more flexible, and hypoallergenic so that they won't irritate your skin. They offer a gentle grip around your penis, and even though they're not super restrictive, they still add an exciting twist to your bedroom fun. Hybrid Cock Cages - The sex industry is looking to give customers a good experience, so lots of companies are mixing different materials to make cock cages that are more comfortable or fit better. For instance, you can get a cock cage with a solid metal frame and a soft silicone lining for added comfort. You can also find cock cage-anal plug combos. Cleaning & Safety Tips Since most cock cages are designed for prolonged use, keeping them clean is paramount to the overall hygiene of your partner's genitals. If the cock cage is worn only during sexual games, it's best to clean it after every use. However, for those wearing the cock cage for multiple days or weeks at a time, we recommend taking it off every few days and giving it a proper cleaning. In any case, it is advisable to take it off before washing rather than trying to clean it while it's still attached to the penis. Since there are no vibrating mechanisms or power segments, you can quickly submerge the cock cage into water and use soap to clean it. Since the skin of the penis is sensitive, you should avoid using hard cleaning solutions or bleach, as it may irritate the wearer. For all the cock cage nooks and crannies that are hard to reach, you can use Q-tips to ensure maximum hygiene. Afterward, you can leave the sex toy to air dry and safely store it in a clean bag. After every use, you should check the cock cage for any damage done while wearing. You can use fine sandpaper on the rough areas and file down any sharp edges. If the damage is too significant, you'd be better off purchasing a new cock cage. Please note that it is NOT recommended you sleep with a cock cage in place. Final Thoughts Although the general public still views the cock cage as a novelty item surrounded by stigma, the truth is more and more men are open to trying this sex toy, and many claims to enjoy it every day. Both men and women can benefit from incorporating a cock cage in their bedroom games, whether as light teasing or BDSM roleplaying. There are multiple designs of cock cages, and they vary in materials, size of ring or cage, colors, locking mechanisms, structural patterns, etc. Finding the right fit can seem complicated; however, the choice becomes much easier when you've taken the proper measurements of your partner's penis. Above all, using a cock cage requires consent from both parties and establishing clear boundaries of what is acceptable during sex play. Remember that the cock cage's primary function is to restrict the man from having an erection; however, it should never feel too tightened, either. Staying safe and using a hygienic cock cage is essential; if you follow those principles, it can be worn for hours, days, or weeks on end and enjoyed in every scenario imaginable! Learn More With Our Other BDSM Guides: How to Choose BDSM Restraints? How to Choose a BDSM Blindfold? 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Best Clit Clamps

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Best Clitoral Clamps for Extra Sensations

by Kate Miller on Jul 10 2025
Using a clit clamp can be really pleasurable and arousing, and this is a kink that many women enjoy. It can also be a form of power play, a way to heighten pleasure, and a way to enhance the overall sexual experience. The best way to do this is, of course, by using a clitoral clamp. We took it upon ourselves to test out several clitoral clamp models in search of the most effective ones. Based on our thorough research and testing, we share our recommendations for the best clit clamps below. Quick Overview of Our Top Picks Best Overall: Master Series Anais Y Style Adjustable Nipple to Clit Vice Best Tweezers Clit Clamp: Clit Clamp with Bell Best Slide-to-fit Clit Clamp: Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp Best Clit/Nipple Clamp Set: Master Series Chain Collar Nipple and Clit Clamp Set Best Pussy Clamp: Adjustable Pussy Clamp with Leash The Best Dildo Deals This Week* Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp — $71.99 (List Price $91.99) Master Series Chain Collar Nipple and Clit Clamp Set — $57.99 (List Price $98.99) Spartacus Y-Style Broad Tip Nipple Clamps and Clit Clamp — $38.99 (List Price $59.99) *Deals are selected by our commerce team Deep Dive: Our Top Picks Master Series Anais Y Style Adjustable Nipple to Clit Vice Best Overall Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 5/5Versatility: 5/5Intensity: 5/5Recommended For: Everyone Why We Picked It We chose the Master Series Anais Y Style Adjustable Nipple to Clit Vice as our top choice because this model features three clamps in total attached to a length of chain. The top clamps are for the nipples, while the third one is for the clitoris. It allows you to connect the most sensitive areas and have your way with your partner while they are clamped. We love the simple, tweezers-style design of the clamps, as they feature thin metal prongs with vinyl-topped tips for added comfort. But the clamps are adjustable, and you can adjust the pressure on the nipples and the clit. But you don’t have to use it on the nipples or clit, as you can get creative with the clamps and add them to the testicles or other sensitive areas. When you are ready, you can tug on the chain that attaches all three clamps to provide more pressure and sensation on the clamped areas. If you are feeling daring, you can even wear the Master Series Anais Y Style Adjustable Nipple to Clit Vice under your sexy lingerie set to tease and visually please your partner. Who It's For We believe that the Master Series Anais Y Style Adjustable Nipple to Clit Vice is suitable for every user, thanks to its adjustable design and vinyl-coated tips, which provide comfort. Reasons to Buy ✓ Nipples and clit clamp ✓ Adjustable tweezers-style design ✓ Weighted metal chain ✓ Effortless cleaning and maintenance Reasons to Avoid ✗ May become loose with movement Specs Dimensions Nipple Chain: 18" Clit Chain: 15.5" Material Metal, Vinyl Sold out See It Now Clit Clamp with Bell Best Tweezers Clit Clamp Our Rating: 4.7/5Quality: 5/5Design: 5/5Versatility: 4/5Intensity: 4/5Recommended For: Everyone Why We Picked It We chose the Clit Clamp with Bell for our list as this model is simple, yet very effective in clamping the clit and restricting blood flow to the area. By adding a clit clamp to the clitoris, you are restricting the blood flow to the area, making it more sensitive to touch and other stimulations. Once the clit is clamped, you can perform oral sex, use a bullet or a finger vibe, or simply engage in other sexual activities. Once you are ready, remove the clit clamp and allow the blood to flow into the area, which will cause heightened sensations for the wearer. The Clit Clamp with Bell makes all of this easy to do, as its simple, tweezers-style design is adjustable, allowing you to adjust the pressure on the clamped clit. The vinyl-coated tips are a fun addition, as is the little bell at the end of the clamp. It will let you hear where your slave is, and it will add an extra layer of whimsy to your playtime. Who It's For The Clit Clamp with Bell is a simple clit clamp that anyone can use; beginners will find it easy to put on and enjoy, while experienced users can find more creative uses for it. Reasons to Buy ✓ Adjustable metal clamp ✓ Tweezers-style design ✓ Vinyl-coated tips ✓ Easy to clean and maintain Reasons to Avoid ✗ It can become loose during wear Specs Dimensions 3" Material Metal, Vinyl Sold out See It Now Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp Best Slide-to-fit Clit Clamp Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 5/5Design: 5/5Versatility: 4/5Intensity: 5/5Recommended For: Experienced Users Why We Picked It We chose the Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp for our list as we found this to be one of the best slide-to-fit pussy clamps we tested. The clamp is made from stainless steel, which is compatible with all lubrication types, and is easy to clean and sterilize. Additionally, the stainless steel material is highly durable, and the clamp won’t twist or damage even if dropped. With proper care, it should last a lifetime. The design of the Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp is exciting, as it allows you to keep the vagina opened and the labia tightened to the level you enjoy the most. Each side of the pussy clamp has adjustable thumbscrews that enable you to fine-tune the pressure on the labia. Once you clamp the Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp on the pussy, you will gain better access to the clitoris and the vagina. The inner ring of the clamp is 3.3 inches. Who It's For We believe that the Stainless Steel Adjustable Pussy Clamp is for experienced users who want to use a pussy clamp that can be adjusted and provide easy access to the clit and vagina. Reasons to Buy ✓ Stainless steel ✓ Adjustable fit ✓ Durable and long-lived ✓ Effortless maintenance Reasons to Avoid ✗ Expensive Specs Dimensions Innermost opening is 3.3" Diameter: 1.115" The side clamps open to 1.25" Material Stainless Steel Sold out See It Now Master Series Chain Collar Nipple and Clit Clamp Set Best Clit/Nipple Clamp Set Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 4/5Design: 5/5Versatility: 5/5Intensity: 5/5Recommended For: Everyone, Experienced Users Why We Picked It We chose the Master Series Chain Collar Nipple and Clit Clamp Set because it caught our attention and provided immense stimulation during our testing. The entire set is made from metal, featuring vinyl-coated tips that offer added comfort. There are four alligator clamps in total, two for the nipples and two for the clit, and all attach to a central O-ring, along with a length of chain that is used as a collar. We love the cool metal’s feel on the skin, and we believe many will find it intriguing as well. To place the clamps on the nipples and clitoris, make sure the wearer is sufficiently aroused and the nipples are peaked and the clitoris is engorged. It will provide better blood flow and create a suitable space for the clamps to attach, thereby reducing the risk. Instead, placing the clamps on an engorged clit or labia will put the wearer in the state between pain and pleasure, which is a feeling many enjoy. Who It's For The Master Series Chain Collar Nipple and Clit Clamp Set is for more adventurous users who want to have their nipples and clit clamped, and enjoy the visual appeal chains bring. Reasons to Buy ✓ 4 clamps are attached to the chain ✓ Vinyl-coated clamp tips ✓ Chain collar ✓ Easy maintenance Reasons to Avoid ✗ No adjustment on the clamps Specs Dimensions Collar Chain: 11" Nipple Chain: 12" Labia Chain: 25" Material Metal, Vinyl Sold out See It Now Adjustable Pussy Clamp with Leash Best Pussy Clamp Our Rating: 4.9/5Quality: 4/5Design: 5/5Versatility: 5/5Intensity: 5/5Recommended For: Experienced Users Why We Picked It We chose the Adjustable Pussy Clamp with Leash, aptly named the Pussy Tugger, for our list because this model is very well-made and full of little surprises. We have to say that our testers did not expect the immense stimulation this pussy clamp model provides, which is why we urge you to use it with caution. The clamp has a slide-to-fit design with adjustable sides that clamp and hold the inner labia squeezed open, with the clit peeking on top. The model features thumbscrews with PVC tips for easy gripping, enabling you to adjust the fit and level of comfort for the wearer. Please note that the woman needs to be warmed up and aroused before putting this clamp on, as it will fit better with some blood circulating in the area. After carefully fitting the Adjustable Pussy Clamp with Leash, it can be gently tugged without causing pain or discomfort. You can even run the clamp under warm or cold water for a few minutes to provide more sensations for the wearer. After you are done using the Adjustable Pussy Clamp with Leash, you can wash it with soap and water and sterilize it with ease. Who It's For The Adjustable Pussy Clamp with Leash is suitable for experienced individuals, as it can be overwhelming for those who are unfamiliar with it. Reasons to Buy ✓ Adjustable thumb screws ✓ Chain with leash ✓ Great for temperature play ✓ Durable materials Reasons to Avoid ✗ Expensive Specs Dimensions Length: Innermost opening is 3" Diameter: 1.1" Width: Each side of the clamp opens to 0.6" Leash Length: 31" including handle Material Iron, Zinc, PU leather, PVC Sold out See It Now Why Trust Our Reviews? HotCherry’s editorial team includes sex experts, including sexologists, sexual health writers, product testers, and researchers. Having an editorial team lets us get a holistic view of the products in each category and choose the best products from top brands. We also have first-hand access to customer reviews on our website and consult with our customer service team to identify potential issues and defects of the products in our lists after long-term use. Our selection method is meticulous: our experts hand-pick the best products to feature in each guide based on customer reviews, popularity, brand reputation, product features, and customer satisfaction post-purchase. Then, the editorial team personally tests and reviews every product, looking for all the traits that make a product unique and worthy of being featured in our best products lists. Then, we summarize the findings and bring detailed buying guides that are helpful for you. When reviewing a product, our experts pay attention to the material, shape, size, and features with a keen eye and point out potential issues of every product. We also call out what the product feels like based on our reviewers’ personal experiences, which helps us bring you valuable insight. Clit Clamp Models Before we discuss the key things to know about clit clamps, we must share a list of the different clit clamp models you can find and use: Tweezers – the tweezers style clit clamps pinch the clitoris from the sides, pushing it slightly outwards. Most of these are adjustable, and we recommend them for beginners. Slide-to-fit – the slide-to-fit clit clamp is a more advanced model that slides over the inner labia, keeping it open and pinching the labia on both sides. These are also adjustable, but we recommend them for more experienced users. Alligator clip – these look like clothespins and you use them to pinch the labia and tighten the skin around the clit and vagina. Nipple & Clit clamps – these are sets that attach nipple and clitoral clamps on suitable chain lengths and allow you to use them on the nipples and clit simultaneously, or use them on other areas on the body. Clit suckers – while these are not actual clamps to use on the clit, the clit suckers, just like the nipple suckers are sex toys that you use to stimulate the erogenous zones and draw blood towards the surface, making the area (like your clit) more sensitive to stimuli. Key Facts about Clitoral Clamps When choosing clit clamps, look for several key factors. Before you buy one, consider being open to using it, as this is not an activity for everyone. If you are decidedly in the camp of having your clit clamped, then you should start with a beginner-friendly clamp and after gaining some experience, you can move to more serious and even vicious models. Here we outline what other essential things you need to know when choosing a clit clamp model to try: Design – choose a clit clamp design based on your experience level and preferences. We must note that the different models bring differing sensations and degrees of pleasure. Adjustability – we recommend looking for clit clamps that allow for adjustability so that you can tighten or loosen the fit over your most sensitive area. Material – look for clit clamps made from stainless steel that is long-lived, easy to sterilize and will last you a lifetime. Extra features – look for models with additional features if this is something that appeals to you. You can find complete nipple and clit clamp sets, sets with collars, clit clamps with a leash, modes with a little bell or a weight, or modes with an additional feature. Final Words Above, we shared our selections for the best clit clamps available in our store. You can browse our blog for more educational and helpful content on choosing and using different sex toys. Plus, check out our sex toy store, as we carry a massive selection of BDSM tools, dildos, vibrators, anal toys, male toys, sexy lingerie, and all else you will need for a more fulfilling sex life. 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How to Choose Men’s BDSM Harness

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How to Choose Men’s BDSM Harness?

by Kate Miller on Jul 07 2025
It may seem like the ladies have more options when it comes to fetish clothing, but this is not true, as the gents have plenty of unique, sexy, and beautiful options, one of these being the bondage harness. Just as the name suggests, the bondage harness is worn by men as a fashion accessory and as a part of various bondage and BDSM activities. Here, our experts discuss the particulars of how to choose men’s chest harnesses. What Is a Bondage Male Harness? The bondage chest harness is an item of fetish clothing that originated as a part of bondage equipment but was adopted by the gay community and is now a proud symbol that gay people find alluring. It is a harness made from a series of leather or faux leather straps that have multiple buckles or snap closures and close over the chest. The chest harness can also have longer straps that go over the entire body and include other accessories that the wearer may find appealing. One can wear a chest harness on their bare body to enhance the male form; it can be worn as an underwear garment, or in combination with a jock strap or even briefs. However, you can also wear a chest harness over the clothes as a statement piece and wear it over a button-down shirt or a simple t-shirt. Shop Male Bondage Chest Harnesses Glow In The Dark Chest Bulldog Harness Sold out Strict Leather Body Harness Sold out Shots Uomo Chest Bulldog Harness Sold out Shots Ouch Men's Large Buckle Harness Sold out See More How to Select a BDSM Men’s Chest Harness? The male harness is an item that has an aesthetic as well as a useful role. It is worn for comfort and support, so the harness needs to be easy to put on and take off. Read on as we discuss all the particulars you need to know when selecting a bondage men’s harness, as our experts have made a simple, comprehensible guide to help you: Design – the design of the male harness is the primary thing you need to look at. Because most male harnesses feature a series of straps connected, you need to select the design that appeals to you the most. Of course, the design you choose will also play a role in how you can use it and whether you want to wear it as a simple fashion statement piece or if you wish to include it in various bondage scenarios. Size – the size of the bondage harness is also an essential factor, especially if the wearer is bulked up or has a broad chest. The harness must be well-fitting around the shoulders and the chest, and you don’t want to get a model that is too tight and restrictive or a model that is too loose and will not stay in place. It is particularly important if you are going to use the harness in a bondage scenario and attach it to another bondage item. Material – when it comes to material, you can select bondage harnesses made from leather, vegan or faux leather, or neoprene. The leather models are very durable and look and feel amazing. These usually have metal buckles or snap closures and are also perfect for people with a leather fetish. Accessories – the male chest harnesses can also come with various accessories that enhance the look and allow more playing options. For example, there are models with metal rings that provide support and enable multiple attachment points. Some models may even have chains that you can use to restrict the wearer’s movements and even highlight the chest. But when we speak about accessories, we must also note that there are male chest harnesses that double as full-body harnesses that have a cock ring attached to them, models with a jock strap, models with a choker, models with ornate features, etc. FAQs Is it safe to wear a bondage chest harness? It is very safe for a man to wear a chest harness, and this is often worn accessory by people in the gay community and people with a leather fetish. However, there are some safety precautions to note when wearing a chest harness, as you should never tighten the harness straps to bite into the skin. Also, you need to be careful if you attach other accessories to the bondage harness and make sure nothing is pinching the skin. Why do people like wearing BDSM harnesses? The bondage harness evolved from leather biker wear that became popular at the end of WWII. It was in the 1970s that the gay communities in major cities around the world started using the leather chest harness as a symbol of submissive behavior. From its humble beginnings, the chest harness is now a staple worn by gay men to symbolize their confidence, their sexual preferences, and identity. Learn More With Our Other Sex Toy Guides: How To Choose a BDSM Cane? How To Choose a BDSM Crop? How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles? How To Choose a BDSM Flogger? How To Choose a BDSM Whip? How To Choose a BDSM Paddle? How To Choose a Sex Bench? How To Choose BDSM Chains?
How to Choose Bondage Restraints

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How to Choose Bondage Restraints?

by Kate Miller on Jul 03 2025
Bondage is often practiced by couples who wish to affirm their relationship, explore new sex games and sexual fantasies, or introduce new sexual activities. Of course, you can use all sorts of restraints to physically restrain your partner, and the different restraints provide different sensations. Here, our experts will discuss different bondage implements and how to choose bondage restraints, and we hope you’ll find our guide valuable.is What are Bondage Restraints? Bondage restraints are the restraints people use for sexual bondage. It is a group of various bondage implements like rope, cuffs, bondage tape, chains, spreader bars, bed restraints, and entire bondage kits. Bondage play is favored by many, as people find it sexually liberating and satisfying to be bound. In contrast, their active partners find it arousing and enjoy unobstructed access to their partner’s body. We’ll not go into the psychological effect of bondage, but we’ll take a much closer look at how you can select various bondage restraints and share some examples of how you can use these. Shop BDSM Restraints Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More How to Select BDSM Restraints? Before we continue talking about choosing bondage restraints, we need to share the most important questions you and your partner need to answer, as the answers will help you find the perfect bondage restraints for you: What do you want to restrain? First, you need to consider what you wish to restrain, like the hands, the ankles, the legs, or other body parts. Do you want your partner to move or be completely immobile? The primary restraints are the wrist and ankle cuffs that you can use to restrain your partner and attach the cuffs to various attachment points. What material works best for you? The material the bondage restraints are made from is vital for overall satisfaction and possible use. Hemp or jute bondage ropes are suitable for experienced bondage practitioners; many enjoy the look and feel of leather bindings as they satisfy different fetishes. You can also use synthetic bondage restraints, metal restraints, and faux leather models. Where will you use the restraints? The environment in which you wish to use the bondage restraints will also influence your selection. If you want to use these in your bedroom, you can use all sorts of rope or hand and ankle cuffs or use a complete bed restraint set. However, if you like to use these for heavy-duty bondage, you wish to equip a bondage dungeon, or use them for suspension bondage, you’ll need heavy-duty bondage restraints. Synthetic materials work best for bondage in a water environment. What do you want to combine the restraints with? You can combine the bondage restraints with different sex toys and various activities. But to do this, you’ll need to choose the correct restraints. For example, if you want to have penetrative sex with your bound partner, you need to consider restraints that allow suitable access; if you’re going to change their position, you need more flexible restrains; if you wish to use sex toys, you’ll need to consider the position, etc. Are there some safety issues to know? You need to know that some restraints come with safety issues, and you need to be careful when you use them. One example is the metal handcuffs, as these can be pretty dangerous. Scarves also seem safe, but you need to be careful when you tie them so as not to restrict blood circulation. We advise you to never leave your bound partner alone and always have means to quickly let your partner out of the restraints, like having paramedic scissors within reach when rope plays. After you and your partner answer these five questions, you can continue with selecting bondage restraints. Below we share some of our guides on how to select different bondage restraints: How to Choose Bed Restraints? When selecting bed restraints, you need to consider the design, the adjustability of the straps, the material, the cuff size and their design, and the available accessories. We have a complete guide on how to select bed restraints, and we explain it in great detail. How to Choose Hand & Ankle Cuffs? The hand and ankle cuffs are some of the most famous bondage restraints people use. When selecting bondage cuffs, you need to pay attention to the material, their size, the aesthetics, the attachment points, and the special features they come with. Learn more in our guide on how to choose BDSM hand and ankle cuffs. How to Choose Bondage Chains? The bondage chains provide a dose of kink as they look and feel sexy when you apply them to your partner. When selecting bondage chains, you need to consider the material, the length of the chain, and the included accessories like attachment points, collars, clamps, and more. Read more on this in our guide on how to choose bondage chains. How to Choose Spreader Bars? The spreader bar is a popular bondage implement, as it allows you to bind your partner’s legs in a spread position. But it also allows so much more, and you need to consider the design, its adjustability, the accessories, and its intended use. Please read more on how to choose a spreader bar. How to Choose Bondage Ropes? The rope is among the most famous bondage equipment, as it allows you so many playing options. When you select bondage rope, you need to consider the material the rope is made from, the length, the diameter, and the rope construction type. For more detailed information, please check out our guide on how to choose bondage ropes. We hope our discussion on choosing bondage restraints is helpful, and we hope our experts covered the basics. In addition, we have a lot of how-to choose and how-to-use guides on different BDSM tools and sex toys. We invite you to browse our excellent sex toy store, where we carry a fantastic selection of BDSM equipment, bondage bed restraints, bondage chains, spreader bars, sex furniture, whips, canes, ticklers, and much more. FAQs Can we safely use bondage restraints? The bondage restraints are safe to use, but you need to be careful and use them with reason. To be safe, make sure you don’t overtighten the restraints, even if you are using Velcro cuffs. Never leave your partner alone when they are restrained. If you need to step out of the room, release your partner from the restraints, and you can bind them again when you return. Also, make sure you have paramedic-style scissors to cut ropes quickly if issues apply. What sex toys can we combine with bondage restraints? BDSM plays can involve a lot of different aspects, and combining sex toys and bondage is a typical play many engage in. When doing bondage, you can have penetrative sex with your partner, but you can also use various sex toys like, vibrators, dildos, anal toys, nipple and clit clamps, and different impact toys like a paddle, a tickler, or a flogger. Learn More With Our Other Sex Toy Guides: How To Choose a BDSM Cane? How To Choose a BDSM Crop? How To Choose a BDSM Pinwheel? How To Choose Wax Play Candles? How To Choose a BDSM Flogger? How To Choose a BDSM Whip? How To Choose a BDSM Paddle? How To Choose BDSM Chains? How To Choose Sex Sheets? How To Choose a Sex Pillow? How To Choose a Sex Machine? How To Choose a Sex Bench?
Bondage for Beginners: Guide to Get Started with Bondage

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Bondage for Beginners: Guide to Get Started with Bondage

by Kate Miller on Jun 22 2025
More and more people are embracing their kinks, and the top one seems to be bondage. Wondering how to start with bondage and only reap the benefits and not get overwhelmed by the risks? Well, you are at the right place, as we have prepared an expert-supported guide to bondage here. In the following lines, we’ll discuss the basics of getting started with bondage, how to discuss it with a partner, and how to safely restrain someone. What Is Bondage? Bondage, a part of the BDSM subculture, is any practice that involves consensual restraining, binding, or tying a partner for erotic, sensory, or aesthetic purposes. You can restrain someone with rope, cuffs, chains, bondage tape, or another DIY restraint. Bondage can be done for pleasure, where the restrained partner submits to the dominant partner, leaving their body exposed to the will of the dominant partner. We refer you to our guide on why people like bondage, where we further explore this topic, and below, we’ll continue with our bondage for beginners guide. Shop All Bondage Tools Sold out Sold out Sold out Sold out See More Types of Bondage Bondage is an umbrella term that covers so many different aspects, and here we’ll outline some of these. Please note that there are plenty other bondage options than the ones we’ve listed here: Rope bondage Handcuffs Leather restraints Fabric restraints Plastic restraints Mental/verbal bondage Suspension Mouth bondage Hair bondage DIY bondage Note that you can also combine these and more, like mouth bondage with a ball gag and handcuffs, for example. However, we remind you that you should always practice this safely, take care of the bound partner, and keep track of their movements and actions to make sure they are not in pain or severe discomfort. Bondage: How to Start with It Now, let’s get to the good part: how to start with bondage. You may be tempted to just jump right in it, but we have to emphasize the importance of personal safety, as you can really harm yourself or your partner if you don’t know what you are doing. So, here is how to get started, and the first thing is to discuss bondage with your partner.     Introduce the Idea of Bondage to Your Partner You won’t know if your partner is up to doing something if you don’t ask them, so the first thing to do is bring up that you would be interested in playing with bondage. Who knows, maybe your partner has already considered this but has been shy in voicing their ideas. Here are some key things to know when discussing bondage with your partner: Explain your ideas – sit down with your partner and bring up your fantasy of trying bondage. Bondage is a very common fantasy, so you can safely assume that your partner may be open to it. However, time it ideally, and don’t talk about this before or after sex, as some may consider this as pressure. Instead, find a private moment when you are both relaxed and bring it up. Don’t judge or criticize, but be transparent and open about the things you are willing to try. Also, ask them for their ideas, wants, and sexual fantasies. Outline the positive aspects – explain to your partner why you would be open to trying bondage. Maybe mention that it would be fun to explore things together and go deeper into your relationship. Clearly outline that it is not a critique of your current sex life but that it is a deepening of the trust and that it can change and improve things between you. Outline yours and their role – explain what their role would be and how you would like to go about it. Some people are comfortable being tied up, while others have issues with it. Make sure you clearly discuss this with your partner and respect their limits. Talk and maybe make a checklist – talk with your partner and try to answer any questions they may have. Alternatively, both of you can browse online together for inspiration and beginner-friendly bondage advice. If your partner is reluctant, then let them think things over and revisit the idea at a later date. If your partner is open to the idea, then we suggest you use a BDSM checklist where you can fill out the things you are both comfortable with and what you would be willing to explore. Bondage Risks & Safety You may try to rush into things and not be aware of the risks of bondage. However, this is a serious thing that you should consider with great attention, as the risks can be dangerous. The first thing we should explain is that bondage causes bruises and abrasions, and this can’t be avoided. It is another thing to outline with your partner, as you both should be aware of the possible discomfort. Apart from this, here are a few other risks associated with bondage: Pressure on organs Reduced blood circulation Nerve damage Fainting Falling Almost all of these are avoidable, but you need to follow the safety protocols for bondage. This means that you should only use adequate restraints, not over-tighten them, and avoid placing restraints on sensitive body parts. Also, never leave a bound partner alone, closely monitor their actions, and use and respect safe words. When we discuss safety, we must note that you should avoid using everyday items for bondage, as many of these, while being sexy or intriguing, can cause severe issues. Avoid using pantyhose for bondage, as these are stretchy and any knots from these can contract when stretched, which can cause harm. Scarves or belts may not have the appropriate length and width for bondage and can press uncomfortably on the bound parts of the body. As a rule of thumb, don’t use thin restraints, like ropes that are less than half an inch in diameter. To be on the safe side, use wide restraints, like neoprene or leather bondage cuffs, that are wide and evenly distribute the pressure. As beginners, consider cuffs with Velcro closure, and more experienced users can use buckles and even padlocks. An important safety feature is to have scissors handy for quickly getting the restraints from the bound partner if necessary. You never know what could happen, so having a quick way out is paramount. Discuss the safety with your partner, and always practice Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) bondage. Please don’t drink alcohol or take drugs before you partake in bondage, as it may impair your judgment, which can lead to adverse consequences.     Start with Bondage Don’t start with the heavy bondage stuff immediately. Instead, always start slowly and easily so you and your partner can become comfortable in your new roles and get the much-needed experience. For starters, we suggest you experiment with verbal bondage and then continue with Velcro straps or an easily breakable thread that is non-intimidating. Try each restraint individually at first before you go and combine these. After you both get in the groove of things, you can continue with more substantial bondage. Here are some excellent ideas for beginners in bondage: Verbal bondage – this is perhaps the best beginner bondage idea as it does not involve physical restraints. Instead, one partner instructs the other partner to remain in place or hold a particular pose. Great for training, verbal bondage can be fun to try, and the consequences can be pretty thrilling for both partners. Holding in place – if you are not ready for physical restraints, then keeping your partner’s body in place is a great way to try things out. Similar to verbal bondage, holding your partner in place can be fun and exciting for both. Blindfolding – yes, using a blindfold is a type of bondage that is great for beginners. Because the blindfold restricts sight, it heightens the other senses and makes for more exciting and engaging playtime. For many couples, just using a blindfold in the bedroom is an excellent way to change things up and experience new things. Mouth gag – using a mouth gag is a form of bondage, and just like the blindfold, the mouth gag restricts a sense and removes the sub’s ability to speak. You can try a bit of a breathable ball gag if you and your partner are beginners, as these are more comfortable and easier to breathe with. Hands behind the back – this is a classic for a reason. The dominant partner binds the hands of the submissive partner behind their back, which leaves the chest, stomach, and genitals free for teasing. It can be a significant induction in bondage, as you can position them on their knees and have them perform oral sex on you. Spread eagle – this is another classic pose where the arms and legs are spread and tied, so there is minimal movement. This position is perfect for teasing your partner, spanking or flogging, and performing oral, vaginal, or anal sex. For this pose, we recommend you use under-bed restraints that are easy to install and can be discretely stored when you don’t use them. Wrists to ankles – a classic pose for experienced practitioners, binding the wrists to the ankles leaves the partner exposed and open for teasing and pleasing. You can use a spreader bar if you want to invest in one, or you can use hand and ankle cuffs and link them together. A variation of this pose is to secure the wrists to the thighs for a similar effect. Use a chair – using a chair for light bondage is very simple to do, at the same being highly effective. You can have your partner lean over the chair, and you can tie their limbs to the chair’s legs, and you get an instant spanking bench. Another way to use a chair is to restrain your partner’s ankles to the front legs of the chair and bind their wrists behind the back of the chair, leaving their front exposed to all you want to do to them. Leapfrog pose – this is a variation of the famous doggy style pose, which is the No. 1 sex pose for Americans. For this pose, you need to bind the wrists to the ankles, either from the inside or outside of their thighs, and have them positioned with their head on the bed, leaving their ass in the air. It leaves the genitals fully exposed for your attention and Hogtie – the submissive partner should lie on their front and pull their hands and legs backward, and the dominant partner can tie the ankles and wrists together in hogtie. You can either use hogtie cuffs or rope for this, and you’ll get access to many sensitive parts of the sub’s body. However, this is a more advanced position, which is why we added it last on our list with suggestions. Bondage Aftercare We have a complete guide on BDSM aftercare, which we urge you to check out, but for now, we’ll list the key things to know about aftercare necessary after you partake in bondage. Even if you are just starting with bondage, you must know how to take care of your partner. Hydration – the bound partner may lose a lot of fluids during playtime, so ensure they get proper hydration, such as cold water or a sports drink with electrolytes. Treating injuries – as we noted above, bruises are a constant companion to bondage play, so make sure you treat these properly. It includes cold compresses for a few days until the bruises fade. Rope burn and broken skin – if the skin gets broken or there is rope burn, then the key thing is disinfecting the skin with cold water, antibiotic cream, and light bandages if necessary. Muscle and joint pain – if the partner has been bound in an uncomfortable position, they may experience muscle or joint pain. Still, a lengthy rest and a cold shower are usually a good thing to relax the muscles and take care of any pain. If there is a more severe symptom or the partner faints, then remove the restraints, help them get seated, and wait a moment for their blood pressure to normalize. If, after a few moments, they return to normal, provide basic aftercare, but if the symptoms persist, then seek immediate medical attention. The Bottom Line Bondage should be fun and engaging, pleasurable and sexually satisfying. As beginners, you may not immediately know what you like and what you dislike, but if you follow our advice above, you and your partner can get into light bondage and slowly and surely discover what works for you. Remember that you should both enjoy it, stay safe, and don’t be afraid to voice your desires. 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