Try dirty talk
Talking dirty can be a major turn-on for many folks; who doesn't love a bit of naughty banter? The brain is dubbed as the largest erogenous zone. Next time you feel up for it, don't forget to show your brain some love and engage it in your play.
Before Going Down
Going down on a woman is not that hard; you just need to pay attention to a few details:
You need to make her feel Comfortable and Secure
Most women can't get off if they are not comfortable enough. Many women find it challenging to let a man go down on them and explore their most private parts. Your job as the pleasure provider is to help your partner relax and forget the worries and fuss of everyday life. So, to be successful and make your partner feel more comfortable, start by stimulating her body.
Setting the right mood is paramount for women to shift their minds to their desires. First, turn on some soft music to help her feel calm. Start by whispering comforting words, kiss her lips, and slowly go down to her neck and nipples before anchoring between her thighs.
Women generally need much more time than men to reach that higher state of arousal. While a man might be able to have an orgasm seconds after doing down on him, most women need at least 20 minutes to reach the big O.
Try some soft teasing
Teasing is where the power of orgasms comes from. Women need time and foreplay to release their sexual energy. You aim to make the biggest, most dramatic release when your partner finally lustfully explodes.
First, you need to determine your partner's pleasure triggers. They might go off on reading steamy erotic stories, sexting, watching some porn, or even some specific smell or music. Some women have what is known as "responsive desire." This means that they may not feel desire until something triggers it, or in simple terms, they need sexual activity to raise their desire. It's like a car that needs a jumpstart before it can start moving. For most, masturbation is the go-to trigger for making them horny. It may sound strange, but the act of self-stimulation can make them aroused.
If you are wondering what your partner's triggers are, just think about all the past sexcapades and what worked to make them wet.
Try dirty talk
Talking dirty can be a major turn-on for many folks; who doesn't love a bit of naughty banter? The brain is dubbed as the largest erogenous zone. Next time you feel up for it, don't forget to show your brain some love and engage it in your play.
Dirty talk is a turn-on and a great way to discover your partner's sexual desires, fetishes, and fantasies. Dirty talk not only gets you revved up, it's an awesome weapon to have in your sexual arsenal. It's like a secret window into their erotic mind; your imagination is the only thing holding you back.
Let your partner know what phrases make you feel like a cold fish and which ones make you feel like a hot tamale. Choose your words wisely, or you might end up with a case of giggles instead of the desired effect. Avoid awkwardness and have a pre-date chat with your partner to ensure a smooth and enjoyable experience.
Pussy Eating Techniques 101
Blowing can be a great way to build up sexual tension and create sexual energy. This subtle sensation is a great way to create arousal during foreplay or teasing. It will draw her attention and tickle her to a state of hypersensitivity. Blowing will help you set the stage for other pussy eating techniques that will eventually bring her over the edge to a toe-curling orgasm.
After a few moments of blowing, you'll want to include tongue action across all her sensitive areas. At first, use some light motions to tease her and continue to build up her sex drive. Be unpredictable and keep her guessing where and how you will lick her next. As you feel her sexual energy rise, start licking her out using varied motions. From soft and slow to hard and fast, up and down, and most importantly, on her clit.
Giving your woman coochie some smooches is a great way to show that you care about her and that you like that you are going down on her. Kiss her pussy's lips softly, then mix in some of the other methods and add intensity. Spread her legs, use your tongue to separate her lips, and lick her.
Sucking is a technique that most women love! As her arousal rises, you can start using your mouth to stimulate her clit and the rest of her vagina while increasing the intensity of your sucking. Remember to diversify the steps – suck, kiss, lick, and blow her before moving on.
One of the most powerful oral sex techniques you can use is motorboating. This technique is a fan favorite among a lot of women. If you haven't tried it yet, the steps are simple, rest your lips surrounding her pussy (over her clit and vagina opening) so they are lightly touching her, and blow out so your lips vibrate, bringing pleasure shockwaves that can trigger a mind-blowing orgasm. Alter the speed and frequency of the vibrations by blowing harder or holding your lips tighter to her skin.
Similarly to motorboating, you can try the humming technique, just instead of moving your lips, you need to press your lips against her vagina and hum. This technique will send extremely pleasurable vibrations directly to her pussy.
Edging is when you bring your partner close to the Big O and suddenly back off, leaving them yearning to climax. This technique gives you total control, leading to intense orgasms once you let your partner finish.
Pro-tip: Mix it up between these techniques and keep her guessing. When you notice your partner is close to finishing, stick to whatever you're doing to make them reach an orgasm.